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Stop popping your kid

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I went to a baby shower today, and a girl there had an 11 month old. Seriously, like every 5 minutes she was saying "pop him" about something else. Seriously...wtf? He's 11 months old.

My dd was sitting in the floor playing and he walked up and hit her on the head...so what does mom do? Pops him. And says "idk where he learned to hit"....umm...probably from you....I just don't understand some people
Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 8, 2012 at 11:00 PM
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Kris_PBG
by on Dec. 9, 2012 at 8:50 AM
Quoting Anonymous:




Ok mystery person. Lol.

uriahadel
by Platinum Member on Dec. 9, 2012 at 8:52 AM
no.. I just popped her on the hand at that age... she is two now and yes I put her over my knee and take her unerwear off and spank her hiney now, but she obeys and I rarely have to do it... but at that age I just popped her on the hand because at that age it is something with their hands that they are going against your rules


Quoting Anonymous:

I'm talking about a "good ol fashioned sparking that they will never forget" like you mentioned. Would you do that to an 11 month old?



Quoting uriahadel:

I did it tp my nine month old who kept going to the light socket after telling her not to and repeatedly moving her, but she laughed and went back so yes I popped her on the hands... it was for her safety and she never did it again. She was walking at the time. She was also going for my breakable and was climbing so yes I had to protect and you can't baby proof everything and I don't believe in baby proofing, I believing in teaching a child not to do something. I have a six year old who I never baby proofed and she never had accidents and now I have a two year old and never baby proofed and she never had accidents because I was the parent and I watched her and disciplined her as needed... she is a very happy child, but she now knows what she can and cannot have






Quoting Anonymous:

You would do that to an 11 month old?







Quoting uriahadel:

Really??? You people need to grow up and know what violence is... popping for something unacceptable is not violence. Although I prefer putting them over my knee and giving them a good ole fashion spanking they will never forget










Quoting Kris_PBG:

Was she actually hitting him in front of your child?











If so, I would have said something. I don't want my kids exposed to violence like that. (And yes - I would call repeatedly hitting a baby violence).



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Kris_PBG
by on Dec. 9, 2012 at 8:52 AM
Quoting Anonymous:




Oh dear - toodles is a way to say goodbye.

Now you don't like the way I say goodbye? Lol. Ok anon.
AMDS0304
by on Dec. 9, 2012 at 8:53 AM
I spank sometimes my kids are older. They aren't spanked often.. To be honest I don't like spanking them. I try to talk to them, we use time outs and we ground them.. If all that fails they get a pop on the butt. I was involved in a case study where we had to read this parenting book and use the tools in it then give feed back. I still use that book it's called parenting 123.
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Stephd710
by Ruby Member on Dec. 9, 2012 at 8:55 AM
Yes I got very lucky with these girls. I'm not having anymore so I don't have go worry about getting an adventurous kid. Lol! I spank too. Time out and no doesnt always work.


Quoting uriahadel:

My six year old didn't do any of that either but every child is different... my two year old is a little on the wild side, and she likes to adventure so she likes to take risks and if you tell her no that will hurt you, she goes for it even more. She is my fearless one... she will walk out into the pool and not think twice about it and she can't swim but she keeps doing, my six year old on the other hand won't get off the steps unless you hold her... every child is different in their own ways so don't be surprised if you get that one that is fearless and will do it regardless of what you say and do... spankings work for her and that is the only thing that works for her which is why I still do it... I rarely spank my oldest... I usually take her favorites away because that works for her, but sometimes which is rarely that I do need to spank her to get her back on track




Quoting Stephd710:

I didn't baby proof either. I've got two year old twins and never has either of them tried to stick their finger in a light socket, flushed stuff down the toilet, or gotten into cabinets they aren't allowed to. I just started teaching them "no" very early. I also faked like the heater, sockets, etc really hurt mommy when I touch them and so far that has kept them away. Lol!






Quoting uriahadel:

I did it tp my nine month old who kept going to the light socket after telling her not to and repeatedly moving her, but she laughed and went back so yes I popped her on the hands... it was for her safety and she never did it again. She was walking at the time. She was also going for my breakable and was climbing so yes I had to protect and you can't baby proof everything and I don't believe in baby proofing, I believing in teaching a child not to do something. I have a six year old who I never baby proofed and she never had accidents and now I have a two year old and never baby proofed and she never had accidents because I was the parent and I watched her and disciplined her as needed... she is a very happy child, but she now knows what she can and cannot have








Quoting Anonymous:

You would do that to an 11 month old?









Quoting uriahadel:

Really??? You people need to grow up and know what violence is... popping for something unacceptable is not violence. Although I prefer putting them over my knee and giving them a good ole fashion spanking they will never forget












Quoting Kris_PBG:

Was she actually hitting him in front of your child?













If so, I would have said something. I don't want my kids exposed to violence like that. (And yes - I would call repeatedly hitting a baby violence).





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Anonymous
by Anonymous 10 on Dec. 9, 2012 at 8:56 AM

Not saying I am pro spanking and I don't think one should go around popping babies. But where is spanking illegal at?  Where has it been made law not to spank. Just curious. As far as I am aware it is still legal as long as it does not leave marks etc.


Quoting Liz.Sisk:

I don't believe in disciplining kids in that manner that young. Spanking is illegal and 'popping' just teaches them to hit you back. My daughter knew and knows no means no when I say it.

Kris_PBG
by on Dec. 9, 2012 at 8:56 AM

LOL - anon wants to nit pick my word choice endlessly - but I'm the condescending one? LOL!  Ahh the irony!  :)

Quoting Anonymous:

Oh, dear. There's that condescending attitude again. Oh, wait, you're never condescending.



Quoting Kris_PBG:

Quoting Anonymous:






Oh dear - toodles is a way to say goodbye.



Now you don't like the way I say goodbye? Lol. Ok anon.


uriahadel
by Platinum Member on Dec. 9, 2012 at 8:57 AM
Who is name calling?? I called you ignorant and it is the truth, because you clearly don't know the definition which is why I told you to look it up in the dictionary so you won't have to be ignorant towards the subject anymore... it is not name calling... it is a fact...


Quoting Kris_PBG:

Quoting uriahadel:






Wow - name calling and it is not even 9 yet - how special!



You have your ideas on what constitutes violence I have mine.



The good news is we don't have to agree.



You are the only one resorting to nastiness, however.




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nikabear
by Gold Member on Dec. 9, 2012 at 8:57 AM
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Kris_PBG
by on Dec. 9, 2012 at 8:58 AM

I'm pretty sure spanking under 2 and over 12 is illegal in at least some provinces in Canada?

I could be off on those numbers - we would need a "Canuck" to confirm! :)

Quoting Anonymous:

Not saying I am pro spanking and I don't think one should go around popping babies. But where is spanking illegal at?  Where has it been made law not to spank. Just curious. As far as I am aware it is still legal as long as it does not leave marks etc.



Quoting Liz.Sisk:

I don't believe in disciplining kids in that manner that young. Spanking is illegal and 'popping' just teaches them to hit you back. My daughter knew and knows no means no when I say it.


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