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Nobody told me i could do both! *edit to answer questions*

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Nobody told me i could breastfeed and formula feed. I stoppped breastfeeding my first dd when she was two months old because i couldnt pump. I never got a break and she was ALWAYS hungry. I thought i was just not producing enough milk.

But with this baby it is soooo much easier formula feeding and breastfeeding. I didnt add the formula until she was two weeks old, but it is sooo much easier. I do not pump, she gets about two bottles of formula a day and i strictly breastfeed at night (its easier then getting up and making the bottle, lol). I get my break, my boobs arnt near as sore, and others get to feed her as well. Im not shy about feeding her in public, but its easier being able to give her a bottle when we r out and about. She does pretty good with it, sometimes she will prefer a bottle over the boob or the other way around. I think i will be able to breastfeed her until she is at least one, or bites my boob, lol.

I wish i knew then what i know now.... my second child is sooo much easier than my first and thats with a two year old running around. Its amazing the little tricks you learn that nobody tells you, like they actually make a little swaddle blanket. Im sure they had them two years ago, but i always tried to use a regular baby blanket and she would wiggle her way out of it. With this one they gave me one at the hospital and mil bought us one the day we brought her home.
Also, i learned that if you hold a baby nonstop, they always want to be held. I learned my lesson with my first. I get more done now with two kids then i did back then with one baby.


Any one else learn anything from experience? Please share, my kids r still teaching me everyday. Lol.


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wow, this post went a total diff direction than i was hoping, i was hoping people would be giving advice on things they learned, not bashing me, but whatever...

I do hold my baby a lot, just note nonstop like with my first. If she falls asleep i put her down, with my first i would hold her if she fell asleep.

I have a bf consultant come to my house for the first six weeks. She was awesome and was actually the one who told me it wont hurt to give her a bottle or two a day because she seen how hard it was for me to pump, i can get about four ounces in twenty min, but i have to squeeze my boobs to do this, and thats with two diff pumps. She realized i was getting depressed and was really hard on myself.

My supply is still really good, just this morning my baby was acting funny whle bf and i took my boob out and it was just squirting everywhere and was too much at one time for her. My supply is good and if two bottles a day starts to make me dry up, i will go to one a day. But its been a few weeks and its fine.

I use the nuk breastfeeding nipples and bottles, its shaped like the end of a boob and the nipple looks like mine with the hole on top instead of on the end like normal bottle. Damn things cost $10 for three bottle and that was on sale.

I am feeding my kid and she is happy, i hold her a lot, just not nonstop. I have things i need to do. If your milk dried up im sorry, but everyones body is different, im still going strong. I am still mainy breastfeeding, so its really not necessary to bash. She eats every two hours, thats during the day and night, so i relly dont think two bottles matters. And even the bf consultant told me its healthier for me and baby to do both rather than just bf and me get post partum depression from being overwhelmed. She said i was starting to show the signs.

So to those who didnt bash, thankyou.....to the rest, why bother even commenting????? This post was to tell what u learned, not to bash me on what i feed my kid, or because i put her down instead of never putting her down and wearing a sling while i clean toilets and do the dishes.....
by on Dec. 3, 2012 at 8:18 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 11 on Dec. 3, 2012 at 1:33 PM

I didn't learn that you coud do both until my fourth child! Or it just never occurred to me- finally though with my fourth, I pumped and gave exclusively breastmilk for the first couple or few months and then began interspersing formula with our pediatrician guiding- I felt so much better having given the baby breastmilk and wish I had known to do this with all my other children. Now my dd is pregnant and I'm explaining to her that it doesn't have to be all or nothing.

but I held them all a LOT, slings and wraps and such made it easier with the later babies, but I feel personally babies are MEANT to be held and cuddled and catered to, when they're infants I just don't care about anything else as much,  lol...that's just my philosophy:)

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Dec. 3, 2012 at 1:50 PM
When you feel guilty you take offense at things that weren said in malice.

Quoting Anonymous:

What you posted wasn't supportive. It was bitchy. I was pointing out that you have had no issues exclusively breasted edging without relying on supplementing formula. 

The OP supplements. She isn't starving her child, feeding it acid, or throwing it outside to fend for itself. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Seriously? I was saying i can't pump either but ds never had a bottle. I was being supportive. Bitter much?



Quoting Crazy-Steph:

Jesus.  I'm pretty sure this was a pissing match post.  Do you want a cookie or something?  Do you need to be told that you are a more superior mother than the OP?  Really, what is your point?

Quoting Anonymous:

I can't pump and ds has never had a bottle





Quoting mom2cheesebug:

Quoting Anonymous:

Bf is supply and demand. Your supply isn't going to hold up if you keep giving formula.













