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sick of it and I'm stuck. f*** going anon* eta

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I don't know what else to do.



I've said it before. Ever since my husband was diagnosed with diabetes he's been a Fucking jerk. He's been angy- and I'm sick of it. He even makes low blows like how I have to pee ALL the time. Since pregnancy, and it never got better. He's in therapy- to deal with his anger- and nothing is getting better. Nothing.



I told him after the holidays, I want a divorce. I love him so much, but I don't deserve to be treated like shit while he's mad at the world. What did he do? Grab his insulin and threaten to OD on it.



Not the first time.



I took the insulin, all of it, and I'm going to hand it to him when he needs it. I'll also be calling his therapist today.



I just want my sweet, caring husband back. I'm sick of the asshole that replaced him. I've asked him to do couples therapy with me and he refuses. I want to fix things- but I seem to be the only one.



Ndkandbjdoebdjfodneb Fuck.



Seriously, just fuuuuck.



.........ok I'm done. Advice?


*eta*
He calmed down, and I reapproached calmly. We talked for a while about what needs to change, and why I'm so upset. I explained to him that I can handle the depression- I know what to do- but I can't deal with anger directed at me, when I did nothing to deserve it. Its not fair, and it's not a healthy environment

We hugged and kissed.

For better or for worse..... we're going to work through it. Thank you to the mom that reminded me of my vows. It helped snap me back to reality. I love him, and I don't want to leave... I'm just so fed up. I'm going to take a lot of the advice that I've been given.

Thank you
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by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 4:55 AM
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xomrs.chase
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 5:57 AM
Thank you
He sees a therapist, pcp, diabetes specialist, and a nutritionist. He's on a short term and long term insulin shot. (One for eating one for sleeping) that's it.

I didn't know they were prone to it. Ty for that.


Quoting fairy_fan:

There are several diabetics in my family and from your post and replies, it sounds to me like his meds aren't regulated yet.  He may be on the wrong insulin for him, he may need different meds to go along with his insulin.  Those meds may include antidepressants, and if he is already on them, they may need to be adjusted.  Diabetics are prone to depression because of how they feel when their blood sugars go up and down.  

Are you just going to your GP for his diabetes management?  He may need to see an Endocinologist.  My SIL was the worst with acting like this until she saw one and changed all of her meds around.  And what about a dietician?  My uncle is a real ass when he isn't eating right but refuses to see a dietician.  My dad becomes more depressed when he steps off his diet for very long.   

I wish you the best.  Like I said, diabetes runs rampant in my family and I know, I really do know, how hard they are to deal with when they are first learning how to manage it.

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MrsErdos2011
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 5:58 AM

My husband is diabetic as well. It happens, it's genetics usually. Being mad at the world does nothing to help him and can actually make him worse.

I may not be a perfect wife or mother but I am perfect in the eyes of my son and my husband and that is all that matters.

artio.sd
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:04 AM
Quoting fairy_fan:

There are several diabetics in my family and from your post and replies, it sounds to me like his meds aren't regulated yet.  He may be on the wrong insulin for him, he may need different meds to go along with his insulin.  Those meds may include antidepressants, and if he is already on them, they may need to be adjusted.  Diabetics are prone to depression because of how they feel when their blood sugars go up and down.  

Are you just going to your GP for his diabetes management?  He may need to see an Endocinologist.  My SIL was the worst with acting like this until she saw one and changed all of her meds around.  And what about a dietician?  My uncle is a real ass when he isn't eating right but refuses to see a dietician.  My dad becomes more depressed when he steps off his diet for very long.   

I wish you the best.  Like I said, diabetes runs rampant in my family and I know, I really do know, how hard they are to deal with when they are first learning how to manage it.



My family is full of diabetics of both types also. They seem to be some of the most stubborn people in the world when it comes to making the life changes that are needed. Thankfully when I met my fiancé I already experience with the disease because of my father and grandfather. Since I do much of the cooking and grocery shopping his diet has improved. I didn't have to make many changes because it was how I grew up. I'm still arguing with him about going to see an endocrinologist, he doesn't think it's need. But I remember the change it made for my dad and Gramps.
MJuliet
by Bronze Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:08 AM

oh im so sorry!!;( but remember your vows! 

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xomrs.chase
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:16 AM
Type 1.

That's one of the main issues. He's "honeymooning" so his pancreas isn't completely dead. It'll randomly spit out insulin and cause a low crash. Then won't do anything for days.. it sucks. Its been a rollercoaster ride


Quoting artio.sd:

Is he type 1 or 2? How long ago was he diagnosed? Does he have his sugar levels under control?



When my father and fiancé (type 1) sugars are out of whack their attitudes become toxic, until they are leveled out.



It is a life changing disease, it can and does affect every facet of life. It is normal to go through a grieving process, and anger is a normal part of that. It's ok to be angry, however it's NOT okay to treat others like crap. Considering he has threatened to kill him self I would be telling his therapist, primary care doc and his endocrinologist. When diabetic sugars get low they are NOT sane and when it's to high they feel like crap and not just physically.
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xomrs.chase
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:17 AM
Thank you. I keep repeating it to myself..

For better or for worse


Quoting MJuliet:

oh im so sorry!!;( but remember your vows! 

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xomrs.chase
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:17 AM
Indeed.

Quoting MrsErdos2011:

My husband is diabetic as well. It happens, it's genetics usually. Being mad at the world does nothing to help him and can actually make him worse.

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sugareemommee
by Ruby Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:19 AM
I'm sorry. Would he be willing to take medication for anger management? How about a medical mj card? Hugs.
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lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:20 AM
I am also insulin dependent, diagnosed aged 10, I remember crying and saying to my mom that I wished I was dead, it was mainly in the beginning when my teachers fussed over and I didn't like being treated differently and my grandparents fussing over what I ate all the time. My advice to him is to stop feeling sorry for himself, once he excepts this he will realize he can live a normal life that really isn't much different to what he did before. I honestly don't think about it anymore. Therapy may help him accept this
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xomrs.chase
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:25 AM
What are you on?
Not trying to sound rude or snotty. Trying to get ideas. They like to push Prozac around here.


Quoting Anonymous:

Then he needs another dr.



Your family dr can give him something



I have to take meds for my anger




Quoting xomrs.chase:

I agree. His therapist doesn't.





Quoting Anonymous:

He needs put on meds.

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