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I just realized we can't afford Christmas...

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I did all the math on our bills over $1000 due this month most overdue. My daughter is 3 and learned about Santa this year at school, and my son is 1 and doesn't no better so I'm thinking I'll just say Santa forgot? I don't know what to. We already cut back on everything and were still drowning. We don't qualify for any PA, because of my husbands unemployment and the vaule of my car. I can barely keep food on the table. I can't sell my car cause its the only one we have and it's not worth that much. We're both looking for jobs but can't find any. I just don't know what to do. Thanks for listening. 

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 29, 2012 at 6:33 PM
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by Desiree` on Nov. 29, 2012 at 7:41 PM

 Do you go to church?

by Anonymous 20 on Nov. 29, 2012 at 7:43 PM
Your bills are $1200?? What does that include? I feel like I pay a crap load of $$ right now!

Quoting Anonymous:

 I don't understand how bills can sneak either.  Normal bills I know will be roughly $1200.  The only thing that EVER "sneaks" is medical bills and the we recently had a $400 bill pop up from a year ago!  I"m always planning how many hours I need at work to pay the bills.  Always.  It's like the math is always running through my head to make sure there's enough.  If there's not, I sell something of mine to cover the difference.  To cover the $400, I had to sell my laptop, my kindle, and our yard blower.

Quoting Anonymous:

I agree, and wish I had the balls to say it.

ALSO   I dont know how those bills and things can sneak up on you either... I can tell you roughly what is going to be in my bank account and what will be coming out at any point in the month for at least four months forward. Any change of income and I sit down and calculate how its going to affect us. This might just be a side effect of being poor for so long...  Now, if something drastic happened and we had a large bill dumped on us, I might be in a frenzy for a minute... but it doesnt sound like the OPs case. 

PREPARE!!!!! Gah, people, its called a budget. We are all old enough to have children, we should all be able to have some sort of budget

Quoting Anonymous:

 For's not like christmas can sneak up on you.  It's the same time every year.  This is why you plan and prepare.  So your bills are $1000?  I feel you.  I feel like we are drowning constanty...especially if I have a short paycheck.  But you know what?  My son will have a full christmas tree.  Why?  Because I planned.  I know Christmas is Secember 25th.  EVERY YEAR.  the day doesn't change.  I started buying one gift a week back in the summer.  For the bigger gifts, I would set $20 out of every paycheck.  Why not be smart about it?  The angel tree annoys me when it comes to people like you who don't prepare.

That is all.  Call me a bitch, but I don't care.  We are poor, but still have food on the table, bills are paid, and my son will have a christmas   (even though gifts don't make christmas)


by Gold Member on Nov. 29, 2012 at 7:43 PM
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I know this was intended for OP, but may I ask what this opportunity was? If you don't mind, can u pm me about it? Thanks

Quoting BeautyFull:

Oh boy! Your kids are young but dont train them to think that Christmas is about gifts.  Last year my family and I were not in a good position, our boys 5 & 11 already knew that we love them and if they dont get nothing for Christmas they will get when we have Money. 

Because they were so understanding we still wanted to try do something, specially for the younger one.  So we went to Walmart and bought a few toys that cost $1.00 and packed them into some nice size boxes and put them under the tree that we couldnt afford to decorate.  My oldest son got some cloths that were on sale, we may have spent $10.00! When they opened up them gifts they were so Happy, and we didnt even spend $30.00

I must say tho, both my husband and I are in a better position this year because I have found an opportunity that is changing our lives!  If you are interested I would be happy to share it with you and your husband.

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by on Nov. 29, 2012 at 7:45 PM

You could teach your children that materialism is the opposite of what our savior Jesus Christ cared to teach, but I am guilty of showering my son with gifts at Christmas because it's fun!!!

Toys for Tots is great, especially when the kids are really young like that.  That's what Charity is there for;  for the people hitting hard times.  Maybe you could set aside a time in the future when you exchange gifts when times are better for you guys, like a birthday or valetines or something.  Good luck!!!

by on Nov. 29, 2012 at 7:46 PM
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This this this!!! My childhood was financially tight but full of glorious memories while my teenage years was full of expensive trips and clothes yet strife. I will ALWAYS remember playing board games huddled around the fireplace. If you make it fun, they won't know the difference and will love it. They pick up more on your attitude then anything else.

Quoting kikibix:

Christmas is not about gifts, it's about memories.  Cut out a Christmas tree shape out of newspapers and tape it to a wall and decorate it, bake some goodies, put on some Christmas music, go to the free local holiday events, read books, light the fireplace, etc.  It's about making special memories not about gifts that nobody will remember.  Think back on your own lifetime what is it about Christmas that is so special?  Don't fall into the commercial trap.

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by Ruby Member on Nov. 29, 2012 at 7:48 PM

Maybe get a few little tthings at the dollar store.

by on Nov. 29, 2012 at 7:49 PM
A one year isnt going to know better. Three year old probably doesnt either. Get them something from the dollar store or make her something. Thats the good thing about that age you can go inexpensive and they wont care. Not like a 12 year old...
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by on Nov. 29, 2012 at 7:50 PM

Quoting BeautyFull:

Another thing I tought my kids..  SANTA DONT BRING _________!!! Parents are the ones that work hard to make sure that kids have a wonderful Christmas!!! I will be damed if I let my kids think different.

I don't like the Santa thing either because I don't think it's right to tell children that certain lies are ok, and others aren't.  Children are trusting you to tell them the truth, because they get punished when they lie. 

by on Nov. 29, 2012 at 7:51 PM
Buy the 1 year old something for 5 bucks and the 3 year year old a doll for 10 dollars. The kids wont know the difference between a 100 dollar toy and a 5 dollar toy. You still have over 3 weeks to come up with something. Don't upset your daughter by telling her Santa forgot, it will break her little heart! Also, call local charities and talk to the school.
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by Anonymous 21 on Nov. 29, 2012 at 7:52 PM
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If you have internet and a computer then you are not to bad off. Sale the computer and cancel the internet... Those are both wants not needs!!!!

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