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God Cant Give You More Than You Can Handle?

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This is a conversation i just had with my cousin whose mom was killed last night. 

Me and her were talking cuz she also lost her uncle 1 month and 1 day ago.  And a few years ago she lost ehr brother to suicide. 


So as we were talking she tells me  "god wouldnt give you anymore than you can handle". and this is my response

me: i would agree with that but i cant

her: ?

me: if you think about life. if people could handle what was given to them, why do some commit suicide? Why do some of them turn to drugs? Alcohol? Now not everyone turns to this stuff when faced with hard times, but there are alot that do and they dont come back. does that make sense?

her: Yeah I can understand where your coming from

me: there are people who can handle it but then there are people who cant. If people do take the time to stop and think about what they are going through and sit down and breathe then maybe yes. but not everyone can do that. Also there are those people who are going through so much and people do say "god wouldnt give you anymore than you can handle" but im reality yes he would. trial and tribulation. its his way of seeing what you can and cant handle and if you are strong enough to "come back" from it so to speak. And when someone is going through alot, really the last thing they probably want to hear is "god wouldnt give you anymore than you can handle", and i say this because (and i am not a christian but i do believe in higher powers, no one knows what they are thinking or what they have planned for someone in this life or the next life. does that make sense?

her: Yeah I see what your saying

me: i think you are the first one who does.  lol

her: Lol. Really?

me: yea really

her: Oh wow

me: im friends with alot of Christians(and i have no problem with the christian religion mind you) but alot of christians dont want to see anything from a different point of view. Not all christians are like that but alot that i have come across are

her: yeah i know what you meanl 

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 25, 2012 at 9:04 PM
Replies (61-70):
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 25, 2012 at 10:21 PM

you are sweetcheeks.  cuz we were not talking about her.  we were talking in GENERAL.  but see you jump to the assumption you knew what was said before that phrase was said.  thats ignorance my dear.   i know exactly how she feels as i have been exactly where she is.  

and again it was the statement in general  ;)

feel free to stay in your ignorance

Quoting Anonymous:

i'm far from ignorant honey

but who are you to discount how your cousin feels....

if she said god won't give her more than she can handle who are you to tell her that is wrong


Quoting Anonymous:

actually no my cousin died cuz he didnt get the help he needed when he needed it in the first place. even my cousin has said that and said that to her mother. 

Do not assume to know what it is i am saying. He couldnt handle what was being thrown at him, cuz he didnt have anyone there for him when he needed it. he felt alone. 

she is dealing with her. she has even stated her mother is better off, cuz she is not around to hurt herself or anyone else.   but hey like with another one, ignorance is apart of life. one most people grow out of. i hope you grow out of it. 

Quoting Anonymous:

based on your cousins responses it sounds like she just didn't want to engage in this conversation with you....



hoe do u have this conversation with someone the night of her mothers death when she is trying her best to deal with it.



you basically said her brother died because he couldnt handle life...



you sound like a bitch to me




Anonymous
by Anonymous 13 on Nov. 25, 2012 at 10:23 PM
They can handle it, they choose not to and turn to drugs, alcohol, suicide, etc. because those are the easy ways out - easier than sucking it up and dealing with the problem head-on. So it's not God's failing but a failing of their own character and will that is the problem.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 11 on Nov. 25, 2012 at 10:24 PM
people like you are the reason I can't stop calling people RETARDED no matter how wrong it is






have a nice evening


Quoting Anonymous:

you are sweetcheeks.  cuz we were not talking about her.  we were talking in GENERAL.  but see you jump to the assumption you knew what was said before that phrase was said.  thats ignorance my dear.   i know exactly how she feels as i have been exactly where she is.  

and again it was the statement in general  ;)

feel free to stay in your ignorance

Quoting Anonymous:

i'm far from ignorant honey



but who are you to discount how your cousin feels....



if she said god won't give her more than she can handle who are you to tell her that is wrong





Quoting Anonymous:

actually no my cousin died cuz he didnt get the help he needed when he needed it in the first place. even my cousin has said that and said that to her mother. 

