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Would You Divorce Your DH If...

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He was never home and when he was y'all argued or just didn't talk? My dh works 12 hrs a day 7 days a week. The kids are usually in bed when he gets home so they hardly see him. I'm a sahm so I do everything around the house and with the kids. On the days he gets home at a decent time we are either arguing or its just silence. I had rather him not be here bc I almost hate being near him. The only thing that's stopping me is that he pays for everything. Bills, house payments, groceries, clothes, toys everything. I've never had a job so I know it would be hard for me to get one and provide for my kids. I'm at a crossroad...any advice? Counseling is not an option with his work schedule and stubbornness.
Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 7, 2012 at 7:58 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:03 PM

Heres some advixe: GET OFF YOUR ASS. Join a gym,look presentable,go look for work(even if just part time). Enroll in online or community college courses. Get a better job. Re-evaluate the situation at that point. Act like an adult,do whats healthy and best for all involved. Problem solved.

sfkdny
by Platinum Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:03 PM

no, that is something to fight to make right, not a reason to divorce IMHO - people take marriage too lightly.  get to the root of the problem and fix it

Eliots_momma
by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:04 PM
Maybe go somewhere, just the two of you and talk. Maybe you just need to remind each other why you got married.
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AubreeGrace17
by Platinum Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:04 PM
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Why don't you go back to school and divorce him after you finish?
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:04 PM
Quoting rawrmommysaurus:

No, that is redicuolus. Maybe you should look into getting a job and contributing to the household income, so DH doesn't have to pull so much weight.  That way he coudl have a day or 2 off a week to spend with the fmaily and you.


He doesn't want me to work bc the cost of daycare would be my check.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:05 PM
I personally couldn't live like that, but I wouldn't know what to do in your position either. I am also a sahm who has never worked (I have as anxiety ), so I don't know how to make it on my own. I would leave and stay with my dad. That is what I would do.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:05 PM
That's pretty much how my parents relationship was. They divorced 12 years ago.
svolkov
by Emerald Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:05 PM
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This. My husband works out of town 2/3 of the yr. We have 3 kids. We never fight. When hes home we spend as much qualitu time together as we can. U two just need to work harder on your marriage


Quoting CrazyLife1996:

No you both need to take a step back and give each other positive attention.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:05 PM
Quoting AubreeGrace17:

Why don't you go back to school and divorce him after you finish?

Haha I like the way you think
svolkov
by Emerald Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:06 PM
Get some skills then. Online courses r great


Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting rawrmommysaurus:

No, that is redicuolus. Maybe you should look into getting a job and contributing to the household income, so DH doesn't have to pull so much weight.  That way he coudl have a day or 2 off a week to spend with the fmaily and you.


He doesn't want me to work bc the cost of daycare would be my check.

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