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My son is only 6mths so this yr I don't have to worry about it, but I don't know if I wqnt my son to believe in Santa. Or the tooth fairy or any of those other mythical creatures. Don't get me wrong. I like Santa as the face of Christmas(I like to decorate with him and read stories and even movies) but I feel like my dh works too hard to provide for us and now to buy gifts for our ds to let some myth take all the credit. Problem is I don't wanna ruin it for other peoples children and idk how to explain to him that Santa is justa fictional character(a mascot) for Christmas? Lol I know I'm ahead of myself but Idk what I'm gna do next year. Should I just let him believe?
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by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 5:47 PM
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Bmama1
by Silver Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 5:59 PM
Hmm... I'm not really sure. I have 4 under 4 so we haven't really had to explain yet.

Quoting CrystalLMaben:

How do u explain who he is tho when they see him...in books...movies ...at the mall...and what about when the other kids talk about him. Then what?




Quoting Bmama1:

We won't be telling our kids about any of them.

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jillbailey26
by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 5:59 PM

So as you raise him, tell him that your family doesn't believe in Santa, but others do and he has to respect that they do.

We let the kids lead it in this department.  They believe, so we'll do one thing from Santa.  Then it'll just fade away like it did when I was a kid.


"Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification"  Romans 14:19

CrystalLMaben
by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 5:59 PM
Yeah we both grew up believing too. And it was no big deal when we found out. I'm thinking the same thing tho cuz he has cousins close to his age and their parents encourage the belief of Santa. So whose to say he won't believe anyway.


Quoting SunshneDaydream:

I was in the same boat when my daughter was a baby...then she got older and I realized you can't really escape it.  We never told her about any of them, but it's everywhere.  School, friends, everyone else believes it...Grandma asks what she wants from Santa...even strangers on the street ask!  She pretty much grew up hearing about it without us ever saying a word.  I never knew how to break it to her either, and even if we did I wasn't sure how make sure she didn't tell other kids.  We decided it was easier to just let her believe and besides, we both grew up believing...until we didn't, and we were fine.  It wasn't some huge traumatic even to find out Santa's not real, most kids just figure it out as they get older and wiser :)


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AF2011
by Ruby Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 6:01 PM


Quoting gwebkeijmmm:

I think it's ridiculous to feel like you (or your SO) need to "take credit" for buying stuff, like it's really going to matter to a child of that age.


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gwebkeijmmm
by Ruby Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 6:01 PM
I don't believe in doing anything for "credit". For example, I've donated a lot of stuff to my church, but they don't know because to me, that would take away from it. The same with Christmas, my kids don't need to know we bought the stuff, it wouldn't make them any happier... Lol. I don't feel like I'm explaining this well.

Quoting CrystalLMaben:

I kinda feel that way too. I'm torn between the ideas and idk what I want.lol. my dh doesn't care either way but my brother brought it to my attention the whole "taking credit" thing and it made sense. That's y I'm here getting opinions!




Quoting gwebkeijmmm:

I think it's ridiculous to feel like you (or your SO) need to "take credit" for buying stuff, like it's really going to matter to a child of that age.

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Mom2Phoenix2011
by Bronze Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 6:02 PM

You and your husband are santa therefore you still get the credit.

Stevie, I am the proud mom of Phoenix, and the proud wife of Boston My OTR Trucker.  

notjstasocermom
by Emerald Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 6:02 PM
lmao....yeah thats all i got.
Amy_M
by Gold Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 6:02 PM

to say having Santa "take credit" for what your husband bought is crazy.  Kids don't give a crap how much stuff costs or who worked for what money.  We give our kids some gifts from us and some from Santa.  The cooler stuff is from Santa, my kids have never once make a comparison on what we bought and what santa brought them.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Nov. 27, 2012 at 6:02 PM

So, your going to deny your child a little bit of magic and fun because you want credit for gifts? That's pretty selfish in my opinion. Make one gift from Santa if it is really so important to you to get credit.

wyldebtrfly
by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 6:02 PM

Does it really matter who gets the credit? 

I love buying things for people and not getting the credit. Just to see them happy. 
Especially children. Even more so my own children.
Seeing them excited because santa bought them the one things they truly wanted is amazing. Seeing their eyes light up because the magic happened is what makes my christmas.

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