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sick of it and I'm stuck. f*** going anon* eta

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I don't know what else to do.



I've said it before. Ever since my husband was diagnosed with diabetes he's been a Fucking jerk. He's been angy- and I'm sick of it. He even makes low blows like how I have to pee ALL the time. Since pregnancy, and it never got better. He's in therapy- to deal with his anger- and nothing is getting better. Nothing.



I told him after the holidays, I want a divorce. I love him so much, but I don't deserve to be treated like shit while he's mad at the world. What did he do? Grab his insulin and threaten to OD on it.



Not the first time.



I took the insulin, all of it, and I'm going to hand it to him when he needs it. I'll also be calling his therapist today.



I just want my sweet, caring husband back. I'm sick of the asshole that replaced him. I've asked him to do couples therapy with me and he refuses. I want to fix things- but I seem to be the only one.



Ndkandbjdoebdjfodneb Fuck.



Seriously, just fuuuuck.



.........ok I'm done. Advice?


*eta*
He calmed down, and I reapproached calmly. We talked for a while about what needs to change, and why I'm so upset. I explained to him that I can handle the depression- I know what to do- but I can't deal with anger directed at me, when I did nothing to deserve it. Its not fair, and it's not a healthy environment

We hugged and kissed.

For better or for worse..... we're going to work through it. Thank you to the mom that reminded me of my vows. It helped snap me back to reality. I love him, and I don't want to leave... I'm just so fed up. I'm going to take a lot of the advice that I've been given.

Thank you
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by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 4:55 AM
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xomrs.chase
by Ruby Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:27 AM
Our state doesn't have medical mj. I wish it did- my mom has to take painkillers every day for an old injury that keeps getting worse. Shed be better off with mj.

He used to smoke it. He stopped because it bothered me. Not the being high part- although he did it a LOT and I could never take him seriously- but its more the legal aspect.


Quoting sugareemommee:

I'm sorry. Would he be willing to take medication for anger management? How about a medical mj card? Hugs.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:28 AM
Calexia (sp) everyday

Xanax when needed

If you want to talk or ask anything I'm here. Just let me know and I'll pm you


Quoting xomrs.chase:

What are you on?

Not trying to sound rude or snotty. Trying to get ideas. They like to push Prozac around here.




Quoting Anonymous:

Then he needs another dr.





Your family dr can give him something





I have to take meds for my anger






Quoting xomrs.chase:

I agree. His therapist doesn't.







Quoting Anonymous:

He needs put on meds.


xomrs.chase
by Ruby Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:29 AM
I've been hoping for that, but I think they're focusing on the past first. He was diagnosed in April. He's 32. As a kid he had ulcerative colitis (it's in remission) so to him is that same permanent feeling

I get why it would bring him down, and I try so hard to be understanding..


Quoting lovelove211:

I am also insulin dependent, diagnosed aged 10, I remember crying and saying to my mom that I wished I was dead, it was mainly in the beginning when my teachers fussed over and I didn't like being treated differently and my grandparents fussing over what I ate all the time. My advice to him is to stop feeling sorry for himself, once he excepts this he will realize he can live a normal life that really isn't much different to what he did before. I honestly don't think about it anymore. Therapy may help him accept this
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xomrs.chase
by Ruby Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:31 AM
I've never heard of the first one.

Thank you.
If you wouldn't mind pm-ing me some of the ways you have dealt with your anger, that would be a huge help.

I study psychology.... but this is all too close to home. I can handle the depression aspect and snap into action on suicide threats- but with the anger directed at me I'm completely lost..


Quoting Anonymous:

Calexia (sp) everyday



Xanax when needed



If you want to talk or ask anything I'm here. Just let me know and I'll pm you




Quoting xomrs.chase:

What are you on?


Not trying to sound rude or snotty. Trying to get ideas. They like to push Prozac around here.






Quoting Anonymous:

Then he needs another dr.







Your family dr can give him something







I have to take meds for my anger








Quoting xomrs.chase:

I agree. His therapist doesn't.









Quoting Anonymous:

He needs put on meds.


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BShip2010
by Gold Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:32 AM
1 mom liked this
My mom was diagnosed with diabetes a few months ago and I guess it can cause anger. Luckily she hasn't been rude or anything. I hope you and your husband can work things out.
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sugareemommee
by Platinum Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:39 AM
I can understand - its a huge risk for your family without a card.


Quoting xomrs.chase:

Our state doesn't have medical mj. I wish it did- my mom has to take painkillers every day for an old injury that keeps getting worse. Shed be better off with mj.



He used to smoke it. He stopped because it bothered me. Not the being high part- although he did it a LOT and I could never take him seriously- but its more the legal aspect.




Quoting sugareemommee:

I'm sorry. Would he be willing to take medication for anger management? How about a medical mj card? Hugs.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:41 AM
Sent you a email


Quoting xomrs.chase:

I've never heard of the first one.



Thank you.

If you wouldn't mind pm-ing me some of the ways you have dealt with your anger, that would be a huge help.



I study psychology.... but this is all too close to home. I can handle the depression aspect and snap into action on suicide threats- but with the anger directed at me I'm completely lost..




Quoting Anonymous:

Calexia (sp) everyday





Xanax when needed





If you want to talk or ask anything I'm here. Just let me know and I'll pm you






Quoting xomrs.chase:

What are you on?



Not trying to sound rude or snotty. Trying to get ideas. They like to push Prozac around here.








Quoting Anonymous:

Then he needs another dr.









Your family dr can give him something









I have to take meds for my anger










Quoting xomrs.chase:

I agree. His therapist doesn't.











Quoting Anonymous:

He needs put on meds.



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:45 AM

he won't have an audience when they're gone, possibly making their return a living hell to come home to

Quoting Byrd15:

Take a vacation with the kids? Maybe give him time to be a baby, cry, scream, get it out, when he is better you go back!


xomrs.chase
by Ruby Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:47 AM
Ya... too big imo

Quoting sugareemommee:

I can understand - its a huge risk for your family without a card.




Quoting xomrs.chase:

Our state doesn't have medical mj. I wish it did- my mom has to take painkillers every day for an old injury that keeps getting worse. Shed be better off with mj.





He used to smoke it. He stopped because it bothered me. Not the being high part- although he did it a LOT and I could never take him seriously- but its more the legal aspect.






Quoting sugareemommee:

I'm sorry. Would he be willing to take medication for anger management? How about a medical mj card? Hugs.

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artio.sd
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 6:48 AM
Quoting xomrs.chase:




How often does he take his sugars? That's difficult to get used to doing but if the pancreas is still putting out he should be taking it often, so he can be making adjustments to his insulin. My dads long lasting was pretty fixed, but his fasting acting dosage was variable based on his sugar levels and activity. So is my fianc├ęs. They both take their sugar levels at least 4 times a day and sometimes more depending on how they feel.
*** I'm not saying to tinker with it unless his doc has discussed it with him because there is some guidelines on how much fast acting you give based on sugar levels.
And as PP stated there are other meds out there to help even out insulin and sugar levels. He may really need to consider them.

I know you said he was seeing a diabetic specialist, but is he an endocrinologist also? I know that seems kind of redundant but some diabetic specialist aren't. My SO first one wasn't. My dads actually had diabetes which definitely helped a lot.

Since it seems to be low often he should have some glucose tabs with him at all times and make sure he is eating enough carbs (not to much because carbs=sugar) but cause he does need some.
Here are two links that will have some great info and support groups. Sorry I can't make them clicky.
http://www.diabetes.org/

http://www.tudiabetes.org/
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