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My prayer was answered in such a specific way, and now all I want to do is give praises!

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I'm going anonymous simply because of the personal & financial info involved in the story...

My husband and I have always been *pretty good* about managing our money. Granted, there are decisions I can look back on now and wish we'd made differently, but we've always had a savings account in place, and aside from the rare occasion we drew from it to help cover an unexpected expense, it was always growing little by little.
By the time I got pregnant, we were married, living in a small but nice apartment, had found our church and were tithing 10% of our income, he was working his current job bringing in about $3500-$4000 each month, and I had graduated college and started my career bringing home $2000-$2500 each month. Both of our cars were paid off, as well as my student loans. We were in a very good financial position in terms of being ready for a baby.
We had been debating buying a house, and once I was pregnant, we knew our apartment would be too small for our family. We found and fell in love with our house, and were moved in by the time I was 7 months along.
Then things took a turn.
In the last year and a half, we've had to buy another vehicle (mine died), buy a new rim and four new tires for his SUV, and have had other unplanned expenses; I was unable to breastfeed as planned because of previously-undetected medical issues, had to do a major repair on our home, etc. Before buying our home, I left my job to be a SAHM until our son starts school, and we bought our home knowing that we would need to live frugally in order to make it. Looking back, we didn't leave enough room for error.
Our mortgage is $1500/mo, which includes paying about $60 extra each month toward principal. Our son, as it turns out, was very sensitive in what type of formula he could take, which meant added expense, and my husband received a "promotion" that actually has become a pay cut because he is unable to work overtime in this position (but it does afford more opportunity for advancement). I recently started a part-time job to help make up the difference, but it hasn't been enough. This week, our savings officially reached $58.
Fast forward to present. We both got paid yesterday (him $1400, me $200), and our mortgage will be due the first, which meant I would need to pay the mortgage late and use these funds to pay all of our bills (utilities, homeowner's insurance, car insurance, phone bill,credit card that we had to use recently) and provide everything else we need for the next month. I babysat yesterday for a bit and used that $20 in cash to run to the store today and grab some small items. On the way home, my low fuel light came on, and I finally gave in and started to cry. I pulled to the side of the road and just let it out.
I realized that although we'd been doing charity work and helping others, I hadn't been truly humble in that I had an attitude that WE were doing well, WE were keeping ourselves in a good situation, etc. Then I prayed. I said "God, I realize why you've brought us to this place of uncertainty and what we are to gain from it. I am so incredibly grateful for this lesson, and that we've been able to learn this lesson while still having a comfortable home. I know YOU will provide for us, and have been all along. The things we have been 'going without' are so trivial in comparison to what you've given us, and I pray you will continue to keep us able to afford the home we are in."
I drove the rest of the way home, grabbed the mail out of the box, and started weeding through it (dreading finding any bills). There was an item from the bank we have our mortgage through, and my heart absolutely sank, thinking that it was some kind of bad news...
It was a money order for $2,045.23 as a refund for overpayment into our escrow (our property taxes were overestimated, and this much is left over)! I just broke down and said a prayer of thanks. I wanted to share this story with anyone who is struggling in hopes of showing people that prayer is a powerful thing.
Keep your chin up, be humble, and give it to God. He'll take care of you!

1 Peter 5.6-7:
Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time, casting all your anxiety on Him, because he cares for you.

Deuteronomy 31.6:
Be strong and bold, have no fear or dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not fail you or forsake you.

Please know that you are not going to shake my faith. I am open to respectful discussion, but bashing will just go unanswered.
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 28, 2012 at 4:18 PM
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heavenV
by Silver Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 12:29 AM
Thank you for sharing... :) God is good. Always. :)
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 36 on Nov. 30, 2012 at 12:31 AM

 I'm happy that this helped you.

