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*Update on bottom* My Walmart story I called the police, DF says I shouldnt have :(

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Without going into detail of why, I had to run to Walmart at 1:30 am yesterday. While I'm in the Pharmacy area I hear a baby crying, not just crying flat out screaming. I also heard a Mom yelling at a little kid to get their a$$ back over there. This is where DF says I should have just walked out of the store, nope the protective Mom in me decides to investigate. I walk in the direction of yelling Mom, screaming baby and I see a little black Girl (not meaning to offend) running up and down the isle. The screaming baby suddenly stopped. Mom was leaning over her cart saying something her back to me I get closer and I realize what she's doing. Omg I almost screamed, this crazy Bitch has one hand over the babies mouth (I'm guessing age 9 months) while pinching his nose and slapping him with the other. She was saying "Stop, stop your F'in screaming you hear?"



I yelled at her "What are you doing, are you crazy?"



She turned around and said "mind your own business Bitch"



About that time the other little Girl was climbing on the cart the Mom grabbed her arm and told her to stop acting like a heathen little brat.







I walked to the service desk and asked the kid to dial 911 and give me the phone (left my cell in my car) I didn't want her leaving.



Two officers show up about 5 minutes later, by this time she's at the check out I'm pointing to her explaining what I seen her do. They walked over to her and she's yelling across the lanes "why'd you call the police? They my kids, you don't have no right"



The Policemen told her to calm down, she's yelling "I didn't do nothing"







I was in tears, I'm not sure exactly what's gonna happen but they escorted her to one car and one officer was holding the baby seat and little Girls hand. They asked me to write a statement and asked for a manager and asked her about cameras in that isle. I finished with the statement and left. I got home around 3am.



I called DF (he's in Chicago) and woke him up and told him what happened. He asked me if it was really that bad or if I was over reacting? He said I can't be calling the cops everytime I see a Mom mistreat her kids and maybe there was something wrong with the kid that he screams all the time and he made her do that??







I don't believe I was in the wrong, you don't slap a baby no matter what stress your under. And I'm confused as to why my DF would even question what I did. I don't just look for Moms being mean their kids and call the police. By the end of the call he apologized but said everyones parenting isn't the same and I need to take that into concideration.







How would you have handled this? Should I have called the police? I mean it was 1:30 in the morning I would never take my kids shopping at that hr. DF said again I was wrong to assume everyones schedules are the same. I feel awful but mostly for those kids.





*I would like to say I did not call CPS, I called the police. I didn't follow her, I heard a screaming baby and seen a little Girl running around I thought I would check it out maybe help her get her dd back to her.


I don't just jump to conclusions about people, I like to think the best of everyone. Maybe she was tired, maybe she doesn't get help with her kids, maybe she was stressed out, maybe she doesn't know how to cope with a situation like that, maybe, maybe, maybe, MAYBE by calling the police I opened a door for her to get help. There is NO excuse whatsoever to hold a babies nose and mouth let alone slap them. I don't know what happened after I left and the police aren't going to tell me what steps they took it is none of my business, I stopped the abuse of a child, an infant no matter what anyone elses opinion is of how I did it. I'm suppose to ask her if I can help her out? Uh no my first instinct is to get her off that baby and get those kids some help.


From the replies there are a lot of Moms who feel the same way. For the ones that said I should mind my own business, how do you do that when you see a baby being slapped?


I will swat my kids bottom if they get out of hand I'm not against spanking, I am against flat out abuse of innocent children who's Mothers hurt them because they had a bad day.


*After talking with DF (who wasn't understanding the whole picture at 3am this morning) I do feel I did the right thing. He did point out a few things that I have to remember. I have a soft spot for kids any kid, when I see one being hurt I go into protective Mommy mode and the truth is I don't know that Mothers life or what kind of person she is. Hitting your child, sufficating your child is wrong he asked me if I thought about the Mother at all, thought about her feelings. I said of course not I wanted her away from those kids before she did worse. He looked at me and said EXACTLY, so why didn't you just pull her away and say "your hurting your Baby please walk away for a few minutes"
After thinking about it maybe he has a point. Maybe she's not a monster but someone under a lot of stress and snapped and needs help coping with it while raising her kids.
He also pointed out and I hope to God he's right that this could have just been a one time thing and cps won't just take her kids but help her keep them with Parenting classes or counceling.

While I still feel at that moment my instincts were right to react I do hope she gets help and doesn't harm her baby again.
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Alanaplus3
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:53 AM
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At no age is it ok to hold your hand over a child's mouth while holding their nose.  She could have killed her baby.  That alone was enough to call them.  Good for you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:53 AM
You should have minded your own business.
CutieCrab
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:54 AM
I agree with you!! Wth... Crazy lady!!
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Aslen
by Ruby Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:54 AM
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The woman was SUFFOCATING the baby! How do you NOT call??


Quoting Anonymous:

I don't think you should have called Cps, how do you know she wasn't under immense amounts of stress, right she shouldn't have hit the baby. I don't like how involved people get. IMO if the girl was running around like that then she doesn't see her mom as a threat and is most likely happy, you were out at early hours, tiredness from the baby may be a factor. I feel sick that these kids may lose what might have been a good mother for a stranger sticking her nose in. So sad.


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Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:54 AM
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You did the right thing.

Honestly now I'd be questioning the man I was marrying. I'm not sure I could marry a man that thought that was ok.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:54 AM
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Good job mama! You might have saved their lives.
RunningMommaof2
by Kelly on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:54 AM
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I really thik you did the right thing. Most people wont take the time of day to stop abuse, and you did. If she was doing that in the store, imagine what she does at home. Good job momma. 

deputygirls28
by Gold Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:54 AM
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So watching a woman cover her child's mouth and pinching the nose shut bc the baby is crying isn't a reason to call the cops? Lady, CPS will offer her help. If you are making excuses for a woman to treat an innocent child like that then you need to have a nice long talk with yourself


Quoting Anonymous:

No But all the time CPS are called, this i think is
uncalled for, she could have offered to lend a hand, a shoulder to cry
on... not add to the stress and involove the legal system. what happened
to helping out rather then getting people in trouble and messing up
lives


Quoting deputygirls28:

So it ok to abuse kids as log as your stressed?





Quoting Anonymous:

I don't think you should have called Cps, how do you know she wasn't under immense amounts of stress, right she shouldn't have hit the baby. I don't like how involved people get. IMO if the girl was running around like that then she doesn't see her mom as a threat and is most likely happy, you were out at early hours, tiredness from the baby may be a factor. I feel sick that these kids may lose what might have been a good mother for a stranger sticking her nose in. So sad.





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birthymom4
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:55 AM
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You also need to tell your DF child abuse isn't another "parenting choice"....A parenting choice is whether or not to spank...NOT whether or not to smother their child!
Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:55 AM
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You would be the person that would hear the neighbor abusing their child and not call the police. And then be so sad when they wound up killing the child.  All because you didn't want to get involved.  Good for you!

Quoting Anonymous:

I don't think you should have called Cps, how do you know she wasn't under immense amounts of stress, right she shouldn't have hit the baby. I don't like how involved people get. IMO if the girl was running around like that then she doesn't see her mom as a threat and is most likely happy, you were out at early hours, tiredness from the baby may be a factor. I feel sick that these kids may lose what might have been a good mother for a stranger sticking her nose in. So sad.


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