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I Should Be More Sad? *Abortion Related* |UPDATE|

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I'm not positive that I am pregnant.

However, I have a gut feeling I may be, and after days of freaking out over the fact, I have decided, that if i am, I will be ending the pregnancy.
I have never, ever believed in abortion. I don't have a problem with someone else having one, but for me, it was the biggest no no.

Amazing how life changes your views.

I am aware that adoption is available, but the situation I'm in means that no, it is not an option that I will entertain. I could keep the baby, I'm sure, but no, I refuse that option too. I am aware of the bashing that is coming. Why open your legs if you don't want a baby etc etc, and I'm waiting for it. I already have a 1yr old daughter, who I'm in the middle of a custody battle with her dad over. I also met the love of my life, and as selfish as it sounds; I refuse to fuck it up with him.

I'm not asking for advice, I just needed to get it out. I guess, the only thing I don't understand, is how calm about the whole thing I am. I thought I'd be crying all the time, or freaking out; but really, if I'm pregnant, then it is an abortion, and for some reason I feel no pain about that...

 

I'm totally and completely not pregnant, thank god for that.

My man said he would have supported me even if I was, but I'm just glad we didn't have to worry about that eventuality.

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 3, 2012 at 11:19 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 3, 2012 at 11:47 PM


Quoting The.Hug.Life:

I think you should talk to the friend. Ultimately, the choice is yours and I hope you make the one that's best for you and your children. Be more careful in the future, okay? 

Quoting Anonymous:

 

Quoting The.Hug.Life:

Wait...you refuse to fuck it up with him? A baby would fuck it up? I mean, I'm totally pro-choice. Go for it, if that's what you need to do. Doesn't matter what your reasons are to me. 

But is he also pro-choice? Because if his beliefs dictate that life begins at conception, he may see this as you killing his child. That really would fuck it up for you. I also think that if you are pregnant, you should talk to him about it.

It's not his, it's from before we got together. We haven't had sex yet.


I will. Birth control.

maybebaby83
by Member on Dec. 3, 2012 at 11:47 PM

I'm pro choice.. Do what you NEED to do, but remember you have to live with your choices forever.. No matter what they are.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Dec. 3, 2012 at 11:50 PM

So the love of your life, isn't the father? O.o

norwgnwood
by Platinum Member on Dec. 3, 2012 at 11:52 PM

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 13 on Dec. 3, 2012 at 11:54 PM
I said I would never get an abortion, however at this point in my life, if I were to get pregnant, I probably would consider it. My tubes are tied, I have 4 kids and start nursing school in February.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 13 on Dec. 3, 2012 at 11:56 PM
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There are plenty of children out there who would love to be adopted too.


Quoting Anonymous:

maybe you should sort your life out before you look for love..and use birth control if you do have a abortion.another option would be adoption there are plenty of couples out there that wish they could have a child.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 5, 2012 at 10:48 PM


Quoting Anonymous:

So the love of your life, isn't the father? O.o


I suppose I could explain a little bit better. I just moved back to my hometown, after being away for many months. I haven't seen this man in a couple of years. I had sex with someone before I moved back here. We ran into each other and things got serious quick, I'm still not sure if I'm pregnant or if I have miscounted my cycle, or even if it is a delayed period due to stress.

We haven't had sex yet, we want to wait for a while. I cannot handle a pregnancy physically or psychologically at the moment.  I know that it may seem like a terrible decision to make, but it is mine to make.

AubreeGrace17
by Platinum Member on Dec. 5, 2012 at 10:50 PM
I find no fault in your decision.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 14 on Dec. 5, 2012 at 10:51 PM
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There are plenty of older kids in foster homes that wish they could have a family


Quoting Anonymous:

maybe you should sort your life out before you look for love..and use birth control if you do have a abortion.another option would be adoption there are plenty of couples out there that wish they could have a child.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 15 on Dec. 5, 2012 at 10:51 PM

You don't feel pain because you are comfortable with your decision. I have been there. No regrets. Good luck, I hope you aren't pregnant!

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