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SAHM's Really do Have it Way Easier

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

It wasn't a problem so much with one kid, but working with two or more is awful. I stayed home the last year (after I had the baby). Now its back to work. My job isn't even hard. One kid hates me because I lack the time or energy to hang out or take her to events etc, and the other I bearly get to see awake.

I absolutly hate my life. I wish I never had kids. Working sucks. Its just constant "go,go,go!" Before and after work. I don't have the energy to cook or clean. The house is a gross mess. The sink is full of dishes. I ended up failing my classes. I hate everything. SO helps when he can, but he works full time+.

I miss my days of planning nice meals for the family, the time I spent crawling on the floor with the little one, or taking her for walks. Now, I'm just constantly stressed (and starving). My feet are killing me. I love my kids, but I can't do this. Id rather be in a homeless shelter.

I work 6 days a week and time off isn't an option ( I would def take a day off if I could, don't even care about getting paid). No staying home isn't really an option, SO wants me working. I'm ready to roll over and die, this is awful.

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 4, 2012 at 7:46 PM
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ajrjj05
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:04 PM
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where do you live that you get 35 weeks Mat leave? we get 12 unpaid weeks here.. :( and alway get your cert for what?! and make $20 hour, dang! I need that job..lol

Quoting D.O.E.:

my doc put me on sick leave today, THANK GOD. i was in same boat as you, had a boss from hell too. now i get 15 weeks sick leave followed by 35 weeks mat leave.

and when i am done mat leave, i plan on getting my certification so i can work pt at a shelter, and still make $20hr, and have more time at home with my kiddos


Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:04 PM

***HUGS***

Be the best parent you can be.  You get this one shot at life, please make the most of it for you and your kids, even if you have to work your ass off. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:05 PM
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I am very thankful to be a SAHM. I tried working and I hated it. I hated not having time with my kids, time to take care of my house, time to spend with my SO because I was so tired. I would get up at 5am and get home about 7- it sucked. I have a new found admiration for working moms. Kudos! 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 10 on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:05 PM
Quoting Anonymous:




so you work 5 hours a day? 30 hours is part time job, I don't understand why it's so hard. I worked full time and went to school when my daughter was little, my house wasn't gross and my kid ate food, and I managed to go to most of the events at her daycare. my husband also works long days, and still helps with the kids at night so I can study for class. it's time to sit down make a schedule and stick with it!
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:06 PM
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Quoting Anonymous:


you're all ready miserable with a so who doesn't give a damn what you want. He's selfish, so drop the dead weight.
ajrjj05
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:06 PM

that's only 5 hours a day, that is what I worked when I worked. I was able to put my kids on the bus and be home by the time they got home ((except for the baby of course, then my mil watched her)). What do you do for work? 30 hours isn't bad at all.

Quoting AmberRose1122:

You work 30 hours a week spread over 6 days?


Quoting Anonymous:

This job is in walking distance of my house. I only work 30 hours so can't go less. Theres nothing left to cut back on. I would personally be willing to live in the next city over where it much much cheaper (rent wise) but SO says no. He doesn't want to cut back on anything. He wants to live/ spend freely.


Quoting Anonymous:

Maybe a new job with more flexible hours? Have you tried cutting back on things so you could possibly go part time ir close to




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by Ruby Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:06 PM
There there.
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mary841108
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:06 PM
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 being a sahm isnt necessarily easier than being a working mom. you cant blame your kids though, your whole "i wish i never had kids" comment was pretty mean. they are innocent, they didnt ask for this. maybe try working from home, less hours or ask dh if you could go back to being a sahm.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 11 on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:07 PM
That is only 5 hours a day. It gives you plenty of time...
Byrd15
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:08 PM
Amen!
I'm so sorry op! Love and hugs to you! <3


Quoting lovinmyboys...:

I am very thankful I get to be a SAHM. I couldn't imagine not being able to see my kids whenever I wanted to. Hope it gets better for you.
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