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No bashing please. I need to say this...

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I made a post earlier titled I can't do this anymore. It talked about some problems me and dh were having. I don't know how many of you saw it. A lot happened in the time I made the post. I told some of it in the comments.

It started off I was upset. It's been a long day and dh had told me he wanted tonight to just be a me and him night. Well when I went to lay dd down for bed he snuck off to go see his brother. So I got even more upset. His brother is leaving in the morning to go back to washington. He was just here visiting. Dh was supposed to get up in the morning to see him off. I wouldn't have been so upset had he not just got done telling me he wanted to spend time with me tonight since he's been being an ass and we've been fighting a lot. So He comes back and than starts being mean to me because of it, I finally get fed up and tell him that I can't do this anymore and that I want to leave. So he gets irrate and tells me he is going to leave and that he wants nothing to do with the baby (I am pregnant) or dd. He than said that he was going to try to say that I cheated on him and the baby wasn't his so that he wouldn't have to pay child support or have anything to do with the baby. (dd is not his biologically) He than started talking crap and telling me how much of a bad parent I am. I lost my temper and slapped him. I didn't mean to. I know I shouldn't have but I just lost it for a second. He than pushed me and hit me on my arm and leg. I pick up my phone and call my mom and he grabs his keys and leaves. My mother can't really do anything since she is in another state and has absolutely no money but she did manage to calm me down. Dh comes back a little while later. We argue a little while longer. He goes to the kitchen makes a snack. When he comes back he is calmed down. He says he is sorry he hit me that he never should have done that. We start talking. He says he does want to see the baby and dd that he does not want to abandon them. He also says he does love me but he does not think that we should be together.  He wants things to end on good terms. So it gets quiet because I just don't know what to say so I'm just sitting there crying. He starts rubbing my leg and trying to hug me but I'm tel;ing him not to. I ask him why he's acting like that if we're not going to be together anymore and he says that just because we're not together doesn't mean he doesn't care and he doesn't love me.

He's asleep now, I can't sleep. I don't know what to do. He has NEVER done anything like this before. Sure we have our fights but who doesn't? He's never done anything like he did tonight. Normally he's really sweet. We've had it rough here recently but we always make it work. He always makes sure dd and I have what we need. He's said some mean things before. He's an asshole when he gets mad but it's never gotten anywhere near what happened tonight. 

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 10, 2012 at 2:51 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:10 AM
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I never tried to cry foul because he hit me back. He shouldn't have mostly because I'm pregnant and if he would have aimed wrong he could have hurt the baby. That is my only concern. I know I should not have hit him. I'm not sure what came over me. and I already said I felt bad about it.

As for fixing it I don't know how.

As for your comment on gays and the sanctity of marriage, I thought that was uncalled for. No need to be hateful...

Quoting Anonymous:

I don't understand why women think they can hit a man, and then cry foul when they get hit back. You should have never laid a hand on him. 

As for the rest of the issues - work them out. Seek counseling, and fix it.

Don't be another divorce statistic. 
Jesus, and people think gays ruin the sanctity of marriage. 



mstkn.identity
by on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:11 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:13 AM

I do know I said it first. He however threatened to abandon his baby. He also is the one who tried hugging on me and saying he loved me and cared for me while saying he was leaving me.

Quoting Anonymous:

Are you upset that he's leaving you?

You do realize that you threatened to leave first right?


Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:16 AM
Before I dig in to this post one very off topic question what his sign zodiac I mean?
RoseBlossom
by on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:16 AM

honestly i have slapped my df hard in the face before, and he has NEVER put his hands on me and hes a big guy. he just doesnt cross that line even though i know i deserved it lol. however, since he did put his hands on you, and you are pregnant, that just means he crossed the line into that territory that will never go back, but just keep escalating. he will do it again, or you will... and you will both or one of you will end up in jail. i say you all leave each other before we see you as a lifetime movie

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:18 AM

Gemini....???

Quoting Anonymous:

Before I dig in to this post one very off topic question what his sign zodiac I mean?


RoseBlossom
by on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:19 AM

im not saying its right to hit a man, but honestly shes pregnant and men hit a lot harder than women, so of course she is scared and upset.

Quoting Anonymous:

I don't understand why women think they can hit a man, and then cry foul when they get hit back. You should have never laid a hand on him. 

As for the rest of the issues - work them out. Seek counseling, and fix it.

Don't be another divorce statistic. 
Jesus, and people think gays ruin the sanctity of marriage. 



Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:21 AM
Aww sweety I'm sorry. :( I'm just going to say you need to do whatever you think is right for you and your babies. If this means fighting to keep him, or walking away for good..well that's up to you.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:23 AM

I don't want to keep fighting him. I don't know how this even happened. Neither of us have ever gotten like that before. But I don't think it matters what I think is best. He already said he's going to file for divorce.

Quoting Anonymous:

Aww sweety I'm sorry. :( I'm just going to say you need to do whatever you think is right for you and your babies. If this means fighting to keep him, or walking away for good..well that's up to you.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:27 AM
Ok I just needed to know for personal reasons .. So get this when I was 7 mos preg I slpped dh too close to the same reason wed been arguing he leaves for hours to avoid fixing the problems n goes off with his brother etc.... Well whe I slapped him he pushed me I fell I went into premature labor daughter was in the nicu for a month. Was I wrong yes was he wrong hell yes. Regardless its wrong and UNHEALTHY to be in a relationship with a person who brings out that side of anger in u. This may been the first time but here is the bad part the boundry of physical altercations has been broken.the next time the two of you get angry slapping and arm n leg hitting will not be the worse it will only increase.now u can say ok ill get counseling but if he isnt fully openinded to going ur just wasting money. Let him leave call his bluff the best way to get through to a man is to completley become care free. It may take time but hell realize what he said n how he acted qas selfish n ignorant mean while focus on u n ur baby have a healthy pregnancy without the stress. then think about the relationahip after.


Quoting Anonymous:

Gemini....???

Quoting Anonymous:

Before I dig in to this post one very off topic question what his sign zodiac I mean?



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