I was told by a very good friend that no matter the situation I was in that God would be there to help and make everything right. I had to question my friend and ask how? How will God pay my rent? How would God pay my bills and take my stress away. I had 7 days to come up with $500. He told me God would find a way. Well he didn't and I was officially out in the street. Ever since then I don't even try with God. I don't know. Maybe it was all a test and I failed. At this point in my life I just don't believe anymore. I think others believe because it makes them feel like they have a purpose. Just too many unanswered questions for me. All of my family are very religious so I just don't bring it up to them. I'm sure they have no clue how I really feel.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 25 on Nov. 30, 2012 at 12:32 AM
I respect your belief, I really do so this isn't an arguement but curiousity.
This is always the answer to the bad things in life, it's Gods plan, there is no reason, there is an unseen plan yet when something good happens its all Gods work/doing. How does that work? Live Gods way, have faith, believe, trust spread Gods word etc. and you deserve or have earned the good but the bad never has a reason or explanation.
"He gives us grace even when not deserved" what is Gods grace?
"you can't earn Gods grace, it isn't possible" " He gives us grace when not deserved" what do you mean by that?
OP said her prayers were answered because she deserved it.
God cannot answer these questions and God cannot change these things, that is obvious. If I have lived my life devoted to Him just like OP then why are her good things Gods gift and my bad things are not Gods wrath? It doesn't make sense.

Quoting harehelper:


Quoting Anonymous:

Since this post is filled with so many that are spiritual I'm curious, why I've lived a life of faith, honesty, giving etc and yet my family has suffered some of the most awful things. Ive worked my tail off my whole life being good and providing for my family and more yet it is one crappy thing after another. If I told you all that we continue to go through you would see that we can't catch a break. It isn't the fault of choices, decisions, irresponsibility etc. it just happens. Meanwhile my sil whom is anything but honesty and good has her life just handed to her. She doesn't work for it, she doesn't do anything to earn Gods special favors.

Why is that? Why do I devote my childhood, teen years and most of my adult years to serving and nothing good comes to our family?

No, I don't expect anything that i havent worked for in return but why does our life suck day after day, year after year if there is a loving, kind and honorable God that I've given myself to for so long? For so long I DID expect our family to be blessed with the good energy that we were giving out.

There is always an answer for the good, God answered my prayers, God blessed us etc. but never for the bad. We haven't earned it, we don't deserve it so what purpose does it serve?

There are answers for everything, but that doesn't mean we will be able to see them. You can't ever "earn" God's favor, or God's grace, it isn't possible. That is why it is called grace, because He gives it to us even when we don't deserve it. Grace comes through faith, not through works.

 No human being will be able to tell you why you are struggling, because no human being knows either your heart/mind, or God's plan for your life. Only God can answer these questions for you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 37 on Nov. 30, 2012 at 12:47 AM

I LOVE posts like this OP!! DH and I have had similar things happen. A while back, DH hurt his knee playing basketball. He was unable to work for 6 weeks! THANKFULLY, his job has him covered under an insurance plan for unexpected leave of absence. It pays at 80% of his regular pay. That still was not going to cover all of our bills! We went thru a stack of mail that looked like junk mail and opened EVERYTHING! In one of the envelopes was a check for over-payment on I think our house or something--I was SO HAPPY, I didn't bother to check!! It was $3,800.00!!! Then--recently, we got another check in the mail TOTALLY unexpected for over-payment on a house we sold YEARS ago, but the mortgage company had NOT been able to track us down to give us our money! That check was $3,350.00! That money paid off 2 credit cards and we still had money left over! We go to Church and pay 10% in tithing and KNOW that The Lord is always watching out for us and helping us! God is GREAT!! ( :

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:13 AM
Amen! :)


Quoting jojo827:

Great story! I have several similar stories of my own. Prayer is definitely a powerful thing!

harehelper
by Platinum Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:16 AM

But I didn't say there is no reason or explanation. I said that no human being can tell you what that reason is, because God is the only one who knows the whole picture. Yes, I feel sure there is a definite reason. But I will not presume to try and guess at what that reason is, I don't know enough to do so.

The very definition of grace is an undeserved favor, or pardon. His grace is like a blessing that He gives us freely, when we can not give back or pay Him back in any way.

We can't earn God's grace because we can't ever be perfect. God and his love, His grace, etc are all totally perfect, and no matter how hard we try we can never achieve that perfection. That is why he sent His Son to die for us, so that we can believe in Him and be forgiven of our sins. We can't be perfect enough to deserve God's love, but because of Jesus's sacrifice, we don't need to be!

When OP said she got that check because she deserved it, what she meant was that it was a blessing from God because she turned to Him, asked Him to forgive her of her pride, and honestly was sorry for her mistake.

