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If a couple had a surrogate mother, who do you throw a baby shower for *update*

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the couple who's going to have the baby or the surrogate who carries the baby for 9 months?

Doesn't the surrogate deserve something?


**wow! this is the 3rd post of mine in 6 months that has been featured on the the front page of cafemom.

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**why do you ladies assume that the surrogate gets paid? that's not always true.

I never got paid when I was a surrogate. Honestly, I got a thank you card and they took me out to a restaurant because that's the only thing they could afford.

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by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:40 PM
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GotSomeKids
by Silver Member on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:55 PM
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The surrogate gets paid, babyshower for the parents.

Grumpylilpixy
by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:55 PM
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It would be for the couple considering at a baby shower they get baby things. Why would you throw a baby shower for the surrogate. Maybe a Thank you party?

unspecified42
by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:56 PM
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I'm a surrogate and I went to two of my surrogate kids' showers. I wouldn't need baby stuff, so why would I get one?
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RLT2
by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:56 PM

Doesn't she get paid?

BrookPayton
by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:56 PM
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Honestly I think I would wait till the baby was born and have something then. I think if I was the surrogate, the baby shower would make it all harder on me. But I could be wrong, I've never been in this situation.
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MamaRae85
by *you're on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:57 PM
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If the couple has any tact whatsoever, they'll invite the surrogate to their shower. Sort of as a guest of honor. But it's the couple's baby, so it's the couple's baby shower.

cLanief
by on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:58 PM
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A baby shower for the mom and a non baby gift would be awesome for the sur.
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Beauty91805
by Platinum Member on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:58 PM
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The parents of course
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alexsmomma06
by Platinum Member on Dec. 6, 2012 at 5:58 PM
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This


Quoting Sammybby09:

The baby stuff should go to the parents and if I were attending a shower with a surrogate, I would get her something to help with labor or relax her.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Dec. 6, 2012 at 6:00 PM
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If I used a surrogate, I would throw a party for them and give them things they can use AFTER the baby. I think it's the least I could do.

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