So nervous...CPS related *2 UPDATES*
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CPS will be here in 2 hours and I am so nervous. Yesterday a lady showed up because someone at my son's school (he's in first grade) turned us in because he was crying on the playground. Some kids made fun of him for what he was wearing. So CPS got called by a teacher on playground patrol because she thought we forced him to wear it to embarrass him. WTF?!?! Thankfully the CPS worker was reasonable yesterday and understood that we didn't force him to. Unfortunately we couldn't close the case yesterday because my son was sleeping when she stopped by (he was sick and napping). So she has to come back by today to talk with him and then is closing the case. I also have a meeting tonight with the principal to discuss why this happened. But I can't wait for noon to get here and to get this over with. I hate the thought of CPS being part of our lives.
And to those of you who know who I am because I posted this in a private group, please don't out me. I just needed to vent (anonymously) about how nervous I am.
ETA: Yes he wore a skirt to school. He had done it before without any issue (i.e. no teasing before ever). So I did not see why this time would be different. It was and we talked about it. He had decided no more skirts to school for now because of this, which I do find sad.
ETA2: Since I am tired of the question, he has skirts because he asked for them one day while we were shopping. We let him wear them to school because he asked to and we had cleared it with the principal last year to make sure it would be ok and they would not tolerate any bullying.
ETA3: I do NOT give my sons whatever they ask for. They do get told when it is needed.
UPDATE - She just left (she arrived early). My boys talked to her about Skylanders. She checked their bedrooms and the kitchen for food, took pictures of the boys, and asked if I have any questions. I verified that the case is now closed and it is. Of course the supervisor has to approve it but she said that should be no issue. So yay!!
UPDATE 2 - I have spoken with the principal and my son's teacher. They are both shocked that this happened. The principal is investigating who it could be since no one has come forward. If she finds out it is someone at school then disciplinary action will be taken since they did not follow protocol. They also reassured me that they did not hear anything about it and if my son decides to wear a skirt to school again that he is more than welcome to. I am just to remind my son that if someone does mock him to tell a teacher so they can work it out.
Quoting Anonymous:Because he asked for it so we bought it.
Quoting beerebelly:Why does your son even own a skirt?
i would never let my son wear a skirt to school (or at all), but i don't think if someone does it would warrent a CPS call.
I knew the kids didn't make fun of him previously because I have always had a good relationship with the teachers and I talk to them on a near daily basis. On the previous times he wore a skirt the other kids asked him about it but did not make fun of him. This time they mocked him and laughed at him.
Quoting Mena929:I am all for kids expressing themselves the way they want to, however, sending your son in a skirt to school is setting them up to get made fun of IMO. You say he had done it before without incident, however, can you be sure there weren't kids making fun of him previously? Maybe he just didn't notice the last time or two....
However with that said, it is RIDICULOUS that the school called CPS and made a report about that. I hope they close the case and you don't have any issues with them.
Quoting Anonymous:An actual girl skirt. And it was because he asked to do it. He had done it before without issue.
Quoting Mena929:Like a kilt or an actually girly skirt?
WHY???? You know kids are mean....
Quoting Anonymous:He was wearing a skirt.
Quoting LoveMyLos:
Partly agree with this. You set him up to be made fun of. I do not agree with the cps thing.
Quoting Anonymous:
Let me get this straight, instead of putting pants on him, knowing the possible ramifications of allowing him to wear the skirt outside the house, you send him to school, allow him to get made fun of and cause the authorities concerned to believe there is a certain level of neglect enough to warrant them calling CPS, and you're sweating bullets over them finding anything wrong to possibly take him into custody?
You brought this upon yourself.
I see no issue in kids expressing themselves, I'm just wondering why he has a skirt.
Quoting Anonymous:First grade so 6.
Quoting Wifeyy2Lette:
How old is he?
all you women are so hypocritical. Had this woman made a post about how her first grader felt like he was really a girl, not a boy, the responses would be totally different. If it was about gender identification, everyone would be watching their words.
He's a boy, he shouldn't have been wearing a skirt, your his mother, you should have said no!!! Kids can be cruel
Not the best decision on your part... Kids are very mean. If he want to wear a skirt, let him wear it to the grocery store on the weekend. I'm sure CPS will be off your case soon.
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