Very very bold of you bio dad... Extremely BOLD... One year later update!
One year later: it's been one year since dd met her bio dad. I am very happy to report that they have an active open communication relationship. The visit last year went very well. Dd as understandably was very shy. We had a mc Donald's party type deal were dd opened Christmas presents then went to a children's museum. As dd opened off I would back out a little bit. By the first half hour at the children's museum I was off playing with my younger kids while dd got some more one on one time with bio dad. Grandma stuck around close to keep extra eyes on her and her comfort level. I reviews photos the next day of her building sand castles with him and giving high fives! I took all the pics and loaded them into a shutterfly photo book she carries everywhere with her!
We had another visit back in June where I backed way off... Still tagged along with my other kids but backed off enough that he and his family had more alone time with dd. basically I was close if she got worried but far enough away that he had the alone chance with her. Went very well. So well after 2 days of visits I let her have a slumber party at her grandmas the next night with her sisters. And that went so well I decided dd could attend a party with grandma (all day event) without me! I'm also going to be driving dd down to halfway point very soon so dd can spend an extended long weekend with bio dad and grandma! Dd talks to grandma every other week. Bio dad and I get along so well we text daily as friends and so he can see how dd is doing that day! I send photos and videos often an they now skype visit! Over all it's been a great transition! Dd started calling bio dad, daddy this summer and now brags about how lucky she is to have 2 daddies! So it ended up a win for everyone!