No, you don't DESERVE anything!! And you call me selfish?
My dad had a sudden heart attack and passed away in August. It is, without a doubt, the hardest think I've ever been through. My sister and I had no idea there was any life insurance, but his boss called us to say he was going to start putting the paperwork through. My mom, who was nowhere to be seen or heard from during the 2 weeks he was in the hospital or during his funeral is suddenly this heart broken widow who loved him so much. She's all over fb eliciting sympathy from anyone who didn't realize she hadn't spoken to the man in 9 years.
Despite the fact that I don't buy any of it (in fact I KNOW she hated him) my sister and I were each going to write her a check just because she's our mother. Apparently we didn't do it quick enough for her liking though. She told the rest of the family how greedy and selfish we are and how she deserves that money for putting up with all of us for 27 years.
You don't get money for "putting up" with someone. You aren't entitled to it because you suffered through your familial obligations! It hurts me for my dad that that's how she really felt about him. And to call me greedy because I was named a beneficiary? I'd give everything I have on top of the life insurance to have my dad back!
No, I've changed my mind. If dad had wanted her to have anything, he would have given it to her. Having your mom call you awful things sort of takes a person out of the giving spirit, kwim?