I am pissed. I found out that DD's father locked her and his son in the bathroom of his apartment during his last visit. They were being difficult, and he got sick of it, so he locked them in there with Candyland to play with so he and his (now ex) girlfriend could have some alone time. Who the fuck does that? I had her write down everything that happened as she remembered it (she is almost 11). She started crying and saying she doesn't want Daddy to be in trouble. I tried to reassure her the best I could, but he really SHOULD be in trouble. Also, he asked her not to tell anyone and now she says she feels like she has betrayed his trust. Ugh. I have a friend coming over who is a CASA volunteer (children's advocate who works with the court system) to talk to both of us. I think she will be able to explain to DD that she wasn't getting Daddy in trouble by telling (IMO he got himself in trouble by doing this) and she can advise me on what to do. I need to calm down so I don't call him up and bitch him out before I talk to my friend. I also want to remain calm when I call him because he is scary when he gets defensive/pissed off and gets very verbally abusive with me. I really don't want to deal with more drama from him than is necessary. But I know I have to address this with him so that he realizes that what he did was unacceptable and that I will not let him do anything like that again. Has anyone got any advice or maybe some words to help me calm down and deal with this as rationally as possible?
EDIT: Some of you women astound me. If I posted "Hey, I locked my two kids in the bathroom so I could fuck my boyfriend" you people would be calling it abuse and saying CPS should be called. But I say her father did it and I am going to talk to a friend who is an expert in child neglect/abuse about it and I am overreacting? Also, I forgot to add in the OP that she called out she was hungry while she was in there and he told her she had to wait, because he wasn't done with his alone time with his gf.