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How to tell a Mom nicely those snacks are not for my kids? **UPDATE**

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So it is difficult for me to find other Mommy friends for various reasons--ages of parents, ages of kids, sex of kids, etc., but there is this little boy that my daughter grew up with basically and are really good friends, anyway, so we went to their house for a playdate and the snacks were just fully loaded with sugar and the lunch that she served consisted of mini hot dogs and bagel bites.  I just always try to hit the 4 food groups with each meal and reduce the amount of sugar they get throughout the day. 

Should I say something or just brush it off?

I did bring them water and snacks if they wanted something and planned on leaving before lunch but they pleaded with us to stay until the other kids arrived.

 

UPDATE:  I got the point and usually stop reading after 20 replies.

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 27, 2012 at 2:32 AM
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velvetkitty
by Gold Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 5:01 AM

I would just let it go, but offer to bring lunch for everybody next time.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 27, 2012 at 5:05 AM
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I think it is because of the over controlling (not saying this in a snarky way), social aspect of this issue. When you go to a friends house, generally you are subject to their food choices, they might eat "weird food" something you don't like or something that isn't necessarily how you do things (who the hell puts mayo in guacamole, am I right?) and you are polite because you accepted their offer to dine with you.

You really have four options, 1) offer to make lunch 2) decline the invite 3)stop hanging out because apparently you are unable to decline 4) suck it up.

Sucking it up seems like the best option because it is a once in awhile kinda thing. The kids like each other, and it sounds like someone they have been social with for awhile.

I also get a little "eh" when people get high and mighty about nutrition, but still look at meals in a four food groups kinda way.






Quoting Anonymous:

Am I the only one amazed that the person who wants to feed their child the way they should be fed is the one looked at as the weirdo?


itsm3
by Platinum Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:25 AM
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if it's once in a while, i'd let it go.  why ruin a good thing, kwim?  

or, just feed him lunch before you go there and just let him have a few bites of whatever snacks she's serving... but be sure to tell her ahead of time that you have to eat lunch early so she doesn't hvae to serve lunch.  

OR you offer to bring lunch for the kids; you can ask if you can alternate bringing lunch so that she doesn't have to make it all the time (spin it so that you're trying to alleviate some of the cost/prep for her)

hautemama83
by Emerald Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:28 AM
Let it go.
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hautemama83
by Emerald Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:30 AM
Not a weirdo. Just uptight and a little controlling.

Quoting Anonymous:

Am I the only one amazed that the person who wants to feed their child the way they should be fed is the one looked at as the weirdo?

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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:31 AM
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This!

Quoting pampire:

Let it go.  It's an occasional meal.  A bagel bite or hot dog now and then isn't going to damage your child.  Lighten up and let the kid make memories.  You might find it easier to make mommy friends too.


kattu
by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:31 AM
This.

Quoting MamaMay007:

I let stuff like that go.  


I have the policy of in my house I feed you what I want, in your house you feed us what you want.  (Allergies are the exception to this rule, we don't have any but some people do). It isn't like you are seeing them for hours every day.  It is once in a while. 

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Isaacsmom913
by Platinum Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:31 AM

Brush it off.  Seriously one meal that is different than what they get at home isn't going to kill your kid.  This Mom was more than likely thinking of foods that the kids would likely eat rather than feeding them broccoli that was going to simply be shoved around the plate.

As a Mom I wouldn't be offended if you brought water for your kid, but I would be if you poo-poo'd lunch that is kid friendly because it doesn't meet your standards.

Quoting Anonymous:

So it is difficult for me to find other Mommy friends for various reasons--ages of parents, ages of kids, sex of kids, etc., but there is this little boy that my daughter grew up with basically and are really good friends, anyway, so we went to their house for a playdate and the snacks were just fully loaded with sugar and the lunch that she served consisted of mini hot dogs and bagel bites.  I just always try to hit the 4 food groups with each meal and reduce the amount of sugar they get throughout the day. 

Should I say something or just brush it off?

I did bring them water and snacks if they wanted something and planned on leaving before lunch but they pleaded with us to stay until the other kids arrived.


wonderwomanT08
by Ruby Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:32 AM


Quoting MommaSchimmel:

If its just a once in a while thing then I just let it go.


BeAmour
by Tonya on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:33 AM
let it go
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