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*Update on bottom* My Walmart story I called the police, DF says I shouldnt have :(

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Without going into detail of why, I had to run to Walmart at 1:30 am yesterday. While I'm in the Pharmacy area I hear a baby crying, not just crying flat out screaming. I also heard a Mom yelling at a little kid to get their a$$ back over there. This is where DF says I should have just walked out of the store, nope the protective Mom in me decides to investigate. I walk in the direction of yelling Mom, screaming baby and I see a little black Girl (not meaning to offend) running up and down the isle. The screaming baby suddenly stopped. Mom was leaning over her cart saying something her back to me I get closer and I realize what she's doing. Omg I almost screamed, this crazy Bitch has one hand over the babies mouth (I'm guessing age 9 months) while pinching his nose and slapping him with the other. She was saying "Stop, stop your F'in screaming you hear?"



I yelled at her "What are you doing, are you crazy?"



She turned around and said "mind your own business Bitch"



About that time the other little Girl was climbing on the cart the Mom grabbed her arm and told her to stop acting like a heathen little brat.







I walked to the service desk and asked the kid to dial 911 and give me the phone (left my cell in my car) I didn't want her leaving.



Two officers show up about 5 minutes later, by this time she's at the check out I'm pointing to her explaining what I seen her do. They walked over to her and she's yelling across the lanes "why'd you call the police? They my kids, you don't have no right"



The Policemen told her to calm down, she's yelling "I didn't do nothing"







I was in tears, I'm not sure exactly what's gonna happen but they escorted her to one car and one officer was holding the baby seat and little Girls hand. They asked me to write a statement and asked for a manager and asked her about cameras in that isle. I finished with the statement and left. I got home around 3am.



I called DF (he's in Chicago) and woke him up and told him what happened. He asked me if it was really that bad or if I was over reacting? He said I can't be calling the cops everytime I see a Mom mistreat her kids and maybe there was something wrong with the kid that he screams all the time and he made her do that??







I don't believe I was in the wrong, you don't slap a baby no matter what stress your under. And I'm confused as to why my DF would even question what I did. I don't just look for Moms being mean their kids and call the police. By the end of the call he apologized but said everyones parenting isn't the same and I need to take that into concideration.







How would you have handled this? Should I have called the police? I mean it was 1:30 in the morning I would never take my kids shopping at that hr. DF said again I was wrong to assume everyones schedules are the same. I feel awful but mostly for those kids.





*I would like to say I did not call CPS, I called the police. I didn't follow her, I heard a screaming baby and seen a little Girl running around I thought I would check it out maybe help her get her dd back to her.


I don't just jump to conclusions about people, I like to think the best of everyone. Maybe she was tired, maybe she doesn't get help with her kids, maybe she was stressed out, maybe she doesn't know how to cope with a situation like that, maybe, maybe, maybe, MAYBE by calling the police I opened a door for her to get help. There is NO excuse whatsoever to hold a babies nose and mouth let alone slap them. I don't know what happened after I left and the police aren't going to tell me what steps they took it is none of my business, I stopped the abuse of a child, an infant no matter what anyone elses opinion is of how I did it. I'm suppose to ask her if I can help her out? Uh no my first instinct is to get her off that baby and get those kids some help.


From the replies there are a lot of Moms who feel the same way. For the ones that said I should mind my own business, how do you do that when you see a baby being slapped?


I will swat my kids bottom if they get out of hand I'm not against spanking, I am against flat out abuse of innocent children who's Mothers hurt them because they had a bad day.


*After talking with DF (who wasn't understanding the whole picture at 3am this morning) I do feel I did the right thing. He did point out a few things that I have to remember. I have a soft spot for kids any kid, when I see one being hurt I go into protective Mommy mode and the truth is I don't know that Mothers life or what kind of person she is. Hitting your child, sufficating your child is wrong he asked me if I thought about the Mother at all, thought about her feelings. I said of course not I wanted her away from those kids before she did worse. He looked at me and said EXACTLY, so why didn't you just pull her away and say "your hurting your Baby please walk away for a few minutes"
After thinking about it maybe he has a point. Maybe she's not a monster but someone under a lot of stress and snapped and needs help coping with it while raising her kids.
He also pointed out and I hope to God he's right that this could have just been a one time thing and cps won't just take her kids but help her keep them with Parenting classes or counceling.

While I still feel at that moment my instincts were right to react I do hope she gets help and doesn't harm her baby again.
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by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:40 AM
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mary841108
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:55 AM

 you did the right thing. i would have too. unfortunately we see this at our walmart all the time. (though at 1 am my butt is in bed lol, i go first thing in the morning usually) its sad and i always say something. DH tells me that I am embarassing in there because i will call someone out for mistreating their kids in there.

CABZS
by Emerald Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:56 AM
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Someone is suffocating a baby and witnesses should do nothing?

Wow, just wow.


Quoting Anonymous:

You should have minded your own business.

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Mrs.Blake12
by Bronze Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:56 AM
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A good mother doesn't cover a babies mouth and nose. I have see too many times where there was subtle signs of abuse in children that was ignored but later on mother kills baby. She did the right thing. If the woman didn't do anything wrong then she won't lose her kids.


