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I guess he's finally tired of doing without....

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Dh got paid today, $692 for 60 hours of work. We had to pay:
$96 car payment
$145 electricity
$183 cell phone
$140 pawn shop (get something out)
Fill up both cars.
Misc groceries (oil, butter, milk, pb, bread, etc.)
Diapers

He called and asked me if he could get the tv box (converter box) out of the pawn shop, that's $30. I said it would really be cutting it close because with bills alone we only had like $90 left (give or take). He said ok.
Then he texted me and said "I'm so sick of this shit"... Because we're always broke. I said "I know love, me too".
Then 5 minutes later he calls me and says "we're cutting it close because of my ciggs, huh?" I said yea. He said "I'm quitting. You sit at the house with nothing to eat (I only eat dinner because we just don't have any food for me) and I smoke and get sodas. They have water at work, I'll drink that shit! I'm done, I'm quitting ciggs! I don't care what I do or say, don't let me have any!"
I said ok.

I'm praying like hell that he sticks to this! I hate that he smokes and his ciggs always come before our needs.
Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:20 PM
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indymom72
by Silver Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:28 PM
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I'm going to sound like a bitch here...but there is no way in hell that I would keep a man that would put his smoking ahead of feeding his family.  That's fucking pathetic and he should be ashamed.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:28 PM
My dh says he will cut down in stupid stuff to, but never happens nice he gets money in his pocket again. It's irritating as hell. Good luck mama. I hope he quits.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:29 PM
You encourage that in every post I write about this subject.


Quoting Anonymous:

Good luck to him! But, I will offer a suggestion if he really can't quit. My DH and I roll our own cigarettes. We buy a bag of tobacco ($7) and a box of tubes ($4) and that lasts the two of us 2 weeks. A simple roller costs about $10, a fancy one costs $35. Also, the tobacco is all natural, no additives so it is safer than commercial cigarettes bought in a pack. Not that I condone anyone smoking, wish I could kick the habit and am working on it, but it's a very cheap alternative to $6 a pack. If it were just him it'd probably last him a month, for $11 or so.


Pink.Frosting
by Platinum Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:30 PM

I really hope this works out for you both.  

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:30 PM
I didn't even know he knew I was going without.


Quoting indymom72:

I'm going to sound like a bitch here...but there is no way in hell that I would keep a man that would put his smoking ahead of feeding his family.  That's fucking pathetic and he should be ashamed.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:31 PM
Good luck. They have to want to. Dh quit chewing tobacco last year but was still chewing nicotine gum until a month ago. He is finally done. He's unhappy about the side effect of weight gain but he chewed for 27 years. It's a shock to his body. Just be prepared for the mood swings. He picks a fight, don't take it personal. It's the withdrawal.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:32 PM

Why do you have cell phones if you can't even afford food?

indymom72
by Silver Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:33 PM

well he did....and still did it...I'm sorry, you deserve better, in my opinion.

Quoting Anonymous:

I didn't even know he knew I was going without.


Quoting indymom72:

I'm going to sound like a bitch here...but there is no way in hell that I would keep a man that would put his smoking ahead of feeding his family.  That's fucking pathetic and he should be ashamed.



Nicoleb9
by Emerald Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:33 PM
He had to know the amount of food being bought and the amount being eaten.

But now that you know for sure that he's known this, doesn't that make you feel kind of unimportant to him? I'd be crushed if my DH did that to me.


Quoting Anonymous:

I didn't even know he knew I was going without.




Quoting indymom72:

I'm going to sound like a bitch here...but there is no way in hell that I would keep a man that would put his smoking ahead of feeding his family.  That's fucking pathetic and he should be ashamed.



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Sagely
by Silver Member on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:34 PM

I hope he does it!  Look into support groups and such around your area to help ensure his success.


What a wonderful Christmas present!!

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