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Spin-off. Men leaving families. It will never happen to you?

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They always want you to stay home, till they get a whiff of a willing piece of tail. Next thing you know they are trying to leave you broke with 4 kids. While they run off and act like teenagers again.  Oh yeah "This will never happen to me" lol! I thought the same thing.

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 5, 2012 at 12:11 PM
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by Anonymous 11 on Dec. 5, 2012 at 12:32 PM

My ex abandoned us to go live with his mom. There was no other woman, no wanting to party and be single, he just missed his mommy. We were married, had a daughter that we had planned and tried a year for, and we seemed happy. Little did I know he was saving money up, not paying any of our bills, and then left when the time was right. My car was left on E and the next day the electricity shut off. A week after that the landlord gave me a 5 day eviction notice. Nice right?!? The ex STILL lives with his mom now and has never been with anyone since me.

by on Dec. 5, 2012 at 12:32 PM
Negative poster is negative.
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by Anonymous 12 on Dec. 5, 2012 at 12:34 PM
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Okay- my advice to you is to RIGHT NOW... call that S.O.B up and tell him- honey- I have come to understand that this is "bigger than the both of us" and Love knows no reason, blah blah blah.. I have to let you go...

BUT dear, you realize this is going to be very very hard for me to get a new life?? I am enrolling in college!! I am going to need a year or two to get on my feet. SO I AM LETTING YOU HAVE THE KIDS.  We will have to work it all out over the coming months in court I guess.. but YOU HAVE THE KIDS RIGHT NOW, K?  It will help me so much.

IF you have a baby of course you want to keep the babies to you, but older kids- LET HIM AND THE NEW LOVE HAVE THEM FULL TIME A WHILE.

I GUARANTEE you it will break them up in less than one year!!!! If you ever loved him, be open to taking him back then.... SOON as the reality of the thing hits her and him- POOF she will be so outta there... and he will come crawling back. 

by Silver Member on Dec. 5, 2012 at 12:35 PM

 Aw hunny I'm sooo sorry for you! I would not say what my husband won't do because I don't know but what I will say is that I wouldn't think even for a second he would do that.... good luck hunny kick him to the curb and you move on =)

by ~Cassandra~ on Dec. 5, 2012 at 12:35 PM
Sorry this happened to you. But I won't live my life in fear. I have every confidence in my husband and my marriage. Just because some men are dirt bags doesn't mean they are all that way. And a lot of women are just as bad, just look at all the "I'm cheating on my husband" posts on here.

by on Dec. 5, 2012 at 12:37 PM
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I love the " it will never happen to me" it is so funny... I would never want to put that much trust on a person it feels good to pay all my bills and know if something went wrong we would atoll be okay.
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by Anonymous 13 on Dec. 5, 2012 at 12:40 PM
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Well, if it does, it does. I'm prepared to do whatever I need to do for my children.

by on Dec. 5, 2012 at 12:42 PM
That doesnt happen to everyone.
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by Ruby Member on Dec. 5, 2012 at 12:42 PM
After years and years if never trusting any men. And fighting with my husband because of my own insecurities. One day during another fight about how I don't trust him (or any men for that matter) he yelled "you are not the only woman I HAVEN'T cheated on!" And something just clicked in my head. It's not me. I'm not special. I'm not just keeping his attention for the time being. He is not just waiting around for the next hot piece of ass. He just isn't a cheater. He never has been. And that's when it hit me. I can trust this one.

And if he ever did I would find out and take him for all he's worth and kick his ass to the curb. Don't get me wrong. ;-).
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by on Dec. 5, 2012 at 12:42 PM
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sometimes for whatever reason even good men walk out on their families

i advise all young women to go to college and/or grad school, and work for a while in their fields before marriage and starting a family. so that way you have real options. we don't live in an era where you can wholly depend on a man and his paycheck to support the entire family anymore. 

what happens when he decides family life is too stressful or boring, or he gets sick, or dies, or gets fired/ laid off? you and your children are going to be SOL.

live life as you wish but always prepare for a rainy day, that's my motto

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