Moving, SO is mad, please give honest advice. **UPDATE**
So here are the details
I am staying with family but come january I am ready to move on to my own
I told my boyfriend my two options and which one I have decided on
option #1: a place that is 30min from school, 30min from boyfriend, 1hr from work, 20min from sons father
Option #2: a place that is 1.5hrs from school minimum, 1.5hrs from bf minimum, 1hr from sons dad minimum, 20min from work
I told him that I am going with option #1 because I can be closer to him and still have a life and not be on the road all of the time
He got mad at me
said "you are going to move closer to your sons dad, surprising!"
Now I am like, I would move closer to him but it's a huge difference in affordability, I would have to live in the ghetto to even be able to afford living there, you have to be practically rich to live that close to san francisco and feel safe. So I am choosing the suburbs on the outskirts, yes it's a bit of a drive, but it's not like I have many options here.
Plus on days that I have school I could stay with my boyfiriend because my sons dad can take my son easier. I just don't know
I am trying to get him to understand
he has major trust issues, he has been cheated on way too much, in awful ways so I understand maybe he is having a hard time trusting me, but I am just trying to put my life together, that is all. Seriuosly.
This is what I wrote to him because he is kind of ignoring me right now, he is pretty mad because I think he realizes there is nothing he can do::::
I'm sorry that you don't trust me to move closer to my sons dad. It is really just because it's more affordable and his dad will be able to switch with me more often so that I can go to work, and school, and see you and still be a present mom. I am open to talking to you about other options that would set better with you because I love and care about you. But I have to put my relationship with my son first. I am a much happier person when I can see my son daily, and I'm just going to keep being super needy of you, if I don't feel that gap that is there from not being with my son as much as I need to.
I just want you to know, when I do move, you can have a key, know the alarm code, come by anytime, etc. I am looking to rent a house so I will actually love company at that point. Just think about it love. I am just trying to be a good mom, something I hope you can appreciate.
We can go get some drinks If you want later to discuss this. I don't want to hurt you that is why I want to make sure you are right there every step of the way.