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If a couple had a surrogate mother, who do you throw a baby shower for update

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vinalex0581

on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:40 PM

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the couple who's going to have the baby or the surrogate who carries the baby for 9 months?

Doesn't the surrogate deserve something?

**wow! this is the 3rd post of mine in 6 months that has been featured on the the front page of cafemom.

**why do you ladies assume that the surrogate gets paid? that's not always true.

I never got paid when I was a surrogate. Honestly, I got a thank you card and they took me out to a restaurant because that's the only thing they could afford.

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vinalex0581

on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:40 PM

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wkukid

Ocean Wave on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:41 PM

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The couple who's having the baby

Matriarch87

Ruby Member on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:41 PM

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Well of course the shower would be for the parents...the surrogate is most likely ver y well compensated.

Sammybby09

Silver Member on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:41 PM

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The baby stuff should go to the parents and if I were attending a shower with a surrogate, I would get her something to help with labor or relax her.

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sheramom4

Platinum Member on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:42 PM

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The parents get the baby shower, not the surrogate. Although it would be sweet to give a gift card or something to the surrogate as well for dinner or a spa service for after the baby is born if you chose to do so.

risaspieces

Bronze Member on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:42 PM

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You would throw the shower for the parents. I have a friend who was a surrogate and she was invited to it, but it was for the parents to be.

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storkneedsgps

Gold Member on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:43 PM

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The baby stuff goes to the parents who get the baby. The surrogate gets paid often but not always. A small gift such as nice lotion, bubble bath or maybe comfy PJ's would be sweet but not necessary

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Angela6296

Bronze Member on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:44 PM

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I would say the shower is for the mother/parents, not the vessel. However, if they know each other and are comfortable, they could have the surrogate attend and give her some gifts of appreciation too.

Jade89

Silver Member on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:44 PM

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The couple who the baby is for.

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NewMamaBoo

Gold Member on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:45 PM

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Surrogate gets a thank you party! Cook her fav food and get her something sweet like a necklace. Then baby shower for the mama who will need baby stuff! Good call