Do not assume to know what it is i am saying. He couldnt handle what was being thrown at him, cuz he didnt have anyone there for him when he needed it. he felt alone. 

she is dealing with her. she has even stated her mother is better off, cuz she is not around to hurt herself or anyone else.   but hey like with another one, ignorance is apart of life. one most people grow out of. i hope you grow out of it. 

Quoting Anonymous:

based on your cousins responses it sounds like she just didn't want to engage in this conversation with you....





hoe do u have this conversation with someone the night of her mothers death when she is trying her best to deal with it.





you basically said her brother died because he couldnt handle life...





you sound like a bitch to me






Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 25, 2012 at 10:24 PM

you do not know this.  just as i dont know what someone else can and cannot handle. you think suicide is the easy way out?  you dont even have a clue about it. 

Quoting Anonymous:

They can handle it, they choose not to and turn to drugs, alcohol, suicide, etc. because those are the easy ways out - easier than sucking it up and dealing with the problem head-on. So it's not God's failing but a failing of their own character and will that is the problem.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 25, 2012 at 10:26 PM

well with a childish attitude i can see why,   when you grow up and want to have an intelligent convo this post will be here. And i love how you resort to name calling when you have nothing else to say.  lol


have an AWESOME night

Quoting Anonymous:

people like you are the reason I can't stop calling people RETARDED no matter how wrong it is






have a nice evening


Quoting Anonymous:

you are sweetcheeks.  cuz we were not talking about her.  we were talking in GENERAL.  but see you jump to the assumption you knew what was said before that phrase was said.  thats ignorance my dear.   i know exactly how she feels as i have been exactly where she is.  

and again it was the statement in general  ;)

feel free to stay in your ignorance

Quoting Anonymous:

i'm far from ignorant honey



but who are you to discount how your cousin feels....



if she said god won't give her more than she can handle who are you to tell her that is wrong





Quoting Anonymous:

actually no my cousin died cuz he didnt get the help he needed when he needed it in the first place. even my cousin has said that and said that to her mother. 

Do not assume to know what it is i am saying. He couldnt handle what was being thrown at him, cuz he didnt have anyone there for him when he needed it. he felt alone. 

she is dealing with her. she has even stated her mother is better off, cuz she is not around to hurt herself or anyone else.   but hey like with another one, ignorance is apart of life. one most people grow out of. i hope you grow out of it. 

Quoting Anonymous:

based on your cousins responses it sounds like she just didn't want to engage in this conversation with you....





hoe do u have this conversation with someone the night of her mothers death when she is trying her best to deal with it.





you basically said her brother died because he couldnt handle life...





you sound like a bitch to me







MyDragonFlies11
by on Nov. 25, 2012 at 10:26 PM
I also have been through A LOT OF LOSS also and my take God doesn't give us anything people aren't taken from us they live their own path not ours.. God doest have a plan for every action in our lives theyh are our lives we choose. God loves all and doesn't punish or take away. But I'm not christian .. i
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 25, 2012 at 10:27 PM

 i do not need to read the bible.  if you read the convo i am not a christian. 

Quoting HappyMommyXavi:

If you read the Bible properly you would know that when God said this he meant it by All means. But he also meant it for all that believe in him and have been saved. You have many that don't believe in God and doubt him every chance they get. All I'm saying is the way you think God meant what he said is wrong. You need to read it yourself and fully understand.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 14 on Nov. 25, 2012 at 10:28 PM
The reason people can't cope is because they turn to worldly vices instead of God.


But you're right we can't handle burdens on our own and if we don't trust in God then there will be a lot of things we can't handle.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 15 on Nov. 25, 2012 at 10:28 PM
I HATE when people would say that to me. I disagree with that statement, every bit of it
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 25, 2012 at 10:29 PM

and alot of christians will tell you that babies are born of sin and are not innocent.  please stop quoting the bible.  this is not what this is about

Quoting HappyMommyXavi:

You're totally right no parent should ever have to burry a child at such a young age. No parent should have to burry their child at any age at that. But of you read in the bible all innocent souls go straight to heaven. That would be 13 and under exactly(:

Quoting emeraldangel2.0:

i agree with what you said

also, lets look at the moms who have lost kids. why would god want them to handle that? to give someone a child, say they are sacred, yet take them so soon?

no parent should have to bury a child, it's not natural.



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