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How to tell a Mom nicely those snacks are not for my kids? **UPDATE**

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

So it is difficult for me to find other Mommy friends for various reasons--ages of parents, ages of kids, sex of kids, etc., but there is this little boy that my daughter grew up with basically and are really good friends, anyway, so we went to their house for a playdate and the snacks were just fully loaded with sugar and the lunch that she served consisted of mini hot dogs and bagel bites.  I just always try to hit the 4 food groups with each meal and reduce the amount of sugar they get throughout the day. 

Should I say something or just brush it off?

I did bring them water and snacks if they wanted something and planned on leaving before lunch but they pleaded with us to stay until the other kids arrived.

 

UPDATE:  I got the point and usually stop reading after 20 replies.

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 27, 2012 at 2:32 AM
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SnapIt
by Ruby Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:45 AM
Gosh
A day here or there for a playdate where mini bites are served is not going to kill your kid unless he has a severe allergy to it

This is so time cunsuming to plan what you should do, what to bring.

Thats just being anal
What you should do is bring your own food, for your own kid if its too much for you to handle

Geeze
There is so much more shit to worry about than mini bites that someone serves your kid
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mewebb82
by Platinum Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:47 AM

This exactly. 

Quoting MamaMay007:

I let stuff like that go.  


I have the policy of in my house I feed you what I want, in your house you feed us what you want.  (Allergies are the exception to this rule, we don't have any but some people do). It isn't like you are seeing them for hours every day.  It is once in a while. 


SnapIt
by Ruby Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:51 AM
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Can you imagine what else has to be under their control?

I see this more and more. Too many damn women running around trying to control everybodies lives in how they do things.
Gtfooh

I dont even want to think how their husbands are being controlled as well. Its crazy


Quoting hautemama83:

Not a weirdo. Just uptight and a little controlling.



Quoting Anonymous:

Am I the only one amazed that the person who wants to feed their child the way they should be fed is the one looked at as the weirdo?

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mamakirs
by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:51 AM
Stick to taking your own healthy foods... We are a hyper healthy family...no refined sugars, flours or rice...no gmo, as much organic as possible. We eat 65% raw etc., i always keep "emergency" food on hand.
You're saving the life and health of your child. It's hard for those who don't eat the same way to understand. Try to be very nonchalant. good for you mama!
1smartcookie
by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:55 AM

Let it go. Load her up with fruits and veggies when you get home. :)

hautemama83
by Emerald Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:55 AM
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Exactly. Its crazy to me. Having a "bad" lunch isn't going to be detrimental to a child's development.

Quoting SnapIt:

Can you imagine what else has to be under their control?



I see this more and more. Too many damn women running around trying to control everybodies lives in how they do things.

Gtfooh



I dont even want to think how their husbands are being controlled as well. Its crazy




Quoting hautemama83:

Not a weirdo. Just uptight and a little controlling.





Quoting Anonymous:

Am I the only one amazed that the person who wants to feed their child the way they should be fed is the one looked at as the weirdo?

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 10 on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:56 AM
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next time, offer to bring lunch

Bethsunshine
by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:56 AM

It's one meal every now and then. Let it go. It's not going to kill them.

wkdgrneyes
by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:57 AM

Hi Anonymous, 

I can understand where you're coming from. That is not something I would want my daughter to eat but since she's so picky she probably wouldn't touch it anyways. You would be always welcome here, we serve peaches, yogurt, a variety of veggies, whole grain bread, natural peanut butter (no food allergies anywhere), etc. But, id let it go and next time bring your own lunch perhaps? 

brokenmomma37
by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 8:57 AM
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When she hosts playdates, in being thankful for her kindness, insist you bring lunch/snacks, or at least bring half - she makes bagel bites, you bring crudites and fruit.  She makes hot dogs, tell her you have some delicious whole-wheat buns you want to try.  And really, if you've known her that long, you should be able to say, "You know the kids are on a really strict diet, I was wondering if it would be okay if I brought the lunch/snack or maybe we could plan it together?"  You're right, it's a touchy thing to bring up because a lot of people would feel offended if you didn't want your children to eat their food.  I have a friend whose daughter has dysautonomia, and one round of junk food WILL hurt her.  It is a delicate thing when at someone else's home, but doing what you think best for your kids is priority.

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