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If I could, I would spank her kids............HARD!!! Edit in red.

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So before I get started just want to say I know my kids are not angels and I am not a perfect parent!!

Right.....my SIL has 5 kids and another one on the way. Neither her nor her partner work, they live solely off of benefits. They have been arrested for drug dealing in the past and dad even gave the 3 year old a black eye! SIL always covered in bruises and scratches, obvious DV going on in the house but the thing that really gets me about the whole thing is her rogue children and the fact CPS never seem to be involved.

They swear, and I mean like proper swear (c**t, bitch, wanker, bollox) you name it they say it! They physically fight with each-other, even the 2 year old get slapped and kicked by the older kids, they throw stuff around, have zero respect for anything and talk to their mum like she's a piece of shit!! They are always getting into fights at school, when my SIL can actually be bothered to take them in and have even been in trouble with the police for damaging public property (while SIL&partner were asleep in bed).

I have never said anything to my SIL, it's not my place to and she wouldn't take my comments well anyway but I tell you, if I was given permission to spank those kids, their bums would be so sore they wouldn't be able to sit down for a week and they would know what washing up liquid tasted like too!!

I refuse to babysit for her because of the total disrespect and bad behaviour of the kids, avoid going to their house whenever possible as I don't wish my children to be around such horrid specimens and refuse to speak to her on a friendly level as I'm scared I may slip up and tell her what an awful mother she is!!

Like I said before I know my children aren't angels but they hardly ever swear, have complete respect for their home and possessions, I get told regularly what a credit to me, my children are. I just can't get over my SIL having a 6th child when it's clear she can't cope with the 5 she already has!!

Sorry, I just had to get that off my chest, can't vent to my SO as it's his sis I'm talking about lol.

I would not spank the 3 year old who suffered a punch or the younger children but the 5,8 and 9 year old know better mate

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 10, 2012 at 3:19 PM
Replies (151-160):
Bonita131
by Platinum Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:44 PM


Quoting StarryRain:

Things aren't the same in other countries, duh.

Quoting Bonita131:

 


Quoting Anonymous:


My SO and I tried helping her.last time her partner went to prison we took her and at the time, 4 kids into our home but as soon as her partner got out, she ran back to him and got pregnant again...they only seem happy when she is pregnant (because he won't hit her). It's about more than just pissing my SO off, the girl would cause unbelievable amounts of problems for me and my children.......my SO would forgive me and eventually understand but she wouldn't....I'm not about to put my kids in the firing line.


I'm a wannabe child abuser am I? What coz I don't give 2 shits about spanking my kids if their behaviour is bad enough that they need it? I don't beat my kids on a regular basis, actually use other methods of discipline before my hand comes out........twat!!


Quoting Bonita131:


 


Quoting Anonymous:


because my SO would never forgive me if he found I called them. I do feel the children, really I do, know what it's like to see/hear your mum being beaten to a pulp by your dad but some of the behaviour is just simply them being little bastards, at 9, 8 and 5 they know what they should and shouldn't be doing. If you were to be fly on the wall you would see it's my SIL not being firm, responsible or putting boundaries in place, she'll happily let them run the streets causing chaos because it's easier than reining them in.


Quoting IndescribableMa:


So why don't you call CPS? The thing is, regardless of their horrible behavior(I agree it shouldn't be tolerated), think of the other things that are going on. As their Aunt, I would not want that for them. 




If your SIL is being battered on a regular basis, it's not hard to understand why she's not being "firm, responsible & putting boundaries in place." She'd probably get smacked for trying to discipline the children anyway.  Instead of giving the impression of a wannabe child abuser yourself,  be a responsible adult and call CPS. Not calling "because your SO would never forgive you" is a chicken shit excuse. If your story is true, your SIL needs help and her children need help, now, not sometime in the future when it might be too late.




What a feeble excuse. You can call CPS anonymously. Your SIL would not know it was you or your SO who called. Seriously, from the gist of your post and comments, it seems you're fine with bitching about the situation but not fine with doing something about it.
As for the wannabe child abuser remark, the way you almost gleefully described what you'd like to do to your SILs children, the label fit.  

Things aren't the same in a third world country, the OP doesn't live in a third world country, duh.

Mel0dy
by Platinum Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:48 PM
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I think it's sad that these kids have shitty parents that dont take care of them and abuse them and whats even sadder is you wanna spank them for there PARENTS FUCK UPS. don't you think these kids have it bad enough? maybe if you really wanna help these kids you would call CPS instead of beating there asses so they can't sit for a week. I'm sorry but this post reayy pisses me off. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 23 on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:51 PM
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Those kids need therapy and boundaries. If they are being abused it is why they act out and spanking would be counter productive. It sounds like they need love, patience and real discipline, not just spanking. They aren't being taught and are most likely abused.  They need out of that house from the sounds of it.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 24 on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:53 PM
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so you want to hit abused children?  did i read that right?

AutymsMommy
by Platinum Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:59 PM

I will never understood why people expect children, no matter their age, to "know better" when they've never been TAUGHT better. Children aren't born knowing the difference between right and wrong.

OP, you sound as awesome as the sorry excuse parents the children have. Shame on you for expecting children to give more respect than they're given.

