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Would u stay married if he cheated and now all the money goes 2 his kid?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

My husband had an affair and I didn't seek a divorce when I found out. I learned this when the other woman was pregnant.he said she was not going to file for child support. She did.so now out of 3500, a big part goes to his child.he pays about 700. This will go on for another 17 years and now I'm questioning if I want to stay married. It seems that he has seen the child and spent time with them despsite my request not to see him or them.

what do you ladies think?

shall I file for divorce?

we don't have kids so I don't know if I am getting anything out of this?

edit

Im on cafe mom because I was married and had a daughter and my husband and dd died in a car accident.

then I married the man in qquestion also, it is not so much about the child support payments but the fact that he still sees her

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:26 PM
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MsSpice
by Gold Member on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:40 PM

This.  Let her have him.  He'll probably do the same thing to her.

Quoting Jade89:

I would've left after he cheated

And the kid would have sealed the deal on it


RaLALA
by Bronze Member on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:40 PM
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Maybe if you can get past the hurt and jealousy that she so easily had your husbands baby..you could possibly see the baby as a blessing? Have your husband get 50/50 and love the baby. Its innocent in all this.
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TexTornado
by Platinum Member on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:41 PM

You didn't think of divorce when he cheated & had a love-child, but you thought of divorce when he gets $700 a month taken out of his check for child support? 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:41 PM
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I would have left the moment I found out she was pregnant.

Also it is NOT okay for you to ask him to stay away from his kid. That right there shows me you really might want to move on

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:41 PM
You have no kids, so you are on cafeMOM why?
littlesippycup
by Ruby Member on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:41 PM
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Get a divorce now before you're stuck in the same boat she is. A baby by a loser. Run. Pack your bags now.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:42 PM
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i would....divorce. Sorry but that's just not a situation I would want to sign up for for the rest of my life. Life is too short to live with someone else's mistake like that. 

meka26
by Gold Member on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:42 PM
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I know you don't like that he cheated, but telling him not to have any contact with his child is crazy. He should pay child support and have a relationship with his child. His child deserves to have his father be a part of his life. He did not ask to be born into this mess. If the cheating and the child is too much for you then leave, but don't punish an innocent child.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:43 PM


Quoting Anonymous:

You have no kids, so you are on cafeMOM why?

I have been n the depression grou since my child passed

RaLALA
by Bronze Member on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:43 PM
Her daughter passed away.


Quoting Anonymous:

You have no kids, so you are on cafeMOM why?

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