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Evil step mother here. ***update on page 40*******

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I'm beyond pissed and if this makes me an evil step mother, so be it. My husbands ex wife just called. She told us my husbands daughter got two speeding tickets this month. The first one she was gong 80 in a 55 zone and the second was yesterday, she was going 85 in a 45 zone. She is 19. The combined fines for both tickets is a total of 600 to keep her from losing her license. So, my husband told her mom we would pay it. I think this time I have a right to be pissed. Dh is going to take it out of the money we have saved for the kids christmas. So guess what that means ??? Yep, all the stuff we have on lay a way will get put back and we will be lucky to buy them a few things. That money was saved for a reason. My step daughters presents were coming out of it as well. But now it's all going to pay her fucking speeding tickets. I'm livid. I understand its his daughter and he doesn't want her to get in trouble , but she is 19 and knows better than to speed. I'm in tears. Am I wrong for feeling this way ??? I'm going to get the stuff out of lay a way. I'm sure my husband will be upset with me but oh well. I'll update again later.
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:02 AM
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beaugrl0824
by Gold Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:10 AM
At 19 its up to her to pay it
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mrswillie
by Gold Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:10 AM
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Step kid, or bio kid, if she were mine, she would be loosing her license...

BETTER THEN LOOSING HER LIFE OR KILLING SOMEONE ELSE!

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:10 AM

Ya I would tell her to pay her own tickets.  That is just enabling her.  I would tell him that it's okay to do it once, but if he does it again she is just going to expect him to pay it and see no consequences.  I would take her car away  until she could pay me back the 600 dollars, but that is just me. 

MsRkg
by Gold Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:11 AM

Talk to him and tell him that bailing her out at this age doesn't teach responsibility. She is more than old enough to take responsibility for her actions and that consequences that come with it. If she can't pay the fines  on her own then she deserves to lose her license otherwise how many times is he willing to pay it when she keeps speeding and doesn't learn her lesson.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:11 AM
Because her mom just doesn't have the money. Which I know is bullshit. My husband is a great father and until she graduated high school he paid his child support on time all the time and even gave his daughter extra. But this one takes the cake.

Quoting TXMOM1980:

she 19 she need to get a job..i would have taken her keys after the 1st why why dose he have to pay for all of it. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:12 AM

I'd never allow that. I'm all for supporting my step daughters needs at any cost, but that is certainly not a need. My step daughter over drafted her checking account by $300 and expected us to help her pay it back. I'm sorry, no, that will not be happening, you make the mistake, you pay the fine.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:12 AM

She deserves to lose her license. I don't want to be on the road with her and I'm sure most would agree. And the fact all the kids are going to suffer and lose out on Christmas so Daddy can bail her out is a bunch of shit.

sissyboogs
by Platinum Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:12 AM

Maybe it differs by state, but I really don't think paying the fine is going to stop her from losing her license anyway. Each time you speed, it adds a certain number of points to your license depending on how much over the limit you were going, and once you reach a certain number of points, your licensed is suspended. Paying the fine is something you have to do regardless, it doesn't change the fact that points are added to your license. 

In PA, where I live, the first speeding ticket would have put her just under the number of points to have her license suspended and the second definitely would have put her over. The second alone would be enough to have her license suspended. And, like I said, she'd have to pay the fine and she'd still have her license suspended...

Could be different depending on the state, but I doubt it. 

Either way, I'd tell your husband and his ex-wife hell no. She's an adult and she can suffer the consequences of her own actions. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:12 AM
He went to work, but I told him when he gets home we need to talk about this. He keeps telling me don't worry.

Quoting MsRkg:

Talk to him and tell him that bailing her out at this age doesn't teach responsibility. She is more than old enough to take responsibility for her actions and that consequences that come with it. If she can't pay the fines  on her own then she deserves to lose her license otherwise how many times is he willing to pay it when she keeps speeding and doesn't learn her lesson.


TiffanyRose06
by Queso<3 on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:12 AM
Ugh. I'm all about helping your kids, ever when they're adults. However this is basic driver's ed, don't speed. What if she got in a wreck? I think a night in jail would do her good.

Quoting Anonymous:

That's what I don't understand. She got on the phone balling saying please daddy... It made me sick.



Quoting TiffanyRose06:

She's an adult, not a teenager. It is not his job to pay it and she needs to learn a lesson





Why should the younger kids have to suffer? That's the most fucked up part.
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