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SAHM's Really do Have it Way Easier

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

It wasn't a problem so much with one kid, but working with two or more is awful. I stayed home the last year (after I had the baby). Now its back to work. My job isn't even hard. One kid hates me because I lack the time or energy to hang out or take her to events etc, and the other I bearly get to see awake.

I absolutly hate my life. I wish I never had kids. Working sucks. Its just constant "go,go,go!" Before and after work. I don't have the energy to cook or clean. The house is a gross mess. The sink is full of dishes. I ended up failing my classes. I hate everything. SO helps when he can, but he works full time+.

I miss my days of planning nice meals for the family, the time I spent crawling on the floor with the little one, or taking her for walks. Now, I'm just constantly stressed (and starving). My feet are killing me. I love my kids, but I can't do this. Id rather be in a homeless shelter.

I work 6 days a week and time off isn't an option ( I would def take a day off if I could, don't even care about getting paid). No staying home isn't really an option, SO wants me working. I'm ready to roll over and die, this is awful.

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 4, 2012 at 7:46 PM
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PEEK05
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:47 PM

Oh yeah that sucks.  I would overlap with my husband by an hour or two if I worked a full-time swing shift instead of a part-time swing shift, but I'd just pay my mom for that hour or two until my husband got home to take them.  I wouldn't work if I had to work nights either since I'd have to be awake when I should be sleeping since my husband would be at work and then I'd have to go to work when he got home.  I understand. :(

Quoting Anonymous:

That what we were doing, but he switched hours and works right in the middle of the day. So my options are to work nights (which I really don't want to do since it would greatly affect my sleep.

Quoting PEEK05:

Can you work opposite of your SO?

I am a stay at home mom but have been considering working swing shift starting next fall so I can still be home with my kids all day but also bring in a second check so we can look into start buying a house. :)






Snapdragon88
by Platinum Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:49 PM
Me too. I've been a SAHM since my first was born and I'll freely admit I'm living on Easy Street :)

Quoting Anonymous:

I am a sahm and I will be the first to say it is sooo easy lol (for me, not talking about other sahm's ) I have 2 kids and plenty of time to do what needs to very done. I would never want to be a working mom at this stage of my life right now lol.

I am grateful for every day that I am able to have the easy life and take care of my family: )



Quoting Snapdragon88:

I have never understood why people like you get so offended by someone saying SAHMs have it easier...





Do you WANT to have it harder? Does it make you feel better to act like things are so tough for you because you stay at home? I see it as a blessing. If it's so hard for you then get a job.






Quoting Anonymous:

Just b/c your life sucks doesn't mean sahms have it easier. Then leave your so and be a single mom.
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GoddessNDaRuff
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:50 PM

How would you feel about obtaining a child care license? You can get certified and work from home. Still bringing in money and your at home.

Quoting Anonymous:

no i'm olny working a little over 30hrs now. can't request anything right now, other than what is givin to me. Maan what i do to win the lottery right now lol

Quoting GoddessNDaRuff:

Hugs. I'm sorry things are so difficult for you right now. Is there a way you can cut back to part time?




Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:52 PM

When i just had one kid it really wasn't a big deal. i workd 30 hrs went to school 40 hours and spent at least 25 hours in drive time.

there was a time period where I worked 9am-3pm 6pm-10pm and then 11pm-4am every day (5days) and we made it work. It was just my daughter and I. But now with the extra kid plus SO (plus cheer for the older one) I'm constantly running. I didn't think it was going to be this bad.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:




so you work 5 hours a day? 30 hours is part time job, I don't understand why it's so hard. I worked full time and went to school when my daughter was little, my house wasn't gross and my kid ate food, and I managed to go to most of the events at her daycare. my husband also works long days, and still helps with the kids at night so I can study for class. it's time to sit down make a schedule and stick with it!


Jrogillio
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:54 PM
I'm sorry *hugs*
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lovinglife0682
by on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:58 PM
I agree. I love being home. I'm sick today, my 7 year old is as well and my 3 year old is coming down with a cold. We all just laid around and watch movies. My 3 month old just sat with us all day. I did not need to worry about taking off with a sick kid. My husband went to the store after work and is making homemade soup.


Quoting Snapdragon88:

Me too. I've been a SAHM since my first was born and I'll freely admit I'm living on Easy Street :)



Quoting Anonymous:

I am a sahm and I will be the first to say it is sooo easy lol (for me, not talking about other sahm's ) I have 2 kids and plenty of time to do what needs to very done. I would never want to be a working mom at this stage of my life right now lol.


I am grateful for every day that I am able to have the easy life and take care of my family: )





Quoting Snapdragon88:

I have never understood why people like you get so offended by someone saying SAHMs have it easier...







Do you WANT to have it harder? Does it make you feel better to act like things are so tough for you because you stay at home? I see it as a blessing. If it's so hard for you then get a job.








Quoting Anonymous:

Just b/c your life sucks doesn't mean sahms have it easier. Then leave your so and be a single mom.

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ardiaxe
by Bronze Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 8:59 PM

I would go crazy in your situations well.  I'm so sorry!  Is your husband helping you out?  He should be doing everything that you are for the kids.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 4, 2012 at 9:00 PM
Because. I used to be in corporate america, and that was ten times easier than staying home.

It is hard to stay home, but I wouldn't have it any other way.

Quoting Anonymous:

how can I "not being doing it right"? My kids are still alive and I haven't misplaced them. its all about having a plan and a schedule. the house was clean kids were well fed. Hell we even had time for fash cards and other learning activities. If I wanted time to go out with friends I could easily just wait till SO was home from work and kids were asleep. I was doing well in school.


Besides, I didn't say it was a cake walk easy, just easisER. After work, I still have to cook and clean etc..


Quoting Anonymous:

If someone feels that being a sahm is easy then they aren't doing it right.


Gmgej
by Bronze Member on Dec. 4, 2012 at 9:03 PM

I spent 12 years as a SAHM and YES it is easier, it is wonderful!!!!! I have been working now for 6 years and I don't like it at all, I am always tired, the house is a mess, cooking is a brutal chore, followed by a mountain of dishes, laundry is never caught up, I hate it.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 4, 2012 at 9:06 PM

Can't work from home. SO wants me working so staying home isn't an option. I don't actually "blame" them or making things harder. But they were by far happier when I was around more. I think that they ddeserve a better mother than one who is too busy chasing a dollar.

I've actually been considering leaving to be homeless just so I can be with them more. (the homeless shelters are full so they have been putting homeless women and children in these nice-ish apartments just in case you thought I was going to be living on the street).

Quoting mary841108:

 being a sahm isnt necessarily easier than being a working mom. you cant blame your kids though, your whole "i wish i never had kids" comment was pretty mean. they are innocent, they didnt ask for this. maybe try working from home, less hours or ask dh if you could go back to being a sahm.


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