I am freaking FUMING!!!!** Am I being OVER dramatic here???

[Anonymous]

Today was the awards ceremony at school. My son received Student of the Month. I was BEYOND excited to attend and see him get his award.

My ex and I Share custody, and he had the boys last night.

I arrived to the school before my ex and my boys. My ex brought the kids LATE! They arrive and I ask him, all the while rushing the kids out of his truck, why he was late. We rush in and I walk my son into the "auditorium" where the classes meet before class begins. I walk him to his class section, and he has a seat.

They had the projection screen up and were talking through the mic. The lady announces. "Oh Brycen, here is your award. We announced your name earlier, but you weren't here.."

OMG. I was livid! Not only did my ex bring him to school late, he missed his award!!

My son is 6... Yeah yeah, some might say its "no big deal", but to me.. It IS. My ex is late to EVERYTHING!!!

He was late pickin me up on our first date, and he was late to the birth of our child!!

He never wants our children to be normal children. He says they don't need friends, they only need their family. When we were married, he wanted me to homeschool them!! He doesn't want them involved in ANY type of sport, or any type of social event. He even tried to fight me in court about keeping our children out of this school.

I am so f-ing fed up, its unreal.

I told him I was pissed bc he was late.. And he just laughed in my face...

Am I being a bit dramatic here??!!


Ok. I have explained in my replies WHY I didn't just keep my sons last night, and WHY I couldn't pick them up this morning...

[luckysevenwow]

It sounds like you have a good kid, and there will be more Student of the Month awards. He still got the award, you make a big deal tonight. Truth is your son has probably already moved on from it. Make sure for future awards that you have your kids, even if it means dad doesn't get his night. 

Quoting Anonymous:

I told him over 6 times NOT to be late.. I told him how important today was..
I told him in texts and over the phone. I spoke to him over the phone this morning, and he told me he had already left his house.. I live 15 min away from the school, he live 10. There was no reason at all why he should've been late. He was being careless.. As always..

He only cares about himself. Point blank.

Ughh.

Quoting luckysevenwow:

I understand being upset, I just think you're making it a bigger deal then it is. You dated, then married a man, had children with him and knew he was always late to things. Why would today be any different? Did you call him to make sure they were running on time? Maybe gone over yourself and picked up the kids?

I have a few friends who are chronically late so we always tell them a half hour earlier then they are really needed. Try that from now on.

[emeraldangel2.0]

Quoting luckysevenwow:

I understand being upset, I just think you're making it a bigger deal then it is. You dated, then married a man, had children with him and knew he was always late to things. Why would today be any different? Did you call him to make sure they were running on time? Maybe gone over yourself and picked up the kids?

I have a few friends who are chronically late so we always tell them a half hour earlier then they are really needed. Try that from now on.

this!!!!

though i don't think you were dramatic at all

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

I'm obviously going to HAVE to do that..

But yes.. My kid is a GOOD kid :)

So proud of that little guy :)

Quoting luckysevenwow:

It sounds like you have a good kid, and there will be more Student of the Month awards. He still got the award, you make a big deal tonight. Truth is your son has probably already moved on from it. Make sure for future awards that you have your kids, even if it means dad doesn't get his night. 

Quoting Anonymous:

I told him over 6 times NOT to be late.. I told him how important today was..

I told him in texts and over the phone. I spoke to him over the phone this morning, and he told me he had already left his house.. I live 15 min away from the school, he live 10. There was no reason at all why he should've been late. He was being careless.. As always..



He only cares about himself. Point blank.



Ughh.

Quoting luckysevenwow:

I understand being upset, I just think you're making it a bigger deal then it is. You dated, then married a man, had children with him and knew he was always late to things. Why would today be any different? Did you call him to make sure they were running on time? Maybe gone over yourself and picked up the kids?

I have a few friends who are chronically late so we always tell them a half hour earlier then they are really needed. Try that from now on.

[mrs.bledsoe]

No you are not being over dramatic. I would push it to court and have a judge or lawyer tell him to man the hell up. Most states have truancy laws that apply to being late and you need to stick it to his ass because he is hurting your children.

Congrats to your baby! Mine got Student of the Month in September and I was super proud.

[Anonymous]

If you knew he was always late for everything, you should have had your son stay at your house last night. Not only the ex's fault since you already know his behavior. Sorry for the boy though :(

[gardengirl23]

You aren't being overdramatic, but unfortunately there isn't a damn thing you can do about it.  He isn't going to change.  Stop fighting with him over this.  It sucks.  You had children with a douche bag and they will suffer for it but they also may learn things like how much it sucks to be late.

[Anonymous]

Sue for custody. Based on inability to provide for the children's education.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Unfortunately.. I cannot keep the kids on his nights. We go to trial in February to rule on custody and child support. If I kept them on HIS night, I could get in trouble, and he could say, like he has before.. "I'm keeping him away from his kids"

He is an ultimate douch bag. Sadly..

Quoting Anonymous:

If you knew he was always late for everything, you should have had your son stay at your house last night. Not only the ex's fault since you already know his behavior. Sorry for the boy though :(

[luckysevenwow]

Make him a cake...what kid doesn't like cake :)

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm obviously going to HAVE to do that..

But yes.. My kid is a GOOD kid :)

So proud of that little guy :)

Quoting luckysevenwow:

It sounds like you have a good kid, and there will be more Student of the Month awards. He still got the award, you make a big deal tonight. Truth is your son has probably already moved on from it. Make sure for future awards that you have your kids, even if it means dad doesn't get his night. 

Quoting Anonymous:

I told him over 6 times NOT to be late.. I told him how important today was..

I told him in texts and over the phone. I spoke to him over the phone this morning, and he told me he had already left his house.. I live 15 min away from the school, he live 10. There was no reason at all why he should've been late. He was being careless.. As always..



He only cares about himself. Point blank.



Ughh.

Quoting luckysevenwow:

I understand being upset, I just think you're making it a bigger deal then it is. You dated, then married a man, had children with him and knew he was always late to things. Why would today be any different? Did you call him to make sure they were running on time? Maybe gone over yourself and picked up the kids?

I have a few friends who are chronically late so we always tell them a half hour earlier then they are really needed. Try that from now on.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

We have trial in February

Quoting Anonymous:

Sue for custody. Based on inability to provide for the children's education.