This past early November, we went to my sisters for my son's birthday so he can spend the night. That way he can sleep in his cousins' room and have a little sleepover. My cousins like sleeping in total darkness; my son likes a little night light. He was trying to sleep in his cousins' room and I heard some noise here and there for about 20 minutes. He wanders into the guest room dh and I were sleeping in, said that it was too scary in the other room, and falls right to bed the second he touches the pillow.
We were there at my sister's 6 mos prior in early spring because of my nephew's birthday. We spent the night again and he tried to sleep in his cousins' room and something scared him or whatever. He tried and freaked out whatever it was and ended up sleeping in the guest room with us. Well, I can't go to my niece's birthday party this Sunday because I have to work. My mom wanted to take him w/ her on Saturday so that means he will sleep overnight there. I told her I will think about it. Something inside of me wasn't comfortable with the idea because he's not comfortable at night time/bed time being away from us. He sleeps in his own room at night but when it comes to sleeping at my sister's, he hasn't quite been okay sleeping in his cousin's room. So, I told my mom that I'm not comfortable with it until he is ready. My mom yells at me in front of my son and says "Why can't he for one night!" and slams the door behind her. ( My dad pulled the same thing a few years ago when I said my son lost going to his cousin's because he was hitting me all week and wouldn't not listen. My dad screams "Why not!" and slams the door too.)
Anyhow, I asked my son, Are you okay going there and spending the night knowing mommy and daddy won't be there, if you are.. then you can go." he paused for a second and I can sense an underlying sense of not being quite sure that he would be okay w/out us.. he goes "Hmmm, I think I will wait unti I'm more comfortable." He will see his cousins in a few weeks for Xmas anyways. I just want want him to have a positive bedtime experience and if he's unsure himself, is it wrong of me to respect that for now.. and then try again in a few months when we have the extra gas money since my sister is two hours away?