Quoting Anonymous:

I don't think you should have called Cps, how do you know she wasn't under immense amounts of stress, right she shouldn't have hit the baby. I don't like how involved people get. IMO if the girl was running around like that then she doesn't see her mom as a threat and is most likely happy, you were out at early hours, tiredness from the baby may be a factor. I feel sick that these kids may lose what might have been a good mother for a stranger sticking her nose in. So sad.


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Jennyanne322
by Platinum Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:56 AM
What would she have been able to tell CPS? She has no name, or info for the woman, how will CPS do anything without that info? She called the police and that's the right thing to do. Would you slap your child when they were 9months old, or put your hand over their mouth to get them to stop crying?

Quoting Anonymous:

I don't think you should have called Cps, how do you know she wasn't under immense amounts of stress, right she shouldn't have hit the baby. I don't like how involved people get. IMO if the girl was running around like that then she doesn't see her mom as a threat and is most likely happy, you were out at early hours, tiredness from the baby may be a factor. I feel sick that these kids may lose what might have been a good mother for a stranger sticking her nose in. So sad.

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JDmommyJD
by ♥Awesome Sauce♥ on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:56 AM
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Says another child abuser, I'm sure...

Quoting Anonymous:

You should have minded your own business.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:56 AM
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i agree with your DF-- everyone parents differently, not all people have the same schedule...

but when it comes to not allowing your infant child to BREATHE- me and him will disagree. thats just wrong. i dont care how stressed out, pissed off, crazy the parent/adult is. if its to the point where you block the airway, you need to walk away. you need to call somebody- anybody- including the police- to come take the kids until you are more fit to handle them.

i'm glad that you called. who knows what could've happened! who knows what DID happen before they got to the store. you hear all these stories about shaken baby syndrome; the kid was crying to bad that the parent just shook it 'just a little bit' to make it stop crying-- who knows if that already happened. personally, i wouldnt put it past that mother and thats sad! =(

ysmeine
by Bronze Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:56 AM

CPS doesn't automatically take the kids away, they offer help like counceling or classes to help with stress. They actually want to keep families together.

Quoting Anonymous:

I agree. But still, all the time CPS are called, this i think is uncalled for, she could have offered to lend a hand, a shoulder to cry on... not add to the stress and involove the legal system. what happened to helping out rather then getting people in trouble and messing up lives

Quoting harpsichord:

There's no excuse for treating an infant that way.

Quoting Anonymous:

I don't think you should have called Cps, how do you know she wasn't under immense amounts of stress, right she shouldn't have hit the baby. I don't like how involved people get. IMO if the girl was running around like that then she doesn't see her mom as a threat and is most likely happy, you were out at early hours, tiredness from the baby may be a factor. I feel sick that these kids may lose what might have been a good mother for a stranger sticking her nose in. So sad.



HaywoodJablome
by Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:56 AM
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Your story is like comparing apples to oranges.

You calling the cops on her for the carseat issue is petty and butting your nose in (sounds like you don't like the girl for some personal reason).

The mother the OP was talking about was abusing her child.

Quoting lilyrose2011:

Deffantly did the right thing! While at my work one day a lady came through the drive thru and I seem in her backseat a baby that was less than a year old with no car seat and not even buckled in with the seat belt climbing around in the back while she had her 2 year old strapped safely in a car seat. It's a small town so I knew the girl and in general is a terrible mother and you bet your ass I called the cops on her.


CoolRelax
by Platinum Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:56 AM

I think you did the right thing.  Sounds like that mom had reached her breaking point, I imagine if she's near a pharmacy with her kids at 1:30am that she was in the middle of a very stressful situation and she could have spiraled out of control.  

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:56 AM

Lol, wondered if any one seen that. I completely agree in the fact that it is abuse and what you say makes sense, but do CPS always help? No sometimes they just intervene and take the kids. I fear my child being taken from me and can not comprehend how people can do it to others, Surely there must have been another, more positive approach rather than calling?

Quoting TrouserMouse:

 You didn't really delete fast enough.

Anyway, slapping a 9 month old and definitely placing her hand over its nose or mouth is abuse.  When you suspect abuse is when you call CPS, end of story.

There are 3 things that lead to someone being an abuser: character, stress, and opportunity.  As stress increases, the likelihood that a person's character will be pushed to the limit and opportunity will no longer matter.  This lady was abusing her child in the middle of Walmart.  She is a ticking time bomb.  There needs to be an intervention.  Waiting until a child is dead is not soon enough.

Quoting Anonymous:

No But all the time CPS are called, this i think is uncalled for, she could have offered to lend a hand, a shoulder to cry on... not add to the stress and involove the legal system. what happened to helping out rather then getting people in trouble and messing up lives

Quoting deputygirls28:

So it ok to abuse kids as log as your stressed?


Quoting Anonymous:

I don't think you should have called Cps, how do you know she wasn't under immense amounts of stress, right she shouldn't have hit the baby. I don't like how involved people get. IMO if the girl was running around like that then she doesn't see her mom as a threat and is most likely happy, you were out at early hours, tiredness from the baby may be a factor. I feel sick that these kids may lose what might have been a good mother for a stranger sticking her nose in. So sad.



 


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