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Does it bother you when people post photos of your kids without asking?

Posted by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:06 AM
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Posting Photos of People's Kids on Facebook Without Asking Is Rude

Posted by Nicole Fabian-Weber on December 11, 2012

cute kidQuestion: Does it bother you when people post photos of your kids on Facebook -- without asking? You know the drill. You're sitting there, minding your business, you log on to Facebook, and you see that little red notification flag at the top left hand corner of your screen. "Oh great," you think. "Someone tagged a super-unflattering photo of me." But then you realize it's a pic of your kid. Do you get kind of pissed?

Personally, I'm not a huge fan of this scenario. I'm a big believer in asking someone if you can put their photo online, and, to me, people's kids fall under the blanket of "you." I know, I know. No one is posting a photo of your child online to be a jerk -- they're doing it to be sweet, actually. But, I don't know, there's just something a little weird-feeling about logging into a massive social network and seeing that a photo of your child has been posted sans a heads-up.

But the thing is -- I didn't realize this was a potential social media faux pas until I had a kid of my own.

I'm not the world's most active Facebook user, but every once in a while, I'll post a few photos from a holiday or a barbecue to Facebook. And if there happened to be a particularly cute photo of a little one who was in attendance, I'd include the photo into the group, not thinking this would maybe be annoying to the parents. I wasn't trying to be a jerk, I just didn't realize. My bad. Sorry, parents.

Look -- is seeing a photo of your baby on Facebook the end of the world? No. Of course it isn't. But I do think it's worth an ask before adding a pic of someone's kid. It may be silly to you, but, in my opinion, it's the polite thing to do.

Does it bother you when people post photos of your kids without asking?

by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:06 AM
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SnoWhitey
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:14 AM
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Sometimes it does. It depends on who and what the pic looks like. My Mother in Law in particular puts up pictures like my boy in the bathtub and that's not ok with me. She has friends that I don't and you never know who is seeing them. I'm on Facebook, but my profile is private. If its just a cute/appropriate pic and its not someone with 1,000 friends then its usually fine with me.

annas_momma
by Platinum Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:18 AM
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Not at all. I know the people posting the pics and I see them snap the pic. We are all one giant family, even though we are not blood. I also post pics of their kids when I take them.
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LDavis33
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:19 AM
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It's a simple matter of respect.  While neither my husband nor I have facebook accounts, many of our family and friends do.  We have asked them not to post pictures of us or our children on-line and, out of respect, they don't.  


mstricey
by Gold Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:20 AM
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Depends on who it is.
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Aleta775
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:22 AM
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No. The only people that post pictures of me and my family on facebook are close family and old friends.

edelweiss23
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:22 AM
Only if the page is public.
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redvelvet42
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:23 AM
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yes, its like i'm being violated. people don't consider that there maybe some familial reason why you don't want pictues of your chiidlren on facebook or other social media. i think its a simple courtesy to ask permission first and allow the parents to preview the picture first. what will it hurt to be polite to your friend or family member?

RunningMommaof2
by Kelly on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:23 AM

It depends, but most of the time yes it does bother me. 

Beauty91805
by Platinum Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:24 AM
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Yes it does bother me but only because they don't put them private and all of their friends can see them. I recently had to tell 2 people to set them as" family only".
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:25 AM
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My MIL used to do it all of the time, and her facebook is not even set to private. So now she has been told that she is not welcome to post pictures of them at all for any reason. Next step if she doesn't stop is she will no longer be welcome to take pictures of them at all.

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