I'm afraid I'll be turned off by him and am I selfish??

[Anonymous]

My husband is trying to lose 100 lbs, give or take. He is a pretty big guy, around 280, although years ago he was RIPPED. He is losing pretty rapidly, and I am concerned about several things. 

First of all, I am worried that once he reaches his goal, he'll have loose, saggy skin from being overweight for so many years, and I'm worried that It will completely turn me off. 

Second of all, I have never known him to be ripped, fit and so forth. I have seen pictures, and it doesn't even look like him. Part of what attracted me to him, in the first place, was how big he is, and I'm afraid he'll just look too much different than when I fell in love with him.

Thirdly, I am afraid that he'll lose all this weight, beef back up, and want a prettier girl because he's no longer overweight. 

I'm horrible, right?

[Peaceful.chaos]

He's trying to weigh 80 lbs?

[Armymom134]

 Why on earth would he want to weigh 80 pounds?

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

My bad. Typo. He is 280 or so, right now. He wants to get down to around 185. Sorry! lol

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[Arabellas_Mommy]

Not horrible, no. Have you talked to your DH about your concerns?

[Anonymous]

Quoting Peaceful.chaos:

He's trying to weigh 80 lbs?

[BelleVernonGirl]

Your husband is 180lbs trying to loose 100 lbs?  Da fuq?

 

LOL  Sorry..I get you girl

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Aaargh! It was a typo! He is currently around 280 or a bit more. His goal is around 185, and he's 5ft 9

Quoting BelleVernonGirl:

Your husband is 180lbs trying to loose 100 lbs?  Da fuq?

[Armymom134]

 

Quoting Anonymous:

My bad. Typo. He is 280 or so, right now. He wants to get down to around 185. Sorry! lol

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If you work out in the right way, and don't loose weight too fast usually your skin will be just fine, unless you have been grossly overweight, then you might have issues.

[Cma30]

I think your fears r understandable.. Just remember to breath. Have you tried to talk to him?

[StoneColdKiller]

 Sounds like you have low self esteem and not sure how much you love your husband.

If you love him, really any way he looks will not be a turn off, and if he loves you he will not want anyone but you.