That's right. He comes to see me because he can't bring himself to tell you that he's sick of your submissive doormat ways, he'd love it if you initiated sex, or took control, or were in any way responsible or your own choices, feelings and orgasms. He tells me all the time that he wishes he'd never agreed to your whole submissive wife thing, he thought it would be easy, but by now he's just tired of having to control every little thing. So he comes to see me, and I take control and rock his world, he's my plaything, that's what he wants and craves but can't get from you because you've talked yourself into believing a load of crap about male and female "roles".
Don't worry. I'll make sure he takes a good shower before he comes home to make all your decisions for you.