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"I dont want my sons to be a a**hole"

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This was my S/os exact words.

I plan on putting the boys in multiple classes ( hip hop dance class..because well its the most boy dance class and come kn, when they are older girls will love that they can dance ;) hahaha!)
A class for a musical instrument (of their choice)
A self defense class ( judo/boxing/tikwondo etc)
& a min. of one sport (again their choice)

My reason being to keep them busy. All of these will be good outlets & a way to form friendships...plus if they make it on a school team they are less likely to be bullied & will have to keep good grades . I plan on the self defense for three reasons..1 they will know legally they can not put their hands on another person as well as if they really took to it they would avoid most bad doings (drugs..underage drinking..because lets gace it you can talk until your blue in the face and some kids will still try ..key word some!) ...2. Most kids wont want to start a fight with them because they know they had some training..& 3 should a kid go after them if need be they can defend themselves.

& no i will not force my boys to stay in this programs etc if they are miserable in them they can drop them.

S/o thinks only a#%holes/douchebags do those things and that i will be turning them into that, i said im doing whats best for them... Yours guys thoughts?( this should be fun ).
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by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 10:33 AM
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tntmomof2
by Platinum Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 10:52 AM

I'd also like to add that if you want them to be good at sports don't turn away from ballet so easily. Ballet has given my son what he needs to be the best MMA fighter in his studio. 

elephantmamaof2
by Ruby Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 10:52 AM


Quoting ninjakids:

He had a hardtime in highschool with the guys who played sports etc aka the "jocky" type guys (he was a computer nerd, graduated with an i.t. trade ). I told him Id rather the boys be a "jocky" person and not bully someone ( they will be in big trouble if they do ) & stick up for the kids being bullied then be bullied themselves. He seems to think they cant be "jocky" & a nice person at the same time.


Quoting happinessforyou:

What is your S/O afraid of exactly? Kids that are too busy to get in trouble are wonderful! :) I say do it-and tell your kids to have fun!


Ahhh that's where it's coming from. Just remind him that his parents gave him the freedom to choose what he enjoyed, and you'd like to give your own children that opportunity as well. They're never going to know what they enjoy until they try it. For all he knows they can hate the sports and be just like him, but theyll never know until they try. Kwim?

ebbierowe
by Gold Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 10:52 AM

 that makes no sense...so what could your kids do that wouldn't make them assholes in your SO's eyes?

ninjakids
by Christina on Dec. 11, 2012 at 10:53 AM
So far ds has really shown interest in drums (mind you hes only three so just making noise keeps him happy haha ) & hockey. His step-grandfather ( we just call him papa ) was a boxer and they are always play punching, he cant start dance until 5 and he seems closed off with it if i tell him to dance with me he just giggles and stands there ( hes shy ) so im hoping it will break him out of his shell a little bit..and for exactly like you said to be a little charmer hahaa


Quoting tntmomof2:

My ds (11) is in dance, currently in boot camp training for his black belt, plays the sax, and has tried baseball, soccer, basketball, swimming, and gymnastics. 

Best thing I could have ever done for him. He's a ladies charmer, very sociable, intelligent (music is great for that), and can kick someone's ass if needed but has been taught in MMA how to control the situation first. 


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by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 10:54 AM

I think that all sounds reasonable. I don't know any assholes that do those things. All of the ones I know are aimless. I knew ONE that had done karate and thought he was hot shit but he was also from a very wealthy family. They may have had more to do with it.

ninjakids
by Christina on Dec. 11, 2012 at 10:55 AM
I think his issue is just that he was bullied by the kids in highschool who did those things (he was a computer nerd haha! ) he has said hes fine with those things as long as the boys stay nice


Quoting ebbierowe:

 that makes no sense...so what could your kids do that wouldn't make them assholes in your SO's eyes?


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tntmomof2
by Platinum Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 10:57 AM

Awww that's good. Nurture those things. He will turn out to be a well rounded child.  Why can't he start dance until 5? Is it all dance classes that have that age limit or just hip hop. Maybe start with tap. Ds started dancing in a ballet/tap combo class at 2 1/2. He now does ballet, tap, lyrical, contemporary, jazz, ballroom, hip hop, and breakdancing. 


Quoting ninjakids:

So far ds has really shown interest in drums (mind you hes only three so just making noise keeps him happy haha ) & hockey. His step-grandfather ( we just call him papa ) was a boxer and they are always play punching, he cant start dance until 5 and he seems closed off with it if i tell him to dance with me he just giggles and stands there ( hes shy ) so im hoping it will break him out of his shell a little bit..and for exactly like you said to be a little charmer hahaa


Quoting tntmomof2:

My ds (11) is in dance, currently in boot camp training for his black belt, plays the sax, and has tried baseball, soccer, basketball, swimming, and gymnastics. 

Best thing I could have ever done for him. He's a ladies charmer, very sociable, intelligent (music is great for that), and can kick someone's ass if needed but has been taught in MMA how to control the situation first. 













Act like a lady, think like a man,so you don't get played like a bitch 





ccnstanczak
by Gold Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:04 AM

 martial arts teach self discipline and respect as well. ive heard some dojos insist on their students to do well in school and listen to parents do well at home.

 

all the above things  you chose are great. im a huuuuuge supporter of extra curricular activities. sports, music and dance,  chess clubs... whatever!!

masonsmommy107
by Gold Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:06 AM
My son is getting and electric guitar for Christmas and lessons of course he wants to do karate but there is no were in my town that offers that :/ but if there was he'd be in it and dh is also getting an electric guitar and lessons because we've read if one of the parents shows intrest in a musical instrument the child is more likely to stick with it plus he wants to learn too
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Allissa
by Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:10 AM
I think you should encourage him to try anything and everything he's interested in at least once. I have my daughter in Girl Scouts. She gets so excited when it's time to go to a meeting! She also played T-ball once 3 years ago. She didn't care too much for it. At least she went in and tried her best. Tried putting my son in T- ball this past summer. It didn't work out that well. Recently, I inherited my Grandpa's guitar and my DD is showing an interest in it. Ofcoarse I'll let her try!
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