So nervous...CPS related *2 UPDATES*
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CPS will be here in 2 hours and I am so nervous. Yesterday a lady showed up because someone at my son's school (he's in first grade) turned us in because he was crying on the playground. Some kids made fun of him for what he was wearing. So CPS got called by a teacher on playground patrol because she thought we forced him to wear it to embarrass him. WTF?!?! Thankfully the CPS worker was reasonable yesterday and understood that we didn't force him to. Unfortunately we couldn't close the case yesterday because my son was sleeping when she stopped by (he was sick and napping). So she has to come back by today to talk with him and then is closing the case. I also have a meeting tonight with the principal to discuss why this happened. But I can't wait for noon to get here and to get this over with. I hate the thought of CPS being part of our lives.
And to those of you who know who I am because I posted this in a private group, please don't out me. I just needed to vent (anonymously) about how nervous I am.
ETA: Yes he wore a skirt to school. He had done it before without any issue (i.e. no teasing before ever). So I did not see why this time would be different. It was and we talked about it. He had decided no more skirts to school for now because of this, which I do find sad.
ETA2: Since I am tired of the question, he has skirts because he asked for them one day while we were shopping. We let him wear them to school because he asked to and we had cleared it with the principal last year to make sure it would be ok and they would not tolerate any bullying.
ETA3: I do NOT give my sons whatever they ask for. They do get told when it is needed.
UPDATE - She just left (she arrived early). My boys talked to her about Skylanders. She checked their bedrooms and the kitchen for food, took pictures of the boys, and asked if I have any questions. I verified that the case is now closed and it is. Of course the supervisor has to approve it but she said that should be no issue. So yay!!
UPDATE 2 - I have spoken with the principal and my son's teacher. They are both shocked that this happened. The principal is investigating who it could be since no one has come forward. If she finds out it is someone at school then disciplinary action will be taken since they did not follow protocol. They also reassured me that they did not hear anything about it and if my son decides to wear a skirt to school again that he is more than welcome to. I am just to remind my son that if someone does mock him to tell a teacher so they can work it out.
Keep making excuses for the assholes.
Quoting sassygoddess:I never said the kids should get away with being mean to him, but if he wears a skirt to school...he is asking to be bullied. It would be a different situation if it was something he had no control over...but this situation has a a resolution...NO SKIRTS to school. He can be free to express his self at home...no need for it to be made public that he likes girls clothes..unless he wants to be made fun of...
Quoting LntLckrsCmQut:
Why should she or him have to deal with a bully? Again, this is the exact reason why bullies get away with being assholes. People make excuses for them.
Quoting sassygoddess:
If she is going to send him to school in a skirt she should expect the teasing and deal with it.
Quoting LntLckrsCmQut:
Kids get picked on and teased for a lot of things. Should we just stop sending kids to school, out of fear that they will get teased?
Quoting sassygoddess:
I'm not saying the bullying is right...I'm just saying it's going to happen if he continues to wear a skirt to school...he and his parents are just putting a bulls eye on him for the bullies...I by no means agree with the bullying but unless things change its gonna happen.
Quoting LntLckrsCmQut:
This is a fine example of why bullies get away with being jack holes.
Quoting sassygoddess:
He wore a skirt to school and you didn't expect him to get made fun of? That's stupidity on your part...if your son wants to wear them at home then fine, but with the way kids are today, he shouldn't be allowed to in public...especially if he isn't emotionally or mentally ready for the ridicule.
I actually know some women who wear pants underneath skirts. It is because they wear skirts for religious reasons but yet want to be warm.
Quoting Anonymous:You know what? I'm going to refrain from repeating what the 100+ women with common sense have already said. BUT, WTF?! I wouldn't even let my DAUGHTER wear a skirt AND pants at the same time. That would look so stupid! I wish you would wear that outfit in public so I could point and laugh at you!
OK..I read some of the posts...Im calling BS on this. I pray to god there isnt a mother stupid enough to set her child up for this kinda of cruelty. He is probably going to suffer long term teasing for this. The children who made fun of him are never going to forget the time a little boy wore a pink frilly skirt to school. If this is true then you need to give him some parental guidance. Thats your job. Your supposed to help him make good logical choices..you may not have made him wear it so he would be picked on...but you let him wear it knowing he would be picked on...FAIL.
Are you seriously comparing an article of clothing to a weapon?
What if your daughter wanted a batman backpack? Would you allow it?
I bet you let your daughter wear pants, why can't a boy wear a skirt?
How do you feel about men in kilts?
Quoting LoveMyLos:
If he wanted a gun or tazer, would you buy that to?
Quoting Anonymous:Because he asked for it so we bought it.
Quoting beerebelly:Why does your son even own a skirt?
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How awful. Did they punish the children that were teasing him?
Does your son have a religious reason to be wearing the same clothing?
Quoting Anonymous:
I actually know some women who wear pants underneath skirts. It is because they wear skirts for religious reasons but yet want to be warm.
Quoting Anonymous:
You know what? I'm going to refrain from repeating what the 100+ women with common sense have already said. BUT, WTF?! I wouldn't even let my DAUGHTER wear a skirt AND pants at the same time. That would look so stupid! I wish you would wear that outfit in public so I could point and laugh at you!
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