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How many kids to a room?

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My DH's sister has a lot of kids. Because of this multiple kids share rooms. I think it is a bit much to expect a 6th grader, 4th grader and 2nd grader to share a room together.... 

How many kids would you be willing to put in a room together?

My kids all have separate rooms and that is how I was raised so maybe multiple kids per room is common and I am just naive.

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 9, 2012 at 11:56 PM
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ATG499
by Platinum Member on Dec. 10, 2012 at 12:18 AM
Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. I've always had my own room but my sister's three kids shared a room before. They're now 15, 10, and 5- a girl and two boys.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Dec. 10, 2012 at 12:18 AM

At one point growing up, my mom had 3 step-kids, and 4 birth kids. Only my youngest sister lived there full time (she was 2 at the time). The custody arraignments between the SK's mom, my dad, and my younger brother's dad was EOW, and it fell on the same weekends. 

She and SD had a 2 bedroom apartment, so we had 2 sets of single/full bunk beds. My little sister had a toddler bed in the walk in closet. I had a twin, my 7 & 5yo SS's shared. My older brother had a twin, and my 3yo SB and 7yo brother shared a full. 

Even worse was that my mom only had a 2 door car, and a small truck. It was not uncommon for us to pile all in and have kids on laps. 

It never killed us. 

thetrollcat
by Meow on Dec. 10, 2012 at 12:18 AM

I dig that im not talking about people that end up in situations, but what about those on welfare that keep having kids? Ya... they are cramming all these kids in low income houses with only four bedrooms and six kids. That kina shit is pathetic or people that simply do not make a lot of money, if you do not make the money to buy a house (live in a trailor) then stop having kids....


Quoting Summerlion1123:

This is pretty much how I feel about it, although sometimes the unexpected happens.

Quoting thetrollcat:

The solution is simple, dont have more kids than you can afford and provide for. Putting three kids in a room is absurd. Putting teenagers with younger kids is INSANE. Stop having kids if you cannot afford the room and space for them.

Quoting Anonymous:

If I had more kids, I would try to stick to 2 kids per room, and keep it. As close together in age as possible. We have three kids, each has their own room. 

Pit isn't always possible to have a larger home with more bedrooms,  though. If my only option were to have 3 in a room, then that is what I would do. 



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Anonymous
by Anonymous 13 on Dec. 10, 2012 at 12:19 AM
It's insane because you are beyond grasping the concept of sharing?

Sometimes I think you say stupid things just to stir the pot.

Quoting thetrollcat:

The solution is simple, dont have more kids than you can afford and provide for. Putting three kids in a room is absurd. Putting teenagers with younger kids is INSANE. Stop having kids if you cannot afford the room and space for them.

Quoting Anonymous:

If I had more kids, I would try to stick to 2 kids per room, and keep it. As close together in age as possible. We have three kids, each has their own room. 

Pit isn't always possible to have a larger home with more bedrooms,  though. If my only option were to have 3 in a room, then that is what I would do. 


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 10, 2012 at 12:19 AM

Well those kids are babies...

With older kids I would think it would get awkward.

Say you had 4 girls and a boy. The boy is the middle child. Would you put 4 girls together and the boy by himself, or would you place an older boy (8+) with sisters?

Quoting pattya925:

I have a family member dealing with this right now... relationship fell apart, lost the shared housing, financially cannot afford to get a large enough place for separate bedrooms.. Daughter is 2, son is 9 months...   And again, I say, who cares?? When they are that small, does it really matter?

Quoting Anonymous:

What about boys and girls sharing rooms? At what point/age does that become unacceptable, or does it?



manicMOM_DLC
by on Dec. 10, 2012 at 12:19 AM

I have 4 bedrooms for 6 people. 

my 2&4 year old sons share a room.  Actually they share a bed right now because thats just what they end up doing...

my 8 year old has a room to himself,DH and I share and my dad has a room.

my two youngest are BEST FRIENDS.   my oldest like having a place to keep his stuff.