Two bottles a day wont make my supply go down when the kid eats every two hours. I have only went through one can of formula and she is a month and a half old. When u cant pump, its nice to get a break. If i sit there and squeeze my boob while pumping i can get about four ounces, but my boobies cant take that. I have tried two diff pumps and they just dont suction hard enough i guess.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 10 on Dec. 3, 2012 at 1:51 PM

What do I have to feel guilty about? My kids were all EB for the first 12 months. 

Being supportive isn't the same as being guilty. 

Quoting Anonymous:

When you feel guilty you take offense at things that weren said in malice.

Quoting Anonymous:

What you posted wasn't supportive. It was bitchy. I was pointing out that you have had no issues exclusively breasted edging without relying on supplementing formula. 

The OP supplements. She isn't starving her child, feeding it acid, or throwing it outside to fend for itself. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Seriously? I was saying i can't pump either but ds never had a bottle. I was being supportive. Bitter much?



Quoting Crazy-Steph:

Jesus.  I'm pretty sure this was a pissing match post.  Do you want a cookie or something?  Do you need to be told that you are a more superior mother than the OP?  Really, what is your point?

Quoting Anonymous:

I can't pump and ds has never had a bottle





Quoting mom2cheesebug:

Quoting Anonymous:

Bf is supply and demand. Your supply isn't going to hold up if you keep giving formula.













Two bottles a day wont make my supply go down when the kid eats every two hours. I have only went through one can of formula and she is a month and a half old. When u cant pump, its nice to get a break. If i sit there and squeeze my boob while pumping i can get about four ounces, but my boobies cant take that. I have tried two diff pumps and they just dont suction hard enough i guess.




alexsmomma06
by Platinum Member on Dec. 3, 2012 at 1:54 PM
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I did and it never affected my supply. It actually helped me bf longer with my youngest because I didn't feel overwhelmed my being the only one who could feed them. Do what is best for you and baby, and forget the haters.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Dec. 3, 2012 at 1:54 PM
I was supportive. I have 1 ff child and 1 bf child. I was not snarky. I was stating a fact about my life. It is yoy who is being the bitch not me.

Quoting Anonymous:

What do I have to feel guilty about? My kids were all EB for the first 12 months. 

Being supportive isn't the same as being guilty. 

Quoting Anonymous:

When you feel guilty you take offense at things that weren said in malice.



Quoting Anonymous:

What you posted wasn't supportive. It was bitchy. I was pointing out that you have had no issues exclusively breasted edging without relying on supplementing formula. 

The OP supplements. She isn't starving her child, feeding it acid, or throwing it outside to fend for itself. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Seriously? I was saying i can't pump either but ds never had a bottle. I was being supportive. Bitter much?





Quoting Crazy-Steph:

Jesus.  I'm pretty sure this was a pissing match post.  Do you want a cookie or something?  Do you need to be told that you are a more superior mother than the OP?  Really, what is your point?

Quoting Anonymous:

I can't pump and ds has never had a bottle







Quoting mom2cheesebug:

Quoting Anonymous:

Bf is supply and demand. Your supply isn't going to hold up if you keep giving formula.
















Two bottles a day wont make my supply go down when the kid eats every two hours. I have only went through one can of formula and she is a month and a half old. When u cant pump, its nice to get a break. If i sit there and squeeze my boob while pumping i can get about four ounces, but my boobies cant take that. I have tried two diff pumps and they just dont suction hard enough i guess.




stickyfingers
by Platinum Member on Dec. 3, 2012 at 2:00 PM
supply and demand...if shes not nursing those times she wont make it so ya...she will be making less milk


Quoting mom2cheesebug:

Quoting MacensMommy228:

Ur supply can suffer.





Not with just two bottles a day. She has skipped more feedings than that on her off days.

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NathansmomEmmie
by Bronze Member on Dec. 3, 2012 at 5:41 PM

I did that with my second and third baby-I started formula with both at 3 weeks.  My supply never suffered and I nursed till 13 months with both.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Dec. 3, 2012 at 5:41 PM

It's not easy to do for a lot of people.  Substituting a few bottles of day of formula can make your supply drop, leading baby to prefer bottle feeding, leading to more formula...

I've breastfed three babies. The first two exclusively. As soon as a gave my youngest formula a few bottles a day for a few days my supply dried up real quick. Which was OK for me because I was ready to wean her anyways.

junebaby11
by on Dec. 3, 2012 at 5:43 PM
I just dont quit understand why do u give formula? Your breasts will make,enough if ypur working i understand but if u are staying home i think its a waist of money
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Action_Jaxon
by on Dec. 3, 2012 at 5:54 PM
I supplement too. Ds can nurse for 45 min and still be hungry. So i usually give 1-2 oz formula after. I pump sometimes but the most ive gotten from one boob was 3oz. And its hard to pump when it takes an hour to feed him and he eats every 2 hours. My boobs would never get a break.
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