This is my second pregnancy. At the point where they usually do genetic testing during pregnancy, early on, my doctor bugged me at every visit to do it. I refused, saying there was no good reason to have it done. If he could give me one, I'd do it without question. I had a dating ultrasound done. I got a phone call from his office receptionist saying that the results came back and the doctor wanted to discuss them with me, and was I SURE I wasn't doing the genetic testing? She wouldn't tell me what was wrong over the phone of course. I hurriedly booked an appointment. I cried for weeks because I thought something was wrong with the baby. I arrived at the appointment and said "You were needing to discuss the results of the ultrasound with me?"
"No...why? Every thing's fine!" He smiled and checked my blood pressure, then told me again to do the genetic testing. I refused and was just flabbergasted.
I transferred to a gynecologist and when it came to the point (27 weeks or so) where they can do glucose testing for gestational diabetes, the nurse asked me to do it that day. I said "I can't today, I have to get going. Is there a reason this needs to be done...is it mandatory?" She glared at me and said very rudely "Yes...well...yes, it is, you need to have it done." I talked to the gyno and she said I need to come in and have it done at the next appointment, she wouldn't give me a reason why it needed to be done. I am overweight but have only gained 5 pounds and I'm 7 months pregnant, I've been eating healthy, feeling mostly good and no signs of anything being wrong. She even told me I was perfect for weight gain and doing well.
I'm skipping out on the glucose testing today. I know the nurse will literally harrass me about it and talk behind my back at the office (they speak another language there)...but I don't care.
I had midwives with my first pregnancy and everything went perfectly. They never did any unecessary tests, they never made me feel stupid or careless and they genuinly respected my opinions and choices. I'm wishing I had went to the midwives this pregnancy as well...