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I think my dh likes someone else UPDATE!!

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
Everyday when he gets home it's j did this and j said that!! And it's all day and all night. She's all I hear about. And anytime he has a problem he goes to her!! Wtf? They've only been working together for maybe three months.











**I have talked to him. He tells me I'm just being jealous that he only talks to her because he works with her. But he doesn't talk about his other coworkers nearly as much not even the ones he works closely with. I can't do anything without him bringing her up. I don't think he's cheating but I do think he likes her and I don't know what to do. He can't change his hours or anything like that. And I can't make him quit lol. So idk.**





*** Thank you ladies for all of your advice. I will try to talk to him again and see his reaction and try to get him to understand why I am so uncomfortable. I will also make sure I meet her. Thanks again for all of your advice***



**** I went to dh's work today for his lunch break but I didn't get to meet her until right before I left. She was kinda pretty but didn't look anything like me. I'm having dh invite her over for dinner one night so I can actually meet her. I also talked to him again last night. He said his usual she's just someone I work with. So I guess we'll see what happens.****
Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 4, 2012 at 2:53 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 4, 2012 at 3:23 PM
He can't change positions since he's a mechanic. And he's tried to get his hours changed for me but it wouldn't do any good he always works with her. It's the way the managers have things set up.

Quoting armstrong7984:

ya thats a huge red flag, and its def not normal for him to be doing. Do you know if he could change positions or hours or jobs? My dh would do anything in a heart beat to appease me ya know..and he should be willing to do whatever it takes to make you know that you are his only love, and shes not even in the equation.


Quoting Anonymous:

He just tells me to stop being jealous.


Quoting Anonymous:

Just talk to him and see what he says. Tell him it bothers u or that it makes u wonder why he talks about her so much. See his reaction to ur question.





Quoting Anonymous:

He's the new co worker. He just got the job.






Quoting Anonymous:

Have u said something to him??? My hubby does that when they get a new co-worker so im used to it. One time I was kind of like umm but after I told him about it he was like "OH NO she could be my mom, I just think she is very funny"... After meeting her I knew what he meant...



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 4, 2012 at 3:23 PM

How exactly does that work out for her if he just decides to lie? She still won't know in the end. Do you think he would really admit something like that to his wife if it were true? Lol. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Why don't you talk to him about it? It could just be nothing but u want know unless u talk to him about it. I would think the same thing you are thinking but never go to accusing until u know cause some men will go out and do it even if they hadn't already just bc they get tired of being accused of doing it. Talk to him like tonight don't wait then if it what is going on then u deserve better.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 4, 2012 at 3:24 PM
He wants me to meet her. I was supposed to go up there today with dd and have lunch with him but dd has a fever so we couldn't.

Quoting CorpCityGrl:

I would not be okay with her.

I would sit down and talk to him and tell him how you feel and that you are uncomfortable with their relationship.  Have you met her before?  Has he made an effort for you two to meet?  I'm all for friendships, but if it's like this then I would be suspicious.

chattycassie
by Silver Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 3:26 PM

 Yeah sounds like he is fond of her at the least. Tell him you dont like it see how he reacts

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 4, 2012 at 3:27 PM
He tells me to stop being jealous.

Quoting chattycassie:

 Yeah sounds like he is fond of her at the least. Tell him you dont like it see how he reacts

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 4, 2012 at 3:27 PM
Ay yayay then u have some serious thinking to do I would be upset if my hubby didnt give a reason..


Quoting Anonymous:

He just tells me to stop being jealous.



Quoting Anonymous:

Just talk to him and see what he says. Tell him it bothers u or that it makes u wonder why he talks about her so much. See his reaction to ur question.






Quoting Anonymous:

He's the new co worker. He just got the job.







Quoting Anonymous:

Have u said something to him??? My hubby does that when they get a new co-worker so im used to it. One time I was kind of like umm but after I told him about it he was like "OH NO she could be my mom, I just think she is very funny"... After meeting her I knew what he meant...


angy129
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 3:28 PM
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You are being jealous. He needs to understand the reasoning behind it, understand that his relationship w/ said co-worker is a tad too friendly. Ask him how he would feel if the role was reversed. 

Quoting Anonymous:

I have. He tells me I'm just being jealous.

CorpCityGrl
by Platinum Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 3:28 PM

Okay, when you get a chance then go and meet her.  However, still communicate to your husband that you are not comfortable with their relationship and that you don't like the fact that you go to her when he has a problem.  THAT in and of itself is a problem! 

Quoting Anonymous:

He wants me to meet her. I was supposed to go up there today with dd and have lunch with him but dd has a fever so we couldn't.

Quoting CorpCityGrl:

I would not be okay with her.

I would sit down and talk to him and tell him how you feel and that you are uncomfortable with their relationship.  Have you met her before?  Has he made an effort for you two to meet?  I'm all for friendships, but if it's like this then I would be suspicious.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 4, 2012 at 3:29 PM
Then you should ask him "So you are telling me there is something I should be jealous about?" I am a smart mouth, that is what I would do. His reaction to that should tell you all you need to know.

Quoting Anonymous:

I have. He tells me I'm just being jealous.



Quoting angy129:

Then I understand your concern. You should definitely tell him how you're feeling. 



Quoting Anonymous:

Any and all



Quoting angy129:



"Problems"? What kind of problems does he go to her with? 



 

chattycassie
by Silver Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 3:29 PM

 I would go kick this girls ass. That is just me but I don't like being second place. Good luck sweetie and hugs to you.

Quoting Anonymous:

He tells me to stop being jealous.

Quoting chattycassie:

 Yeah sounds like he is fond of her at the least. Tell him you dont like it see how he reacts

 

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