I'm sorry, but you are wrong on your last part. God absolutely can answer your questions, and He absolutely can change anything in this world and beyond. But you have to go to Him and ask!! He won't chase you down and yell the answers in your ear, He wants you to ask Him. He wants you to communicate with Him. And if you have it dead set in your mind that He can't or won't ever speak to you, or answer your questions, or help/change anything, then that is exactly what you will NOT get.

No one said that the OP is getting blessings and you are getting wrath. If you honestly believe that God can't answer your questions, or change your circumstances, then He won't. I am not intending any harshness here, I hope it is not coming across that way, I just feel it is very important  to try and clarify this for you.

Quoting Anonymous:

I respect your belief, I really do so this isn't an arguement but curiousity.
This is always the answer to the bad things in life, it's Gods plan, there is no reason, there is an unseen plan yet when something good happens its all Gods work/doing. How does that work? Live Gods way, have faith, believe, trust spread Gods word etc. and you deserve or have earned the good but the bad never has a reason or explanation.
"He gives us grace even when not deserved" what is Gods grace?
"you can't earn Gods grace, it isn't possible" " He gives us grace when not deserved" what do you mean by that?
OP said her prayers were answered because she deserved it.
God cannot answer these questions and God cannot change these things, that is obvious. If I have lived my life devoted to Him just like OP then why are her good things Gods gift and my bad things are not Gods wrath? It doesn't make sense.

Quoting harehelper:


Quoting Anonymous:

Since this post is filled with so many that are spiritual I'm curious, why I've lived a life of faith, honesty, giving etc and yet my family has suffered some of the most awful things. Ive worked my tail off my whole life being good and providing for my family and more yet it is one crappy thing after another. If I told you all that we continue to go through you would see that we can't catch a break. It isn't the fault of choices, decisions, irresponsibility etc. it just happens. Meanwhile my sil whom is anything but honesty and good has her life just handed to her. She doesn't work for it, she doesn't do anything to earn Gods special favors.

Why is that? Why do I devote my childhood, teen years and most of my adult years to serving and nothing good comes to our family?

No, I don't expect anything that i havent worked for in return but why does our life suck day after day, year after year if there is a loving, kind and honorable God that I've given myself to for so long? For so long I DID expect our family to be blessed with the good energy that we were giving out.

There is always an answer for the good, God answered my prayers, God blessed us etc. but never for the bad. We haven't earned it, we don't deserve it so what purpose does it serve?

There are answers for everything, but that doesn't mean we will be able to see them. You can't ever "earn" God's favor, or God's grace, it isn't possible. That is why it is called grace, because He gives it to us even when we don't deserve it. Grace comes through faith, not through works.

 No human being will be able to tell you why you are struggling, because no human being knows either your heart/mind, or God's plan for your life. Only God can answer these questions for you.


harehelper
by Platinum Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:25 AM

Did you ask God personally to help you get the rent money on time?

Quoting Anonymous:

 I'm happy that this helped you.

I was told by a very good friend that no matter the situation I was in that God would be there to help and make everything right. I had to question my friend and ask how? How will God pay my rent? How would God pay my bills and take my stress away. I had 7 days to come up with $500. He told me God would find a way. Well he didn't and I was officially out in the street. Ever since then I don't even try with God. I don't know. Maybe it was all a test and I failed. At this point in my life I just don't believe anymore. I think others believe because it makes them feel like they have a purpose. Just too many unanswered questions for me. All of my family are very religious so I just don't bring it up to them. I'm sure they have no clue how I really feel.


graybealgirl
by Platinum Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:34 AM
awesome
Anonymous
by Anonymous 38 on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:40 AM
What a nice coincidence
babyboy117
by on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:43 AM

 Wow. God provided. And you kept your FAITH. Wow. I had a prayer answered today. When my husband put in for leave (he is deployed) he requested 30 days. They never grant 30 days. We prayed on it. Well he only got 21. We go the pane ticket and everything for him to return after 21 days. I remember telling him when he first put his leave in, " don't worry baby this 30 day leave WILL be given to us". I forgot I even said that. Well, today my hubby skypes me, he says "  i will be home in 4 days and I will be hoe for 30 days!" Not only did we get the 30 days we prayed for, but he will be home 2 weeks earlier then he was suppose to be! GOD is good. I am so happy for you and your family <3 AMEN

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