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If I could, I would spank her kids............HARD!!! Edit in red.

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

So before I get started just want to say I know my kids are not angels and I am not a perfect parent!!

Right.....my SIL has 5 kids and another one on the way. Neither her nor her partner work, they live solely off of benefits. They have been arrested for drug dealing in the past and dad even gave the 3 year old a black eye! SIL always covered in bruises and scratches, obvious DV going on in the house but the thing that really gets me about the whole thing is her rogue children and the fact CPS never seem to be involved.

They swear, and I mean like proper swear (c**t, bitch, wanker, bollox) you name it they say it! They physically fight with each-other, even the 2 year old get slapped and kicked by the older kids, they throw stuff around, have zero respect for anything and talk to their mum like she's a piece of shit!! They are always getting into fights at school, when my SIL can actually be bothered to take them in and have even been in trouble with the police for damaging public property (while SIL&partner were asleep in bed).

I have never said anything to my SIL, it's not my place to and she wouldn't take my comments well anyway but I tell you, if I was given permission to spank those kids, their bums would be so sore they wouldn't be able to sit down for a week and they would know what washing up liquid tasted like too!!

I refuse to babysit for her because of the total disrespect and bad behaviour of the kids, avoid going to their house whenever possible as I don't wish my children to be around such horrid specimens and refuse to speak to her on a friendly level as I'm scared I may slip up and tell her what an awful mother she is!!

Like I said before I know my children aren't angels but they hardly ever swear, have complete respect for their home and possessions, I get told regularly what a credit to me, my children are. I just can't get over my SIL having a 6th child when it's clear she can't cope with the 5 she already has!!

Sorry, I just had to get that off my chest, can't vent to my SO as it's his sis I'm talking about lol.

I would not spank the 3 year old who suffered a punch or the younger children but the 5,8 and 9 year old know better mate

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:19 PM
Replies (11-20):
IndescribableMa
by on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:31 PM

So why don't you call CPS? The thing is, regardless of their horrible behavior(I agree it shouldn't be tolerated), think of the other things that are going on. As their Aunt, I would not want that for them. 

cLanief
by Ruby Member on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:31 PM
No need to spank the kids.. just give ole sil the spanking. Of a life time since it's her and her so's fault
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:33 PM

First seeing their mother getting hit all the time is not healthy,  second if they have been abused once by the parents it's still happening,  those kids don't need more discipline they need to be removed from the home and put into counseling,  but I guess instead of helping it's easier for you to come on the internet and just bitch about it!

Quoting Anonymous:

I only mentioned the 3 year od getting hit ONCE, the children are not abused on a regular basis but my SIL is.

Spanking for extreme bad behaviur is completely different to abuse my love otherwise I'd be a class A child abuser!!

Quoting Anonymous:

So you want to spank children that are already physicly abused,  ya i'm sure that would help!



danandsamsmom
by Silver Member on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:34 PM

So you think that hitting kids that are already the victims of abuse will be helpful?  What did CPS say when you called regarding the abuse of the child?

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:34 PM

because my SO would never forgive me if he found I called them. I do feel the children, really I do, know what it's like to see/hear your mum being beaten to a pulp by your dad but some of the behaviour is just simply them being little bastards, at 9, 8 and 5 they know what they should and shouldn't be doing. If you were to be fly on the wall you would see it's my SIL not being firm, responsible or putting boundaries in place, she'll happily let them run the streets causing chaos because it's easier than reining them in.

Quoting IndescribableMa:

So why don't you call CPS? The thing is, regardless of their horrible behavior(I agree it shouldn't be tolerated), think of the other things that are going on. As their Aunt, I would not want that for them. 


danandsamsmom
by Silver Member on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:35 PM

Really??? Doesn't he feel any obligation to protect his nieces and nephews from abuse??

Your anger at these poor children is misplaced.

Quoting Anonymous:

because my SO would never forgive me if he found I called them. I do feel the children, really I do, know what it's like to see/hear your mum being beaten to a pulp by your dad but some of the behaviour is just simply them being little bastards, at 9, 8 and 5 they know what they should and shouldn't be doing. If you were to be fly on the wall you would see it's my SIL not being firm, responsible or putting boundaries in place, she'll happily let them run the streets causing chaos because it's easier than reining them in.

Quoting IndescribableMa:

So why don't you call CPS? The thing is, regardless of their horrible behavior(I agree it shouldn't be tolerated), think of the other things that are going on. As their Aunt, I would not want that for them. 


 

Jessica_Esqueda
by on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:36 PM

Call Supernanny!! 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:36 PM
Yep fuck off! There will be many others who agree with me.
danandsamsmom
by Silver Member on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:37 PM


Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

Call Supernanny!! 


Child care providers like nannies are mandatory providers in most states.  A call to CPS would anger OP's boyfriend.  Crazy, huh?

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:39 PM

they interviewed the parents and tried to get SIL to press charges for it but she refused to on the ground's that he was drunk at the time and he never meant to bruise her!! It wasn't me that called them, it was a neighbour that had witnessed the abuse. This is what I mean though mate, they seem to get away with it every-time, god knows how but they do. When they got caught dealing crack cocaine she got a suspended sentence, the kids put on the at risk register for 6 months and that was it.

As I stated to someone ese, there is a BIG difference between spanking for extremely bad behaviour and then there's abuse.

Quoting danandsamsmom:

So you think that hitting kids that are already the victims of abuse will be helpful?  What did CPS say when you called regarding the abuse of the child?


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