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I made a post earlier titled I can't do this anymore. It talked about some problems me and dh were having. I don't know how many of you saw it. A lot happened in the time I made the post. I told some of it in the comments.

It started off I was upset. It's been a long day and dh had told me he wanted tonight to just be a me and him night. Well when I went to lay dd down for bed he snuck off to go see his brother. So I got even more upset. His brother is leaving in the morning to go back to washington. He was just here visiting. Dh was supposed to get up in the morning to see him off. I wouldn't have been so upset had he not just got done telling me he wanted to spend time with me tonight since he's been being an ass and we've been fighting a lot. So He comes back and than starts being mean to me because of it, I finally get fed up and tell him that I can't do this anymore and that I want to leave. So he gets irrate and tells me he is going to leave and that he wants nothing to do with the baby (I am pregnant) or dd. He than said that he was going to try to say that I cheated on him and the baby wasn't his so that he wouldn't have to pay child support or have anything to do with the baby. (dd is not his biologically) He than started talking crap and telling me how much of a bad parent I am. I lost my temper and slapped him. I didn't mean to. I know I shouldn't have but I just lost it for a second. He than pushed me and hit me on my arm and leg. I pick up my phone and call my mom and he grabs his keys and leaves. My mother can't really do anything since she is in another state and has absolutely no money but she did manage to calm me down. Dh comes back a little while later. We argue a little while longer. He goes to the kitchen makes a snack. When he comes back he is calmed down. He says he is sorry he hit me that he never should have done that. We start talking. He says he does want to see the baby and dd that he does not want to abandon them. He also says he does love me but he does not think that we should be together.  He wants things to end on good terms. So it gets quiet because I just don't know what to say so I'm just sitting there crying. He starts rubbing my leg and trying to hug me but I'm tel;ing him not to. I ask him why he's acting like that if we're not going to be together anymore and he says that just because we're not together doesn't mean he doesn't care and he doesn't love me.

He's asleep now, I can't sleep. I don't know what to do. He has NEVER done anything like this before. Sure we have our fights but who doesn't? He's never done anything like he did tonight. Normally he's really sweet. We've had it rough here recently but we always make it work. He always makes sure dd and I have what we need. He's said some mean things before. He's an asshole when he gets mad but it's never gotten anywhere near what happened tonight. 

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 10, 2012 at 2:51 AM
Replies (21-30):
LivysMama
by Gold Member on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:32 AM

Give it some time. I think both of you need to cool down and then calmly talk about these issues. Once it is out in the open like it is now things might actually get better. At least now you both know what the other is thinking.

Hugs.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:33 AM

Can I ask what personal reasons? What do I do if he leaves and doesn't come back? I'm just really confused right now. Especially with lack of sleep catching up. 

Is your dd ok now? 

Quoting Anonymous:

Ok I just needed to know for personal reasons .. So get this when I was 7 mos preg I slpped dh too close to the same reason wed been arguing he leaves for hours to avoid fixing the problems n goes off with his brother etc.... Well whe I slapped him he pushed me I fell I went into premature labor daughter was in the nicu for a month. Was I wrong yes was he wrong hell yes. Regardless its wrong and UNHEALTHY to be in a relationship with a person who brings out that side of anger in u. This may been the first time but here is the bad part the boundry of physical altercations has been broken.the next time the two of you get angry slapping and arm n leg hitting will not be the worse it will only increase.now u can say ok ill get counseling but if he isnt fully openinded to going ur just wasting money. Let him leave call his bluff the best way to get through to a man is to completley become care free. It may take time but hell realize what he said n how he acted qas selfish n ignorant mean while focus on u n ur baby have a healthy pregnancy without the stress. then think about the relationahip after.


Quoting Anonymous:

Gemini....???

Quoting Anonymous:

Before I dig in to this post one very off topic question what his sign zodiac I mean?




lalaboosh
by on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:39 AM

Oh, god RUN! LOL! Sorry, but as a cancer I just can't do geminis!!!! I almost married one, it almost killed me.

Quoting Anonymous:

Gemini....???

Quoting Anonymous:

Before I dig in to this post one very off topic question what his sign zodiac I mean?



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:43 AM

Lol. Does it really matter what your sign is? I don't know anything about that lol. All I know is he is gemini so is dd. And I am scorpio.

That's it. 

Quoting lalaboosh:

Oh, god RUN! LOL! Sorry, but as a cancer I just can't do geminis!!!! I almost married one, it almost killed me.

Quoting Anonymous:

Gemini....???

Quoting Anonymous:

Before I dig in to this post one very off topic question what his sign zodiac I mean?




Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:47 AM

3gr8tKids
by Gold Member on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:50 AM
how long have you been together?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:51 AM
Honestly he is acting like someone having an affair.
mss119
by on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:53 AM
Sounds a lot like my xh. He was very rarely physically abusive, but was verbally and emotionally abusive anytime he got mad, whether it was me he was mad at or not. You says he's an asshole when he's angry, how often is that? Does he usually apologize, or just claim he can't control it or something else placing the blame elsewhere? I left my xh and have much Happier since, but only you can know what's best for your family.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:56 AM
I only ask myself a family member n a best friend.have been through the same thing as well and we were all dating capricorns. So I had to see if it was a capricorn thing its like a inside thing between the three of us. My dd is doing great now tho it was scary n realy preventable back then. Trust me if u know in yur heart he loved u as u did him he WILL be back. I wasted so many years on one man n I put up with so many things becayse I thought he wouldnt come back but he did afyer Ignored him and basically just ok bye. N now hes different hes caring n loving n have been that way for 5 years straight we been togetjer for 8 seprerated for alomst a year. He will come back .


Quoting Anonymous:

Can I ask what personal reasons? What do I do if he leaves and doesn't come back? I'm just really confused right now. Especially with lack of sleep catching up. 

Is your dd ok now? 

Quoting Anonymous:

Ok I just needed to know for personal reasons .. So get this when I was 7 mos preg I slpped dh too close to the same reason wed been arguing he leaves for hours to avoid fixing the problems n goes off with his brother etc.... Well whe I slapped him he pushed me I fell I went into premature labor daughter was in the nicu for a month. Was I wrong yes was he wrong hell yes. Regardless its wrong and UNHEALTHY to be in a relationship with a person who brings out that side of anger in u. This may been the first time but here is the bad part the boundry of physical altercations has been broken.the next time the two of you get angry slapping and arm n leg hitting will not be the worse it will only increase.now u can say ok ill get counseling but if he isnt fully openinded to going ur just wasting money. Let him leave call his bluff the best way to get through to a man is to completley become care free. It may take time but hell realize what he said n how he acted qas selfish n ignorant mean while focus on u n ur baby have a healthy pregnancy without the stress. then think about the relationahip after.





Quoting Anonymous:

Gemini....???

Quoting Anonymous:

Before I dig in to this post one very off topic question what his sign zodiac I mean?






Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:56 AM

3 years. Known each other for 8.

Quoting 3gr8tKids:

how long have you been together?


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