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Five kids by five different dads. . .

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

. . .and she was never married to any of them. Two of them were guys she barely knew.

I have a friend who just had her fifth baby and this makes five babies by five different dads. I guess I'm just a little sad for the babies, she's still single and can't take care of them all, she's on PA, but she keeps letting herself get pregnant again and again. Why?

I just don't get it. I guess this is kind of a vent. I can't say all this to her, I don't want to upset her, but it's just getting ridiculous. Oh, and the kids all look very different, different races even. I wonder how they will feel about it when they're older. 

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 7, 2012 at 10:31 PM
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motherslove82
by Ruby Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 11:04 PM

Because it's not the babies that are the problem. It's the irresponsible behavior.

Quoting 2ninos4me:

If she had decided to get abortions or given them up for adoption , she would still have gotten judged !


Anonymous
by Anonymous 11 on Dec. 7, 2012 at 11:04 PM

I know someone who has 8 kids by 8 different dads. The only she ones she actually has custody of are the kids who she doesn't know who their dads are. It's so sad. I feel so sorry for all the children.

grey7399
by Gold Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 11:06 PM
Her poor kids. I wish they would sterilize people ON PA with their 2nd or 3rd kid.
smushy79
by Gold Member on Dec. 7, 2012 at 11:07 PM
I know someone like this too.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Dec. 7, 2012 at 11:16 PM

 MYOB. My son and his fiancée have a 6yo son together and she has 3 other sons who are 7, 5 and 3 by 3 other dads. She and my son broke up 6 years ago when they  were dumb kids (both 18), she met someone else and got married and had a son with him and then, while married, she was raped and became pregnant with her 4th son. She went to the abortion clinic and was seriously going to abort but then she just couldn't. She and her husband ended up divorced because of her choice and she has been a single mom with 4 little boys by 4 dads. She and my son started dating again this year and they are planning to get married next year. He loves her, he loves their sons (he has counted her 7yo as his even though he was 5 mos. old when my son 1st started dating his now fianceé) and he loves her other 2 sons as well. Her 5yo hasn't seen his dad in 4 years and of course her 3yo doesn't have his dad round so both of these little boys love having a daddy in their lives. She and my son are planning to have another child together one day. Due to her moving to another state and then my son moving to another state my son missed 5 years of his 6yo son's life and he would like to have a child that he can watch grow up and she would like another child, too. They plan to wait 3-4 years though and will be married before they have another child together. Of course my son's fianceé did finish college and has a career and is able to care for her children without any help from anyone. She owns her own home, owns her own vehicle and provides well for her children.

mommyof2soon29
by on Dec. 7, 2012 at 11:20 PM

Whether its your friend or a complete stranger your tax dollars are going somewhere so get over it

Quoting Anonymous:

True, not my vagina. But my tax dollars do go towards supporting her. She hasn't worked in 15 years.

Quoting Anonymous:

It's her vagina, not yours.



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Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Dec. 8, 2012 at 8:39 AM
I had relationships with my kids dads, actually married to one.. and guess what? They STILL don't take care of their kids and I Dont know where one of them is. That's not MY fault.
You can't make a gut be a dad so ultimately she could easily be in the same situation even If they had the same dad.

Quoting Anonymous:

Yes, actually that would make a difference to me. Her having five kids all by the same dad would mean she actually had some sort of relationship with the guy. She doesn't even know where 3 out of the 5 dads are. NONE of them pay child support or see their kids. That is freaking SAD.

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm having my 4th to the 3rd Guy... who cares? Not your concern! Would you care less if it was your tax dollars and they all had the same dad?!


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 8, 2012 at 8:54 AM

Well, it's people like her (and many others) that leave this country with a ridiculous deficit. So, ya, it does irk me a bit.

Quoting mommyof2soon29:

Whether its your friend or a complete stranger your tax dollars are going somewhere so get over it

Quoting Anonymous:

True, not my vagina. But my tax dollars do go towards supporting her. She hasn't worked in 15 years.

Quoting Anonymous:

It's her vagina, not yours.




Anonymous
by Anonymous 13 on Dec. 8, 2012 at 8:55 AM
Agreed, but she could have just kept her legs closed and this never would have happened.

Quoting 2ninos4me:

If she had decided to get abortions or given them up for adoption , she would still have gotten judged !
ShanesMommy2012
by on Dec. 8, 2012 at 8:56 AM
Its not your business.
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