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Would You Divorce Your DH If...

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He was never home and when he was y'all argued or just didn't talk? My dh works 12 hrs a day 7 days a week. The kids are usually in bed when he gets home so they hardly see him. I'm a sahm so I do everything around the house and with the kids. On the days he gets home at a decent time we are either arguing or its just silence. I had rather him not be here bc I almost hate being near him. The only thing that's stopping me is that he pays for everything. Bills, house payments, groceries, clothes, toys everything. I've never had a job so I know it would be hard for me to get one and provide for my kids. I'm at a crossroad...any advice? Counseling is not an option with his work schedule and stubbornness.
Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 7, 2012 at 7:58 PM
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TSNDDY
by Ruby Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:20 PM
Why does he work so much?
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:22 PM
Quoting Anonymous:

I personally couldn't live like that, but I wouldn't know what to do in your position either. I am also a sahm who has never worked (I have as anxiety ), so I don't know how to make it on my own. I would leave and stay with my dad. That is what I would do.

I have juvenile myoclonic epilepsy so it would be hard for me to work also.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:23 PM
What about your family?

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

I personally couldn't live like that, but I wouldn't know what to do in your position either. I am also a sahm who has never worked (I have as anxiety ), so I don't know how to make it on my own. I would leave and stay with my dad. That is what I would do.

I have juvenile myoclonic epilepsy so it would be hard for me to work also.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:23 PM
Quoting Anonymous:

How old are ypu two? How many kids?


I'm 25 he's 26 two kids 2 and 4
FL2AK
by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:23 PM
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So it is so severe you can't work, but you can be pregnant and have kids?

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

I personally couldn't live like that, but I wouldn't know what to do in your position either. I am also a sahm who has never worked (I have as anxiety ), so I don't know how to make it on my own. I would leave and stay with my dad. That is what I would do.

I have juvenile myoclonic epilepsy so it would be hard for me to work also.


LyTe684
by Ruby Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:24 PM
This.

Quoting FL2AK:

He sounds stressed and tired because he works so damn much.
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Jessy613
by Diamond Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:24 PM


Quoting YzmaRocks:

No. I might not be very happy but I take my vows seriously. The only reasons I would ever leave would be abuse or unfaithfulness.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:25 PM
Yeah I am sure not to mention every daycare I have ever worked for had assistance programs so we didn't take your whole check.
12 an hour is high high pay here.



Quoting Momof5kids84:

Are sure that you are considering that she would be making like 8-12 bucks an hour on average? That translates into about $480 a week without taxes taken out a week at the most. This is assuming that the employer is not cheap, and actually gives her 40 hours a week. She doesn't have a degree.



Quoting Anonymous:

That's not true. I work for a daycare and there are tons of daycares that are low cost.





Idk why people say that. It's be more like half of your check at most.






Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting rawrmommysaurus:

No, that is redicuolus. Maybe you should look into getting a job and contributing to the household income, so DH doesn't have to pull so much weight.  That way he coudl have a day or 2 off a week to spend with the fmaily and you.


He doesn't want me to work bc the cost of daycare would be my check.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:25 PM
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This sounds like you nagging him?

So he works 12hr/7 days a week and then comes home to you nagging him. Of course he's going to be a grouch. Way to make a man feel unappreciated after everything he does for his family.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

Not unless he cheated or he was abusive. What are your arguments about?

Stupid stuff like us never seeing each other, not doing stuff with kids and him drinking
la_bella_vita
by Bella on Dec. 7, 2012 at 8:25 PM

 

Quoting FL2AK:

He sounds stressed and tired because he works so damn much.

 That's what I was thinking too.

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