I am a Home Schooling, Vaccinating, Non spanking, Nightmare Cuddling, Dessert Giving, Bedtime Kissing, Book Reading, Stay at Home Mom. I believe in the benefit of organized after school activities and nosy, involved parents. I believe in spoiling my children. I believe that I have seen the village and I do not want it anywhere near my children. Now for the controversial stuff: we have traditional gender roles, we're Catholic, I'm Libertarian, he's Republican, we're both conservative, and we own guns (now there's no need to ask, lol).             Aimee














StarryRain
by Gold Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 2:30 PM
*facepalm*

the anonymity of CPS reporting in other countries isn't the same. Do you suffer reading comprehension issues?

What part of I can't involve myself at the risk of my kids did you miss?

Op!! I can have a British friend call for ya!


Quoting Bonita131:



Quoting StarryRain:

Things aren't the same in other countries, duh.


Quoting Bonita131:


 



Quoting Anonymous:



My SO and I tried helping her.last time her partner went to prison we took her and at the time, 4 kids into our home but as soon as her partner got out, she ran back to him and got pregnant again...they only seem happy when she is pregnant (because he won't hit her). It's about more than just pissing my SO off, the girl would cause unbelievable amounts of problems for me and my children.......my SO would forgive me and eventually understand but she wouldn't....I'm not about to put my kids in the firing line.



I'm a wannabe child abuser am I? What coz I don't give 2 shits about spanking my kids if their behaviour is bad enough that they need it? I don't beat my kids on a regular basis, actually use other methods of discipline before my hand comes out........twat!!



Quoting Bonita131:



 



Quoting Anonymous:



because my SO would never forgive me if he found I called them. I do feel the children, really I do, know what it's like to see/hear your mum being beaten to a pulp by your dad but some of the behaviour is just simply them being little bastards, at 9, 8 and 5 they know what they should and shouldn't be doing. If you were to be fly on the wall you would see it's my SIL not being firm, responsible or putting boundaries in place, she'll happily let them run the streets causing chaos because it's easier than reining them in.



Quoting IndescribableMa:



So why don't you call CPS? The thing is, regardless of their horrible behavior(I agree it shouldn't be tolerated), think of the other things that are going on. As their Aunt, I would not want that for them. 






If your SIL is being battered on a regular basis, it's not hard to understand why she's not being "firm, responsible & putting boundaries in place." She'd probably get smacked for trying to discipline the children anyway.  Instead of giving the impression of a wannabe child abuser yourself,  be a responsible adult and call CPS. Not calling "because your SO would never forgive you" is a chicken shit excuse. If your story is true, your SIL needs help and her children need help, now, not sometime in the future when it might be too late.






What a feeble excuse. You can call CPS anonymously. Your SIL would not know it was you or your SO who called. Seriously, from the gist of your post and comments, it seems you're fine with bitching about the situation but not fine with doing something about it.
As for the wannabe child abuser remark, the way you almost gleefully described what you'd like to do to your SILs children, the label fit.  


Things aren't the same in a third world country, the OP doesn't live in a third world country, duh.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 11, 2012 at 4:49 PM

lol....I can be well cockney when I wanna be lmao and my SO tells me I could be receptioist with my delighful telephone manner  haha, posh when I wanna be too ;-)

I think I'm a bit mre common then your friend though we don't call it tea in our house, it's dinner...if you told my lot they were getting tea they would tell you....'mummy's the only one that has tea at our house.' OMG!! Just realised how some people would over react and not realise the difference in language use if my kids said that to them....could you imagine it lol.

Quoting StarryRain:

Ah ha, no. My dear friend Sharpy is from a smaller area not near London, and you remind me of her. Not cockney, not posh and pretentious. Just cozy and nice . And like tea at your house (as it is as hers), would be a delightful event. I dropped anon. Obviously. :)

Quoting Anonymous:

thanks ;-)

Will ask though what sort of accent are you getting from me? Hopefully not the posh, snooty one lol.

Quoting Anonymous:

I heart your adorable Britishness. Your accent just pours through this. Cheers. Don't put up with that mess.






Quoting Anonymous:

I'm not doing Christmas at my house this year, told my SO it was too much hassle but in all honesty it's so I don't have to have them in my house!

We gotta go round there next weekend and I'm dreading it......takes all I have not to step up and sort the little fuckers out myself lol

Quoting LivysMama:

Yeah, they'd have gotten spanked if they were mine too. I bet the holiday season is wonderful lol




Anonymous
by Anonymous 25 on Dec. 11, 2012 at 4:54 PM
It's obvious why the kids are the way they are. Since you know exactly whats going on with the parents, I would think it would be easy to understand the kids behavior.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 11, 2012 at 4:54 PM

It's not me that said they were abused it was other people replying to my posts and I was throwing bones. I'm not about to call CPS on them when I have not seen the abuse first hand, plus the fact SIL would make my life a living hell! My reasoning behind wondering why CPS hadn't ALREADY been more involved was because IMO behaviour as bad as theirs and seeing her inability to correctly care, discipline (whichever method she see fit) and raise them is neglect

I've given up giving my reasons for not calling them but got accused of all sorts........there's just no telling some people babe.

Quoting Anonymous:

You contradict yourself. You say she doesn't spank, but yet they are abused. As well as the spanking you described, wanting to give to her kids would be considered abuse not discipline.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 26 on Dec. 12, 2012 at 8:53 PM
So children being exposed to violence in the home model that same behavior and you want to hit them rather than protect them? Do you have any idea how unintelligent this is?
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