Quoting svolkov:

My boys do. They have bunk beds. They end up sleeping in the top bunk tog ether most nights lol (we have 6 bedrooms)


Quoting manicMOM_DLC:

all I had was a brother.   BUT when my half sister moved in with us for a while we shared myroom.  that didn't work out well because I was 13, used to not having my own shit messed with and she kinda just feltl ike an invader LOL.  Under normal circumstance though, I actually see it as beneficial for siblings to share their room. 


Quoting AndynsMommy:

This is what I was thinking. I shared a room most of my life, and I turned out just fine and nonresentful towards my parents.





Quoting manicMOM_DLC:

in most countries it is normal for same sex siblings to share rooms.  In fact, it speaks volumes to the character of American's that so many of us find it unacceptable for children to share.






Willow.wind
by Bronze Member on Dec. 10, 2012 at 12:19 AM

People do what they gotta do... My mom grew up not only sharing a room, but a bed with her two sisters. But that was 50 years ago in Pennsylvania.

thetrollcat
by Meow on Dec. 10, 2012 at 12:20 AM

My sister has twins... They are now four... They recently built a house and now the twins are in seperate rooms.

Guess what? They now go to bed and sleep instead of spending hours staying up all night fucking around.

Kids having their own has its benefits.

Quoting Anonymous:

It's insane because you are beyond grasping the concept of sharing?

Sometimes I think you say stupid things just to stir the pot.

Quoting thetrollcat:

The solution is simple, dont have more kids than you can afford and provide for. Putting three kids in a room is absurd. Putting teenagers with younger kids is INSANE. Stop having kids if you cannot afford the room and space for them.

Quoting Anonymous:

If I had more kids, I would try to stick to 2 kids per room, and keep it. As close together in age as possible. We have three kids, each has their own room. 

Pit isn't always possible to have a larger home with more bedrooms,  though. If my only option were to have 3 in a room, then that is what I would do. 



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I'm not the cat lady type. I'm more like an actual cat. I want affection when I want it and on my own terms. The rest of the time I want to claw out your eyes and piss in your shoes.  

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svolkov
by Emerald Member on Dec. 10, 2012 at 12:21 AM
We will have my in laws here soon too. So we will have 7ppl total and still have two extra rooms lol dd has her own room but she sleeps with us (shes almost 9mo)


Quoting manicMOM_DLC:

I have
4 bedrooms for 6 people. 

my 2&4 year old sons share a room.  Actually they share a bed right now because thats just what they end up doing...

my 8 year old has a room to himself,DH and I share and my dad has a room.

my two youngest are BEST FRIENDS.   my oldest like having a place to keep his stuff.


Quoting svolkov:

My boys do. They have bunk beds. They end up sleeping in the top bunk tog ether most nights lol (we have 6 bedrooms)





Quoting manicMOM_DLC:

all I had was a brother.   BUT when my half sister moved in with us for a while we shared myroom.  that didn't work out well because I was 13, used to not having my own shit messed with and she kinda just feltl ike an invader LOL.  Under normal circumstance though, I actually see it as beneficial for siblings to share their room. 



Quoting AndynsMommy:

This is what I was thinking. I shared a room most of my life, and I turned out just fine and nonresentful towards my parents.








Quoting manicMOM_DLC:

in most countries it is normal for same sex siblings to share rooms.  In fact, it speaks volumes to the character of American's that so many of us find it unacceptable for children to share.









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by Anonymous 8 on Dec. 10, 2012 at 12:21 AM
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Jobs are lost. Marriages break up. New marriages start. Step kids come in. Surprise pregnancies. 

It isn't always about welfare moms having too many kids. 

There were times when I was a teen that I shared a room with my step sisters on weekends when I was at my moms house. I adored my step sisters, even if they were 5 and 8 while I was 14. I didn't care in the least that I didn't have my own space. 

Quoting thetrollcat:

The solution is simple, dont have more kids than you can afford and provide for. Putting three kids in a room is absurd. Putting teenagers with younger kids is INSANE. Stop having kids if you cannot afford the room and space for them.

Quoting Anonymous:

If I had more kids, I would try to stick to 2 kids per room, and keep it. As close together in age as possible. We have three kids, each has their own room. 

Pit isn't always possible to have a larger home with more bedrooms,  though. If my only option were to have 3 in a room, then that is what I would do. 



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