Question: Who should keep DH's grandma
Total Votes: 205
My DH's grandmother is not going to be able to stay in the nursing home she is in, she is in the assisted living section but she needs WAY more care then that now. She is very senile and needs help going to the bathroom and being changed and showering. Unfortunately, the nursing home doesn't have any room in the area with the level of care she now needs. They are putting her on a waiting list and it could be anywhere from a few months to a few years.The problem is, DH's family needs to find somewhere for her to stay in the meantime. His mother says she "just can't do it" and his sister is "too busy" (yes, she works full time but she doesn't have any children) so everyone assumes she should come live with us because I am a SAHM with 5 kids (ages 1 year to 13 years). DH feels like we should take her and has been pressuring me to agree, the only problem is "we" wouldn't be the one caring for her I would. DH works a lot so I most of her care would be left to me. I just don't have the time and quit frankly, she is not my grandma so I don't think I should have to be the one wiping her butt. My MIL works part time and I just don't see why she can't take care of her own mother, especially since she is leaving MIL just about everything in her will.