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Evil step mother here. ***update on page 40*******

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I'm beyond pissed and if this makes me an evil step mother, so be it. My husbands ex wife just called. She told us my husbands daughter got two speeding tickets this month. The first one she was gong 80 in a 55 zone and the second was yesterday, she was going 85 in a 45 zone. She is 19. The combined fines for both tickets is a total of 600 to keep her from losing her license. So, my husband told her mom we would pay it. I think this time I have a right to be pissed. Dh is going to take it out of the money we have saved for the kids christmas. So guess what that means ??? Yep, all the stuff we have on lay a way will get put back and we will be lucky to buy them a few things. That money was saved for a reason. My step daughters presents were coming out of it as well. But now it's all going to pay her fucking speeding tickets. I'm livid. I understand its his daughter and he doesn't want her to get in trouble , but she is 19 and knows better than to speed. I'm in tears. Am I wrong for feeling this way ??? I'm going to get the stuff out of lay a way. I'm sure my husband will be upset with me but oh well. I'll update again later.
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:02 AM
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by Anonymous 8 on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:14 AM
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she should pay for her own ticket. i'm doubtful that she pays for her car insurance, maintaince, etc either, right? honestly, the car would be gone as well...

and i wouldnt let him take the money we saved for the kids, to put towards her. if she wants to have HER portion of the money, that was already saved for HER, to use towards the tickets, then i'd do it, but i'd let her know that this would be her christmas present- she wasnt getting anything under the tree this year.

by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:14 AM
She needs to pay her own ticket. Hell even if my kids were 16...they would pay their own tickets. Teach em to drive responsibly.
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by Ruby Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:15 AM

Hell no she can get a jpb and pay the bill herself. She deserves to get her lcense taken away if she can't pay it. I would be pissed too

by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:15 AM
She should be paying her own ticket shes an adult she needs consquences, not to be bailed out, not to enable her irresopnsibility.
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by Silver Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:15 AM
Set up a payment plan... And let her pay it herself... Dont use ur christmas saving... Let her make payment for her ticket everymonth...
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by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:15 AM

No you are not she is an adult now and needs to take responsibility for her lead foot.

by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:15 AM

She has a very good point! You need to investigate further.

Quoting Anonymous:

I didn't even think of that. You are right.

Quoting sissyboogs:

Maybe it differs by state, but I really don't think paying the fine is going to stop her from losing her license anyway. Each time you speed, it adds a certain number of points to your license depending on how much over the limit you were going, and once you reach a certain number of points, your licensed is suspended. Paying the fine is something you have to do regardless, it doesn't change the fact that points are added to your license. 

In PA, where I live, the first speeding ticket would have put her just under the number of points to have her license suspended and the second definitely would have put her over. The second alone would be enough to have her license suspended. And, like I said, she'd have to pay the fine and she'd still have her license suspended...

Could be different depending on the state, but I doubt it. 

Either way, I'd tell your husband and his ex-wife hell no. She's an adult and she can suffer the consequences of her own actions. 

by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:15 AM

she should be paying her own tickets.  I think you have every right to be p.o.'d  

I would tell DH to tell them, we can not get her any presents, and put that money towards her ticket, and that will be her christmas gift.  She can then come up with the rest on her own.  

by Gold Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:16 AM

Oh hell no. I would take the amt. of $$ alloted for SD for Christmas and give that to her, then she can figure out the rest. She's 19 she should be taking responsibility for herself.

by Silver Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 11:16 AM
She is old enough to have a job and pay her own tickets! Geez she just has to show up in court, they will most likely reduce the the ticket amount and then she can set up a payment plan to pay it! Your husband isn't being fair to the rest of the children. It's not their fault their big sister fucked up, they shouldn't sacerfice their Christmas for her!
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