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I think I'm going to vomit :( TALKED TO HIM!!

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Never said I was staying! I was so shocked and speechless I just hung up the phone. I'm numb right now. I don't feel Anger or sadness or anything. ...


Update: so I talked to him finally and we shot the breeze for a few and I was like oh. Remember the other day I offered to clean up your email and you said you'd appreciate that.. Well, did you forget to cancel your match subscription? He said no, he got it this morning. He said he wasn't sure if we would work out and if we didn't than he was trying to find someone who took care of him better. But we're still together, he hasn't cheated and he still loves me and he still wants to be with me. I was so shocked and numb that I was actually speechless. Who does that???

















I was helping my df go through his emails one day a week or so ago trying to find a confirmation number for something and told him I was gonna clean up his inbox for him. (He has over 4000 unread messages) I asked if he would get upset and he said no he's actually really appreciate it.











So I pulled it up today thinking I would get rid of some obvious junk mail and clean it up some and he had an email from match. ( we met on match so it didn't really surprise me). He had a bunch of dating websites but the emails were never opened so I figured it was just stuff that keeps getting sent out. This one though in the subject line said his profile was approved and dated early this morning.











I had a sinking feeling so I checked his online banking and sure enough he reactivated his account this morning. :(











I think I'm going to be sick.
Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 11, 2012 at 2:15 PM
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AlliceNWnderLnd
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 2:51 PM

Join detective wives group they will help you figure out what's really going on

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 11, 2012 at 2:52 PM
We had strain from my family and actually left the state and went to his brothers. Our relationship has been great.. Just outside shit affecting us. I was actually at the point I was ready to just stay there and start over but he knew I was conflicted and had issues with his family in the past so he encouraged me to come home and take care of it. It's a long story. But he had assured me that no matter what we would work. (He has stuff he has to handle there for work and a few personal things as well so he said after a week if things were better and he go his stuff handled he would be back.. If it didn't get better we would just go from there...)

I called and he didn't answer but it was that ring you get when someone is on the other line. So I sent a text and am waiting.

Quoting Anonymous:

Were you already having problems with him/ with the relationship?

I'm sorry you're going through that. :(

MrsErdos2011
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 2:52 PM

Talk to him CALMLY. It may have been a mistake, hackers can get info like that fairly easily and believe it or not some banks do sell account info.

proudmommy690
by Ruby Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 2:52 PM
Wow :( im so sorry. Thats messed up seriously
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WritingSpider
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 2:54 PM


Quoting Anonymous:

I want to be Sunshine Suzie as well.


Quoting WritingSpider:

On a glimmer of hope, if he had an account before and someone was able to get his password it could be hacking. Internet stuff is unpredictable. And it's odd to think that he would say sure go ahead and look through my email when he knows he reactivated something . . . you always get confirmations for purchases, though I'm not familiar with dating sites at all. I have never bought anything and not gotten an email confirmation.


He could have logged on to view your old messages and not knew it would charge him?


Maybe I'm just Susan Sunshine . . . but I would say talk to him before you call off the wedding.


 


 

I have had my credit card charged for stuff I never did. I have even had my new card charged without remembering adding it to my account. Though I have never done any kind of dating site stuff at all, I am happily married, if you were on MATCH before, there are a bevy of things that could have happened even though they are rare. I had someone steal my info many times and I have been charged for things in other states when me and my whole family were at home.

If you have closed an account somewhere in general, like say Facebook or Snapfish, you can't see your old information without reactivating your account. Could be he's bringing up the old info if it's one of your old sites as the wedding nears and maybe he's doing something with your conversations with each other.

If he didn't say you could go through the email then I would say more red flags but I really don't think anyone would be that silly. Just take a deep breath. You just never know what kind of crazy thing could have happened. I honestly would talk to him about it. Maybe note if he's got cold feet, you just want to know what happened on the site and you'd like to see his profile. But I would first go with the maybe something weird happened and speak to him. He seems pretty open to let you go through his email. This is our policy. We have each others password to everything. We don't go through each others stuff much unless we need to find something like a bill but that way if we ever do feel scared we have total freedom to do so.

 


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Dec. 11, 2012 at 2:54 PM
I think I may love you.. Lol

When I get a hold of him I'm just going to be like so.. I was trying to straighten up your email like we talked about and hey, did you forget to cancel your match subscription??

:/

Quoting tlcory:

But it could automatically go through the bank, I.e. I gave my debit/credit card info to Ancestory even though I received a new debit card they still had the bank information that just deducted it from my account so it doesn't matter if he has a new card is the checking account number still the same?  Just hoping I can help find a reasonable explanation here! 


Quoting Anonymous:

He's been having issues with his bank and got all off his cards clipped, cancelled and new ones issued. I checked when I saw your response and the card he used was just activated on the 8th. :(



Quoting tlcory:

Are you sure it just didn't automatically renew? I know on Ancestory.com it does that and it automatically took the money out of my account. Maybe he just didn't realize he had to cancel it? 


WritingSpider
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 2:56 PM

 

Quoting tlcory:

But it could automatically go through the bank, I.e. I gave my debit/credit card info to Ancestory even though I received a new debit card they still had the bank information that just deducted it from my account so it doesn't matter if he has a new card is the checking account number still the same?  Just hoping I can help find a reasonable explanation here! 

Quoting Anonymous:

He's been having issues with his bank and got all off his cards clipped, cancelled and new ones issued. I checked when I saw your response and the card he used was just activated on the 8th. :(

Quoting tlcory:

Are you sure it just didn't automatically renew? I know on Ancestory.com it does that and it automatically took the money out of my account. Maybe he just didn't realize he had to cancel it? 

 

That makes a lot of sense. This mom could be on to something.


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Dec. 11, 2012 at 2:57 PM

 I guess you are not 'the one' Sorry.

SnapIt
by Ruby Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 2:57 PM
First off i dont understand why wives feel the need to clean up hubby's emails for him
Its his acct and if hes not doing it he really doesnt care
To me i take it so wifey can check up on things

But
Ball is in your court
He will probably deny it since they always do even with proof in the face
I wouldnt trust him from this point on
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LoveMyLos
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 2:58 PM
Call and cancel the subscription.
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