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People who smoke are not good parents

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

This belief is what kept me from smoking. I quit the day I found out I was pregnant and never smoked again. I view (for myself) that smoking would make me less of a parent.

1. A parent who can not effectively handle stress without the aid of a drug, will not be able to teach her children to do so

2. A parent who willingly shortens their lifespan, despite being a parent, is placing instant gratification above the needs of her children

3. A parent who smokes knowing the likelihood that her smoking will lead her child to smoke in the future, is putting her addiction above the health of her child.


Now I imagine that some of you will get defensive over this post, and many of you will even make excuses as to how you can smoke and these statements don't apply to you. At the end of the day, it makes no difference how an internet stranger views your decisions. I posted this because it keeps me from smoking, and maybe someone will read it, take it to heart and it will keep them from smoking too.

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 30, 2012 at 8:43 PM
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sophiesister2
by Gold Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 9:14 PM
Ebf shortens your lifespan how?


Quoting Anonymous:

Yep. Like not using sunscreen, tanning, eating too many processed foods, not exercising regularly, ebf, ect.




Quoting Anonymous:

Ok well I hope then you dont do any of the billion thinks that could cause cancer or shorten your lifespan. Since you are so much better than a smoker you know....



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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 30, 2012 at 9:15 PM
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Let him who is without sin cast the first stone. Are you perfect? No. You should take the board out of your own eye before trying to remove the splinter from your brother's. :)

I'm glad you are able to avoid smoking. Sadly, some people got addicted while still young. This is a very hard addiction to overcome. I just feel it is wrong to judge someone for smoking by saying that makes them a bad mother. That's just crossing the line, IMO. Maybe if they were smoking in the same room with your kids, or smoking in a car with them...maybe then you could say that is not very good parenting.

wrensong
by Pagan Mother on Nov. 30, 2012 at 9:16 PM

As a child of two smokers who both died of lung cancer, I agree with #2.

My parents were awesome parents, I just wish they were still here. It saddens me that their smoking was more important to them than seeing me become the person I am and getting to know their grandkids.

Also watching a parent die a slow painful death is the worst thing ever...I had had to do it twice.

If you smoke, please think about stopping so you are around for a very loong time

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 30, 2012 at 9:20 PM
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A person who can not effectively handle stress without the aid of a drug,........
Wonder how many non-smokers fall into that category.
Oceana09
by Gold Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 9:23 PM

I quit in September and honestly I don't know why in the world I ever started. It stinks, the smell now makes me want to pulk, and I can't honestly tell my child "if I ever see you light up, I'll strangle you" without being a hypocryte. I also like the fact that my vocals have gotten back to where they were in HS. I was ecstatic when I was able to nail Kelly Clarkson's "Breakaway" for the first time in YEARS last week.

Oceana09
by Gold Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 9:27 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss. I had a friend who's dad was AMAZING and I absolutely loved him growing up. Her mom too. My mom would never let me go to their house because they were smokers though. If I went over I had to promise to stay outside and if I went inside she could always tell by the way I smelled when I got home. About 4 months after we graduated I got a call from my dad saying that her dad was in the obituaries and he had died of a sudden heart attack. From what my friend told me, her mom quit smoking the day he died. My friend, unfortunately, started smoking more. 

Quoting wrensong:

As a child of two smokers who both died of lung cancer, I agree with #2.

My parents were awesome parents, I just wish they were still here. It saddens me that their smoking was more important to them than seeing me become the person I am and getting to know their grandkids.

Also watching a parent die a slow painful death is the worst thing ever...I had had to do it twice.

If you smoke, please think about stopping so you are around for a very loong time


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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 30, 2012 at 10:30 PM
I didn't say they were comparable. I was saying that one can claim to be a better parent without being perfect. As for judgemental, nowhere in any of my personal posts did I state that smoking makes someone a bad parent. Your argument just made the least sense to me, along with sounding the most defensive...

so instead of calling me a twat, or giving more crappy arguments, why dont you just go blow some more smoke in your asthmatic preemie's face. I'm sure that'll make you feel better.


Quoting Anonymous:

Then in that sense you are a better parent because you don't beat your child at all. However you put your life in danger all the time. Smoking and beating your child is nowhere comparable but if you want to be a judgemental twat then go ahead.


Quoting Anonymous:

That doesn't make sense at all. I'm nowhere near perfect, but I can read a million news stories about people doing horrible things to their children and know I'm a better parent. Like that YouTube video of that Asian woman beating her baby...I decided I was a better mom than her in about 14 seconds!





Quoting Anonymous:

Im not arguing with that...However if you are going to claim to be better than someone you sure as hell should make sure you are pretty damn near perfect.



Quoting Anonymous:

Here's the thing. There are lots of things out there that MIGHT cause cancer. To try to avoid all of them would be impossible. However, there is one, completely unnecessary thing that people choose to do when we know FOR SURE that it causes cancer, plus a bunch of other nasty stuff that kills you. And that thing happens to be...what was it again...








Quoting Anonymous:

Ok well I hope then you dont do any of the billion thinks that could cause cancer or shorten your lifespan. Since you are so much better than a smoker you know....









Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 30, 2012 at 10:34 PM
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Exactly where do we send your self-righteous, braggarty cunt award to?

Reformed smokers are always the worst, just think though, you still smoked though.
kellymarie323
by on Nov. 30, 2012 at 10:36 PM
Yeah! Well said.

Quoting Anonymous:

Exactly where do we send your self-righteous, braggarty cunt award to?



Reformed smokers are always the worst, just think though, you still smoked though.
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Ber-Lynn
by Count Me In on Nov. 30, 2012 at 10:36 PM
I use marijuana but put it in a vaporizer, it does not make my life shorter or make me less of a parent.
Never smoke cigarettes though and both of my parents smoke them.
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