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sick of it and I'm stuck. f*** going anon* eta

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I don't know what else to do.



I've said it before. Ever since my husband was diagnosed with diabetes he's been a Fucking jerk. He's been angy- and I'm sick of it. He even makes low blows like how I have to pee ALL the time. Since pregnancy, and it never got better. He's in therapy- to deal with his anger- and nothing is getting better. Nothing.



I told him after the holidays, I want a divorce. I love him so much, but I don't deserve to be treated like shit while he's mad at the world. What did he do? Grab his insulin and threaten to OD on it.



Not the first time.



I took the insulin, all of it, and I'm going to hand it to him when he needs it. I'll also be calling his therapist today.



I just want my sweet, caring husband back. I'm sick of the asshole that replaced him. I've asked him to do couples therapy with me and he refuses. I want to fix things- but I seem to be the only one.



Ndkandbjdoebdjfodneb Fuck.



Seriously, just fuuuuck.



.........ok I'm done. Advice?


*eta*
He calmed down, and I reapproached calmly. We talked for a while about what needs to change, and why I'm so upset. I explained to him that I can handle the depression- I know what to do- but I can't deal with anger directed at me, when I did nothing to deserve it. Its not fair, and it's not a healthy environment

We hugged and kissed.

For better or for worse..... we're going to work through it. Thank you to the mom that reminded me of my vows. It helped snap me back to reality. I love him, and I don't want to leave... I'm just so fed up. I'm going to take a lot of the advice that I've been given.

Thank you
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by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 4:55 AM
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3pippings
by Silver Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 5:45 AM

Is it only because of the diabetes that he's changed? Does he know that it's not the end of the world? He just need to eat healthy, exercise etc to control it.

My dad is also diabetic. I kept telling him to change his diet but he never listened until recently. His test was over 500! I told him off and he finally agree to do what I told him to do. Taking vitamins, changed his diet, exercising and quit smoking. 3 weeks after all that, his test was a little over 200. And he doesn't use insulin injection.

xomrs.chase
by Ruby Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 5:46 AM
He tells me bits and pieces, and I've seen his care plan.
His therapist told him that what we're going through is normal. #1 I hate that term .. normal for who??? And #2 part of me feels like the therapist isn't hearing everything..
Idk. They're not my sessions. He's been through a lot- and I get that- but it's not MY fault (kwim?)


Quoting Unoriginal.:

What's going on in his therapy sessions, do you know?

Quoting xomrs.chase:

It's back and forth. I'll have 1 or 2 days of sweet Dh- then he's worse than before. :(

It's so frustrating.




Quoting Unoriginal.:

Aw honey. I had no idea, I thought things has gotten better!


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Unoriginal.
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 5:47 AM

Can you sit in with him in a session?

xomrs.chase
by Ruby Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 5:50 AM
He's type 1. His body doesn't produce insulin on its own.
It was a fight to get him to a nutritionist, but he went.

He's been through a lot. I think this was his breaking point. I get it- but I'm tired of being the (metaphorical) punching bag


Quoting 3pippings:

Is it only because of the diabetes that he's changed? Does he know that it's not the end of the world? He just need to eat healthy, exercise etc to control it.

My dad is also diabetic. I kept telling him to change his diet but he never listened until recently. His test was over 500! I told him off and he finally agree to do what I told him to do. Taking vitamins, changed his diet, exercising and quit smoking. 3 weeks after all that, his test was a little over 200. And he doesn't use insulin injection.

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xomrs.chase
by Ruby Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 5:50 AM
I'm going to ask when I call today.

Quoting Unoriginal.:

Can you sit in with him in a session?

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xomrs.chase
by Ruby Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 5:51 AM
I agree. His therapist doesn't.

Quoting Anonymous:

He needs put on meds.
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fairy_fan
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 5:53 AM

There are several diabetics in my family and from your post and replies, it sounds to me like his meds aren't regulated yet.  He may be on the wrong insulin for him, he may need different meds to go along with his insulin.  Those meds may include antidepressants, and if he is already on them, they may need to be adjusted.  Diabetics are prone to depression because of how they feel when their blood sugars go up and down.  

Are you just going to your GP for his diabetes management?  He may need to see an Endocinologist.  My SIL was the worst with acting like this until she saw one and changed all of her meds around.  And what about a dietician?  My uncle is a real ass when he isn't eating right but refuses to see a dietician.  My dad becomes more depressed when he steps off his diet for very long.   

I wish you the best.  Like I said, diabetes runs rampant in my family and I know, I really do know, how hard they are to deal with when they are first learning how to manage it.

3pippings
by Silver Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 5:55 AM

I see. 

It's really a tough situation. 

Does he follow the nutritionist's advice?

Type 1 still can be helped with vitamins so he doesn't need or dependent too much on insulin injection.


Quoting xomrs.chase:

He's type 1. His body doesn't produce insulin on its own.
It was a fight to get him to a nutritionist, but he went.

He's been through a lot. I think this was his breaking point. I get it- but I'm tired of being the (metaphorical) punching bag


Quoting 3pippings:

Is it only because of the diabetes that he's changed? Does he know that it's not the end of the world? He just need to eat healthy, exercise etc to control it.

My dad is also diabetic. I kept telling him to change his diet but he never listened until recently. His test was over 500! I told him off and he finally agree to do what I told him to do. Taking vitamins, changed his diet, exercising and quit smoking. 3 weeks after all that, his test was a little over 200. And he doesn't use insulin injection.


artio.sd
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 5:56 AM
Is he type 1 or 2? How long ago was he diagnosed? Does he have his sugar levels under control?

When my father and fiancé (type 1) sugars are out of whack their attitudes become toxic, until they are leveled out.

It is a life changing disease, it can and does affect every facet of life. It is normal to go through a grieving process, and anger is a normal part of that. It's ok to be angry, however it's NOT okay to treat others like crap. Considering he has threatened to kill him self I would be telling his therapist, primary care doc and his endocrinologist. When diabetic sugars get low they are NOT sane and when it's to high they feel like crap and not just physically.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 4, 2012 at 5:57 AM
Then he needs another dr.

Your family dr can give him something

I have to take meds for my anger


Quoting xomrs.chase:

I agree. His therapist doesn't.



Quoting Anonymous:

He needs put on meds.

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