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I'm afraid I'll be turned off by him and am I selfish??

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

My husband is trying to lose 100 lbs, give or take. He is a pretty big guy, around 280, although years ago he was RIPPED. He is losing pretty rapidly, and I am concerned about several things. 

First of all, I am worried that once he reaches his goal, he'll have loose, saggy skin from being overweight for so many years, and I'm worried that It will completely turn me off. 

Second of all, I have never known him to be ripped, fit and so forth. I have seen pictures, and it doesn't even look like him. Part of what attracted me to him, in the first place, was how big he is, and I'm afraid he'll just look too much different than when I fell in love with him.

Thirdly, I am afraid that he'll lose all this weight, beef back up, and want a prettier girl because he's no longer overweight. 


I'm horrible, right?

Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:45 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:49 AM

No. I'm pretty embarrassed to talk to him about it, and I don't want to hurt his feelings. He's doing this to become healthier for himself and us, so it doesn't seem right to bother him with petty feelings.

Quoting Arabellas_Mommy:

Not horrible, no. Have you talked to your DH about your concerns?


Armymom134
by Gold Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:49 AM

 

Quoting Anonymous:

Aaargh! It was a typo! He is currently around 280 or a bit more. His goal is around 185, and he's 5ft 9

Quoting BelleVernonGirl:

Your husband is 180lbs trying to loose 100 lbs?  Da fuq?

 

 You should edit your OP so people don't keep posting this.

kgsharber
by Gold Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:49 AM

 How much do you weigh?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:49 AM

Well at the rate he's going he might be dead.

Would you rather him to be dead or alive?


I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just being honest.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:50 AM

My husband is my absolute world. However, I'm not naive enough to believe physical attraction doesn't matter one whit in a relationship. 

Quoting StoneColdKiller:

 Sounds like you have low self esteem and not sure how much you love your husband.

If you love him, really any way he looks will not be a turn off, and if he loves you he will not want anyone but you.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:51 AM

Me? I weigh about 140.

Quoting kgsharber:

 How much do you weigh?


LivysMama
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:51 AM

I think its an understandable worry, but the journey to lose that much weight is so slow that I don't think you're going to wake up one day and say, "Oh, I'm not attracted to you anymore." It'll be a metamorphosis and you'll probably be just as attracted to him as you always were.

StoneColdKiller
by Gold Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:52 AM

 I have been married for 12 years, both me and my husband have gone up and down and havent always looked good, atleast for us (and I would image for a lot of people) physical attraction ends once you really are in love with the person.

Quoting Anonymous:

My husband is my absolute world. However, I'm not naive enough to believe physical attraction doesn't matter one whit in a relationship. 

Quoting StoneColdKiller:

 Sounds like you have low self esteem and not sure how much you love your husband.

If you love him, really any way he looks will not be a turn off, and if he loves you he will not want anyone but you.

 

 

Ireallydontcare
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:54 AM

You are not horrible, but you are insecure.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 11, 2012 at 1:57 AM
Im not saying I won't love him anymore. I've just seen after pictures of people who have lost a lot of weight. I'm just talking about in the bedroom..... The thought of huge, loose skin just weirds me out.


Quoting StoneColdKiller:

 I have been married for 12 years, both me and my husband have gone up and down and havent always looked good, atleast for us (and I would image for a lot of people) physical attraction ends once you really are in love with the person.


Quoting Anonymous:


My husband is my absolute world. However, I'm not naive enough to believe physical attraction doesn't matter one whit in a relationship. 


Quoting StoneColdKiller:


 Sounds like you have low self esteem and not sure how much you love your husband.


If you love him, really any way he looks will not be a turn off, and if he loves you he will not want anyone but you.


 


 


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