Would You Divorce Your DH If...

Quoting Anonymous:Quoting Elyce225:
We do occasionally, maybe once a week. We've been trying to have another baby, I miscarried a few months ago. Now that he has this job idk if I want another bc he was always here to help with the first two but wouldn't be now. I tell him how I feel but it goes in one ear and out the other. I just wish I could give him a wake up call, like I'm not playing.
Oh that is tough. I wouldn't want to have another baby with a man that is not around. I would give him a wake up call if I were you. Leave for a little bit. Take the kids and go. Maybe you two need time away to see if you both really want to still be with one another.


well then divorcing him because he works so much would be the last thing I would recommend..
#1 if you have some medical problem that stops you from working you are unable to provide.
#2 it is unsafe for you to work but not be alone with a 2 and 4 year old 24-7? I'm not buying it.
Sorry. I'm now calling a spade a spade. You can't be fucking serious.
Quoting Anonymous:Quoting Anonymous:
I personally couldn't live like that, but I wouldn't know what to do in your position either. I am also a sahm who has never worked (I have as anxiety ), so I don't know how to make it on my own. I would leave and stay with my dad. That is what I would do.
I have juvenile myoclonic epilepsy so it would be hard for me to work also.
Its my body and I'll do what I want to.

Why so many people don't understand that baffles me.
Quoting svolkov:
This. My husband works out of town 2/3 of the yr. We have 3 kids. We never fight. When hes home we spend as much qualitu time together as we can. U two just need to work harder on your marriage
Quoting CrazyLife1996:
No you both need to take a step back and give each other positive attention.

I don't believe in walking away without exhausting all options. Do you see hope for a happy future with him? Everything you described can be overcome. You guys have lost lines of communication and are in a rough rut. But, it can be worked through. It will take effort and committment from both of you, but you can do it. Little bit at a time.

he's been working for 12 hours, plus the stress of sitting in traffic to drive back and forth to those long hours. He's tired. Hell, I've been at home all day taking care of things for him and essentially working just as long as he has. I'm tired!
Everyone is worn thin. It really isn't worth separating (in my opinion. Unless things get abusive.) I reccomended a vacation (or "sick" day) to just unwind and get everything off your chest. Without trying to argue. Or crying. Crying stresses some guys out and he might turn it into an argument. Just sit down with him and try to be honest. If things start to get tense, tell him you need a minute and remove yourself from the situation and breathe for a bit.
- heresjohnny
Emerald Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 11:41 PMSo...you're only staying with him for his paycheck? Wow.